At this moment I am in the waiting room of an airport, listening fascinated to a man in his forties who is sitting next to me, talking on the phone with his daughter. From the way he addresses her, I deduce that she is a girl. I imagine how happy, safe and loved she should feel, as well as all the children of parents who are able to express their love and tenderness, and to support them emotionally, just as I hear this father is doing: he tells her little daughter who does not worry (I don't know what), that he will arrive soon and will embrace her and they will see how they solve it; then he says goodbye expressing all kinds of tender words, and with a sweet and convincing tone of voice that leaves no room for doubt, tells him that he loves her.
This section is aimed especially at parents; So I apologize to women who do me the honor of reading this book.
Today I am addressing you, sirs, moved by the deep desire to make you see how much a father influences the lives of his children. Therefore, with all my being I want to tell you: please adore your children!
Express your love with words, with hugs and kisses. Don't assume that they know they love you; They need to hear and feel it.
When your children make a mistake, encourage them and show them the right way, instead of rejecting them or making them feel ashamed, guilty and bad.
When you give them money for tuition, tennis, food, movies, do it with pleasure, instead of pouting them and giving that money with claims and complaints; as parents, it is up to them to fulfill the sacred commitment to support them and meet their needs.
When you give them advice, tell them about the experiences of your life that led them to learn those lessons.
Allow them to get dirty with the mud of life, learning, rising, facing and solving for themselves, so that they become responsible, mature and strong people.
§ Tell them about your dreams, your projects, your doubts and certainties and your deep reflections on life.
§ Fulfill all that they promise, so that they can learn to trust and believe.
§ Tell them NO firmly when they have to, even if they get angry and cry, because they will develop the ability to adapt to all life situations, and the inner strength to emotionally survive the difficult stages.
§ Love them unconditionally, and when you rebuke them for something, let them know that they disapprove of that behavior, but still love them.
§ Thank them for all the blessings they have brought to their lives.
§ Accept them as they are, because what a child needs most is to like his parents and to know that he is accepted, loved and approved by them.
And so, gentlemen, you can breathe deeply, with the peace that the "mission accomplished" gives. Because they can be sure that they will have made their children good, productive, healthy and happy people.
AUTHOR: Martha Alicia Chavez
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