It seems that they take the world ahead, they have answers that exceed their age; They solve and decide, they tell you what they want, they even demand it with arguments that you cannot believe they have elaborated because of their short experience . They find it hard to hear a voice of authority, give in, wait. They want to dress differently and do bigger things.
As a parent, professional, teacher or teacher you are surprised by these qualities, even, some are proud of them "how mature it is!" "Where do I get such an answer ?, it seems of another age."
What do we have left if a two, five or nine year old child behaves with a teenager? What will happen when you are really going through crises or situations of your real age?
If as an adult you feel that you cannot with a small child, what will happen over time?
What can you expect that little boy who needs to feel so much for you, when he is really big and has not been able to build trust in the care of adults? Should we take pride in this?
Are we really facing mature and strong children?
Just as when a meal that is exposed to high temperature in a short time is only cooked on the outside; thus the cultural acceleration, the rhythm of current life, the excess of technology within the reach of the children, the unclear limits, the doubtful answers of the great ones, the little containment or an erroneous interpretation of her; It has apparently matured children outside, keeping them fragile, even weak and vulnerable inside.
That superpowerful child seems to be less so when faced with a simple fact, such as having to wait or something does not go as he wants, tantrum, anguish, crying for not enduring the frustration of not having something or something coming out otherwise. ; for not knowing how to accept or adapt to a result or change ...
If we were really faced with the maturity that we believe we witness, these simple facts would not easily break your internal state; they could maintain themselves and overcome the fact with integrity or patience, but no, in return in these situations the strong child disappears ...
No ... children are not mature because they answer you badly, they demand you as a "big" or when they are overwhelming with others; neither are they when they cannot respond with respect, or when they need to show that they do not need anyone.
They look like “mature” and self-sufficient children, yes, but inside, more than being strengthened they are weakened, insecure and needy, more than ever, of you.
If we want mature and independent children, if we expect this from childhood, let us first know that it will not be possible. A child is immature, fragile and in need of you by nature; its biological processes, all its physical, emotional and spiritual systems are developing.
Therefore, we must aspire to strengthen, enrich and nurture them, instead of precipitating what needs time ...
How do we do this?
Allowing childhood to be childhood!
~ Help him regain the pleasure of playing as a child his age ; To be a little boy .
~ Set guidelines or rules to help you feel that you are taking care of him all the time.
~ Look at it, even if it seems self-sufficient, look at it and congratulate it, but don't stop looking at it, because it needs you to be close.
~ Help him so that he can listen to you, let himself be cared for, let himself be guided .
~ Teach him to cry with the security that is taken care of, and that he will soon be able to find or repair what has happened. Teach him that there is half an empty glass, but that there is also half a full glass ...
~ Help him to know and be able to go through different situations and adapt to changes.
~ Teach him to accept, to give, to yield, to wait, but teach him by the daily example, there is no other way . Show it because you know it, and if you don't know it, work hard inside to learn it because that's what they need from you.
Let's get back what has been lost and is needed more than ever. Let's help the child to be a child, and the adult to regain his role as companion, guide and reference that so much childhood needs today.
AUTHOR: Nancy Erica Ortiz
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