The mirror of relationships
The relationship is the mirror where we see ourselves, as we are. (Krishnamurti)
Love is not thought, it is not desire or pleasure, love is not an interaction of images. As long as we have an image of the other, there is no love. (Krishnamurti)
In 1985, Krishnamurti said:
"Just as one looks in the mirror at his face, observes his reactions without any distortion" and this can only be done in relation to another. The relationship is then the mirror in which we can see ourselves as we are, if we look in the mirror of the relationship
Life is a movement of relationship. Two people who live together may be in bed, but they will lead lives with different interests. They are like two parallel lines that never intersect. And to this, in which there is no true feeling of love, we call it relationship.
How is it that human beings with their extraordinary abilities and their energy, with the intelligence they have shown on the technological level, have failed to solve this issue, this very essential problem ?
One can already meditate, devote his life to the search for enlightenment, follow the last guru or last manifestation of what one wants to follow, if one has not resolved This problem, none of your spiritual achievements, or technological findings, will do you any good.
Because our life is related and as long as we do not solve this basic question of reality, which currently isolates us from each other, that isolation will inevitably engender all kinds of misery, confusion. n, hate and anger.
We must ask ourselves, therefore, if it is possible to establish a relationship in which there is not even the slightest shadow of conflict.
Krishnamurti Foundation Trust, 1974
Knowing oneself [10/02/2009]
E: Sir, how can we know ourselves?
K: It's a good question. Listen carefully. How do you know what it looks like? Do you understand my question? You look in the mirror for the first time, and after a few days, or a few weeks, you look again and say: `` That is me again. '' Okay? Thus, by looking in the mirror every day, you begin to know your face and say: `` That is me. ''
Well, can you, likewise, know what you are by observing yourself? You can observe his gestures, the way he walks, how he speaks, how he behaves; If it's hard, cruel, rude, patient? Then it begins to meet. You know yourself by looking in the mirror of what you do, what you think, what you feel. That is the mirror: feeling, doing, thinking; and in that mirror, you begin to observe yourself. Now, if the mirror says: "This is the fact" but you do not like the fact and want to modify it, you will begin to deform the fact and you will not see it as it is.
As I said the other day, one learns when there is attention and silence. Learning takes place when you are silent and give your full attention. In that state he begins to learn.
Now remain silent, not because I ask you to, but because that is the way to learn. Be silent and completely calm, not only in the physical aspect, not only in your body, but also in your mind; remain very silent, and then, in that silence, attend.
Pay attention to the sounds outside this building: the rooster's song, the birds, someone who coughs, someone who says goodbye; Listen first to the things that are outside of you, and then listen to what is going on inside your mind. And in that silence you will see, if you listen very carefully, that the external sound and the internal sound are the same thing.
© Krishnamurti Foundation Trust, 1974
Thanks Encarnita !!
