One of the most common questions in the query is: "Am I going to find someone? Am I going to fall in love?"
What are we really asking when we ask such a question? 1.-We want to know if we are going to fall in love? 2. -If we are going to find a partner? 3.- or if the magic will return to our lives?
Although these three questions seem the same question, of course they are not. Perhaps 1 and 3 are more similar, in their unconscious content, but 2 has nothing to do with the other two.
The process of falling in love, unfortunately has nothing to do with "finding a partner." Sometimes, very few, it serves as a prelude for a couple or takes the couple, but definitely, not always . It is a separate process that does have a lot to do with Venus-Neptune.
On the other hand, “the couple”, the stable long-term relationship, the one with which we pay the mortgage and the electricity and gas bills, with whom we have children, has much more to do with Venus-Saturn.
No. 1 does not require any work, it simply "happens" to us, as if we had taken a magic potion, instead No. 2, it requires time, patience, much love, acceptance and hard work, a conscious decision to embark on that path.
The first, "falling in love", takes us away from reality, the second, the couple, brings us to reality. In order to fall in love we must have at least 1 eye closed, for the couple, we need both wide open.
As for No. 3, the recovery of magic in our lives, has more to do with a religious experience, the encounter with some inner God, and the projection of it on some person, of whom we fall in love. Therefore, both No. 1 and No. 3 are related.
We all know couples who have not started by falling in love, perhaps through a friendship, which then by compatibility of characters becomes something else; arranged marriages (as do Hindus); etc. Many of these types of couples work perfectly and never went through the process of falling in love . On the contrary, we all know people who live in love with love and never form a partner.
Therefore these are two very different processes and we should learn to differentiate them before asking: "Am I going to find someone?" The question would be: "someone for what?
Romantic love comes when we least expect it, often in transits from Neptune to Venus or also from Uranus to Venus, or Pluto to Venus . The three transits have different characteristics, but all three can cause a crush.
When Neptune is intertwined with Venus by transit, we can find our soulmate, that being, with whom we do not even need to talk, because we feel exactly the same. With him or with her, we will go to Neptune through Venus: “love” dreamed, often with someone unattainable, several times without sex, platonic loves, it is as if the connection is such that all physical contact could even screw it up. This is the true love we once called "making the court." Romeo and Juliet, Tristan and Isolde . The crush can be of an actor or movie actress, the class teacher, the friend's daughter, the choreographer, the artist, the drunk who needs to be saved, the drug addict asking for help, the musician. This type of love brings with it a kind of sacrifice and suffering that connects us with our need to lose ourselves in the pain of the other. The only contact with the loved one, makes us forget who we are, our reality, nothing more seems to matter than that trance in which we enter before the pure presence of the other. The pain of the other is ours. His wounded soul, ours to heal. This is one of the strongest emotional drunks from which it is hard for us to wake up. Rarely do things speak clearly, everything seems to occur on a separate level of consciousness. And we say: "I don't need you to tell me anything, because I know how you feel, I see it in your eyes, in your sighs"
This type of love makes us forget our morality, our most vital values, the only thing that matters is that magical connection that the other, which leads us to feel in touch with our divine part. In this type of infatuation we rarely see the person we have in front of us, but to a projection of our soul. We rarely see the man or woman in all of his humanity, whom we believe to be in love with. She is the feminine ideal of man and he is the masculine ideal of woman . This is the crush with whom we will learn to fall in love with ourselves. This is the artist (often) who seems to sacrifice everything for his passion, helping us find a similar passion within us.
Although this last part is common to all crushes, something different happens with Uranus. When through "love" we move to Uranus, we find everything we would like to be and for some reason (usually our cultural or / and family conditioning) we cannot. We meet the rebel, the eccentric, the one who passes by the rules and laws, the one who is encouraged to do or say those things that we could never do or say, no matter how much we wish. Uranus teaches us to be independent, because the person we fall in love with is interesting, adventurous, magical, but does not want to commit, whether he is married, travels a lot, is "gay", is very dedicated to what he does and that It takes you most of the time, or you simply are not interested in doing what others do, because it is different . Uranus is challenging, authentic, daring and above all things, quite rare, we cannot understand it very well . He always leaves, even when we need him most. Respect our space and freedom perhaps too much and never ask us where we have been or with whom. It just seems that they are not very interested. And if we claim that he never tells us that he loves us, they simply answer: "Well, if I didn't love you, we would be here." It is with this crush that we will learn to be really independent and understand that love does not have to be on 24-7. That is 7 days a week, 24 hours a day.
This last sentence applies to falling in love under the influence of Pluto. This one does need to be connected 24-7. By moving to the world of Hades through falling in love, we reactivate the myth of Persefone (us) and that of Orpheus (them).
Women become Persefone or Innana, we find our inner Medusa and men become Orpheus, Beast, (of Beauty and the Beast), in Hades himself . This is a trip and a crush completely different from the previous two, where the lesson is that we do what we do, feel what we feel, we can not make someone fall in love with us, much less stay. Learn to separate, that everything has an end, that everything that does not transform dies, all of them are Plutonian lessons . The sexual part, in this type of infatuation is completely magical and carnal, not as with Neptune, and also vital in the relationship. This is the typical love of EL James's novel "50 Shades of Gray." Magic? it can be at the beginning, but when we begin to descend into the Underworld, magic becomes an emotional nightmare, when the other does not seem to do what we want him to do. Jealousy, revenge, emotional manipulation, the fight to the death, are ingredients of this type of crush, which takes us to the depths of our being and learn to lose. Like it or not.
In love under Saturn, we are clear from the beginning, at least, that the other is not a single being, a soul that got in our way, only for our benefit or misfortune, but has a family, parents, grandparents, a cultural and family conditioning, with which we will have to confront if we want to live with him / her. If we want to live together, we must share rent or mortgage, have children and send them to school, babysitters, grandparents and parents to help us. They also take into consideration the social status of each one, what everyone is used to, what they eat, what car they drive, smoke, don't smoke, they are vegetarians, they are happy in their work, they have work, etc. None of these points seems to matter in the first three crushes.
So when you come to an astrological consultation and want to know if you are going to find someone, think first, which of these options is the one you are looking for?
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