Anorexia is how many know an eating disorder, that is true although in reality it is much more than just that. When we see or know of abnormal people, we think they are girls or boys who do not want to eat and a great discovery of this century is that they really do want and need to eat only that they are not allowed to do so.
we tag them and hurt them
The destructive thing here, as in many addictions, is the label we put on those who suffer from it, if we think about it, we don't do them any good and in a conscious and unconscious way we limit and hurt them.
Anorexia is much more than stop eating, deep down there are important emotional causes that to cope with them are reflected in the deprivation of food, it is not something they enjoy is the opposite is a call for help.
The difficulty in these times is our tendency to think that most conflicts are the result of shallow causes and we confuse the cause of the condition with a small manifestation of the disease.
It is a cyclical process….
The anorexics enter a cyclic process from which they cannot escape, for example, they eat something and feel guilty, they feel hungry, then they eat and feel guilty and so on and on ... until in less fortunate cases they find it the only one solution letting yourself die of starvation.
It is thought that anorexics aim to be thin only to fit into a fashion, lifestyle, social group or personality, this is a wrong point of view, when the condition is in its chronic phase of what they are least aware of is of his figure, fashion or weight ... it is a huge suffering that has not been properly channeled in fact they lose track of the dimensions of their body.
It is incredible to observe that anorexics isolate or isolate them and what they need most is our attention, a hug, a sweet look, empathy and kind love. This is a great help and relief, because deep down they are people who have suffered lack of attention and understanding. It is not that they want to die, it is that they do not find how to live ... and although it seems easy the reality is that many of us believe that we know how to live and the truth is that we only have greater tolerance for indifference and frustration.
guilt is always present ..
It is helpful at one time to imagine that we do not eat one day and in the other we only eat a little, the next day we do not eat anything ... so we stay for weeks or months ... the body weakens, depression increases and we cannot resolve it physically or mentally. It is not easy even if it seems simple, the fault for eating or not eating is always present.
Normally we feel distant from this type of problem, when it is really a condition that also has a social character, some are or were children who were required or demanded a lot without giving them the right to reply, they are not It allows you to freely choose your thoughts and it is proven that the majority of these people live surrounded by quite demanding people who find the anorexic as a repository of their need for power and control, who, in most cases not wanting to meet those expectations ... He silently rebels ... he gets sick ...
Thus, when we see a person with this condition or any other addiction, we must make a great call to our empathy, seeing with the heart, not with pity but with love and compassion ... they are people who internally suffer and who only with the Help from expert doctors can get to the bottom of your problem that is far from being only physical and if too emotional, love is something that can cure even the most difficult ... although in these times there are more followers of selfishness, let's not forget that we are people by nature full of love and that there are many around us that need it… it's free and only requires in the simplest way an honest smile full of understanding.
To UTOR: Pilar Vázquez, collaborator of the great family of the White Brotherhood
