We call `` recurring trends '' to all those personal tendencies that are detrimental to our identity and happen repeatedly. In saying identity, we refer to our authentic nature, the one with which we feel identified and does not imply any conflict with our emotions, ideals, opinions In this case, it would try to go related to our authentic deep reality, so that we realize ourselves at every step from our most genuine identity, reaffirming ourselves in our purest nature, in the Truth of Who We Are.
However, it is common that throughout our lives things happen to us that, although they may go unnoticed at the time, represent the stimulus of situations or behaviors that, from this moment, we will drag all our life, asking ourselves: why me, every time it always happens to me as a consequence? (and that makes me suffer).
Are you one of those people who, whenever they trust a person, betrays them? Does it happen to you that every time you have a new partner, he treats you in a way that makes you suffer, for example, deceives you or belittles you? Are you terrified of speaking in public?
This healing system tries to release the negative “that” that seems to always happen to us in a situation or concrete action, to which we seem to be doomed and hurts us.
The person to whom "it" happens is not You. "That" that seems to be part of you, or your luck, is something that emerged at any given time so that you could survive in a certain environment or situation.
Your genuine nature does not incorporate this tendency, but at some point something happened that caused a specific attitude to be part of something you thought you belonged to be necessary. The people involved with this environment damaged you, so that you, to remain part of "that" adopted a concrete attitude through which you already managed to feel that you had room.
These tendencies have usually been created as children, which is why the most frequent thing is to find the starting point in the figures of the parents, although it is also possible to find it in people who appear later. The younger the person who adopts a recurring tendency, the smaller the age is and, therefore, the more work it costs to get it out. In these cases it is possible to have to do several exercises of liberation of the tendency, since when we are investigating in our emotional memory, we usually find not only the point of origin, but also situations that, throughout our life, have gone consolidating this trend in different situations. In any case, it is good to know that, after each exercise, the tendency is weakened, until finally getting completely free. That is, every time you work on it, you will achieve irreversible results.
Some examples of "Recurring Trends":
- A father always humiliated his daughter, so she, given that she felt that the emotional place she belonged to was "being her daughter", learned to show herself inferior to what she really was. She humiliated herself to be accepted. Finally, she attracted couples who allowed her to continue with her role as victim, that is, violent people who belittled her.
- A child felt inferior to his brother, because he was smarter, so the first one adopted the attitude of lying to become interesting, with which no one ever believed him. Finally, he adopted a liar pose, and attracted more intelligent people who discovered his lies, thus establishing in his identity the tendency of a liar, and experiences always showed him that he was inferior to others.
- They told him as a teenager, at home, that he would never find a partner, because he was very fat, so every time he met someone he liked, he tended to eat indiscriminately due to the anxiety of giving that image again, which made him fat, and managed to reproduce in each attempt the reality that had entered his identity.
- His mother overwhelmed him by talking when she wanted to say something, and when the girl managed to express herself, she always interrupted her and made fun of what she had said, even with other people in front. Finally, this girl developed stuttering and scenic panic.
- A child with a lot of creativity grew up with a father figure that constantly blocked his creative impulses. The inner urge of this child was to hit him, but he knew he couldn't. Finally, it generated a tendency to nervous tics.
- When she was a child and was disgusted, her mother, far from comforting, supporting and relieving him, threatened him if she cried, and if she couldn't stop, she hit him. When he felt joy, he showed an uncontrollable anger and prevented him from carrying out those projects that caused his happiness. Finally, he found a selfish and empathetic man, next to whom he would have to repress his internal emotional experiences, instead of giving himself the pleasure of sharing them, because he punished them emotionally.
We will work with the liberation of "that which is not you", and yet "act through you."
Recurring Trends Release Exercise:
Look for a comfortable posture. You can lie down. Breathe deeply several times, while entering with your mind and your emotions in the identity with which you want to work. And remember "that" tendency of "you" that arises recurrently and you want to eliminate.
The steps for this exercise are:
- Identify that recurring situation that does not allow us to move forward
- Re-know (realize) that it was created by ourselves, to cover a need. At that moment of creation we needed it to “survive” (in a specific environment, before a concrete illusion, as protection from a psychological threat…).
- Remove it from who "I am", unwind it from us and plant it before our conscience.
- Rummage at the starting point (when it was essential to survive), and work thoroughly with all the memories at the level of feelings, fears, need for support, ... that made us create that “identity” of ourselves, in order of coupling it to a puzzle in which we, as we were genuinely, had no place.
- Travel from the moment that identity was necessary throughout the journey in which we were accompanying, in our life, imposing its presence, depriving us of so many possibilities of living in harmony with who “yes” we are although we were obstructed by it .
- Recognize this identity that ..
or we create it ourselves
o At the time of its creation it fulfilled an essential function for us.
o We don't need it anymore. Now this energy that composes it can return to the whole, to its origin. He has already accomplished his mission. We are grateful, but we have to say goodbye to her.
o Raise it to our Higher Self and feel how it is no longer part of us (it is normal to feel a kind of feeling of helplessness, of longing - now we have been a little alone).
o Feel "who is" freed from this identity.
I know who you are!
Graciela Bárbulo
www.gracielabarbulo.com
