Let's start by establishing a definition of love disorders: it is a clinical entity identified in the human species since millennia, which can affect any person of love age. Its innumerable consequences are manifested through a set of different and varied clinical signs, which can affect the following three spheres:
Medical : with both organic and functional manifestations.
Psychological : with behavioral disorders, repetitive compulsion, existential questioning, more or less compensated depression.
Psychiatric : being able to take the individual towards a deep imbalance and an inversion of the vital forces.
When there are problems of relationship, couple, sexuality or understanding we can face a loving disorder. The origin of a love disorder can be before or after birth. Before birth, we refer to the Transgenerational and the Sense Project and after birth we are faced with Freudian Psychology.
When the origin comes before birth it means that there is a program, a familiar message of impossible or difficult love, it is something that does not belong to us.
We do not voluntarily get into difficult love stories for mere fantasy or pure pleasure. We would really like to prevent this kind of self-sabotage from settling behind us. But how to do it?… Going to meet our own history to unravel the unconscious character of our impediments to find love, give it life or simply build it.
What are we going to investigate if there is a love disorder?
Small childhood from 0 to 7 years (psychology), Project Sense, Transgenerational, and also our biology, since above our biological program we have our psychological program. Our childhood will condition our entire psychology. The human relationships that I establish at 50 are closely related to the relationships I had in my early childhood in my family environment. Freud paid attention to this aspect.
During childhood we project ourselves on our father, our mother, our brother ... and we will be looking for them all our lives. Sometimes we find them at the first or we will constantly look for them.
The most important thing is to detect who we identify with when we were little so that today's relationships allow me to take distance when a problem appears, since our partner reconnects us with that character.
In 50% of cases the daughter goes to look for her father
In 50% of cases, he is the little one looking for his mother
But there are other cases, the Oedipus or Electra reversed ... a child who is looking for his father or girl who is looking for his mother, a search for grandparents, (many times this is detected in relationships where there is a lot of age difference).
Another of the most frequent manifestations of love disorders are the so-called symbolic incests. We talk about symbolic incest when we are double by date of our partner (which makes us symbolic twins). For in the unconscious it is as if relations were maintained within the same family. This conflict may or may not be active. And in cases where it is very active there are problems of sexual relations, which can manifest in sciatica, problems of erection, candid, herpes etc. The fact that after having children you no longer feel like having sex, it may be because you live a symbolic incest, and that is installed gradually for several years.
Let's see now some case studies
CASE 1 (Electra complex)
Woman with genital herpes: reduces the frequency of sexual intercourse. This is a case of symbolic incest with the first husband and explains the fact that he did not feel like making love with the first husband. But in the second marriage it is more subtle, since it develops a herpes that prevents it from having sex.
The story is a very strong Electra with his father. When she was 13, she was not happy with her father's relationship and decided not to talk to him for a year, just with papers ... it's love and hate. When working the relationship with his father and discharged the conflicting energy, he was increasingly relaxed and cured of herpes.
CASE 2 (Project / Meaning)
Woman whom her husband cheats while pregnant.
The son will carry this message "Making love is deceiving", so I do not make love or have partners. Contradictory message that comes from the Project / Sense.
CASE 3 (Transgenerational)
Young woman who never feels pleasure. When looking in the family tree, it is discovered that his great grandmother was raped when he was young and died when she gave birth. Message that is established in the consultant: "Making love is dangerous, you can die."
By way of conclusion, if we are blocked in our early childhood, if we are in search of our father or mother, or sister means that we are still children, it means that we are not adults, it means that the relationships of couples in some way They will still be children. We will put more awareness in our lives and become adults, since it is the adult who makes decisions in full awareness.
Author: Salomon Sellam
Source: http://sanacionholisticasalamanca.wordpress.com
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Loving Disorders by Salomon Sellam
