Emotional predators: All about those people who are causing you an energetic wear

“Let go of people who only arrive to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear and judgments of others. If someone looks for a bin to throw their garbage, try not to be in your mind. ”

- Dalai Lama

The world is a constant flow of energy . The sun fills us with it, the air, nature, people. Our emotional states are nothing more than a manifestation of that energy that crosses us at every moment. And in each interaction, we find a cross of energies with the people who challenge us every day of our lives.

Now, that exchange does not happen in a uniform way . There are people who have the ability to fill us with energy, to motivate us and make us feel better. There are also people who have a very developed ability to absorb from us until we feel like getting up in the morning . People capable of destabilizing us to the point where we depend on them to find meaning in our lives, because we can no longer find it for ourselves. Our things begin to lose value, our time and our emotions cease to be something worth taking care of.

In that way we enter a dynamic in which we completely abandon the helm of our life and fall into a well where we forget who we are and lose sight of what is really important.

Do you recognize this situation?

In these days that people usually have great problems to achieve stability, emotional predators can be an extremely inconvenient encounter.

And what do we do if the emotional predators are us? Well, it is often not easy to realize at first sight.

Well, in this article we will deal with this issue, and we will also see how to identify and move away from relationships with emotional predators, and also how to identify when it is we who exercise that position.

The dynamism in our relationships

First, it is important to make it clear that people are subject to constant growth and change in our lives, therefore so is our way of relating. In fact, many emotional predators are victims of old toxic relationships that are left with sequels. And at some point, we all go through a situation in which we act as energetic vampires.

The problem is that the more you behave as an emotional predator, the more entrenched that behavior is in your mind, and the more difficult it will be to stop being so in the future. That is why we must immediately identify when we are absorbing the energy of another person, as we could run the risk of being condemned to that kind of behavior for life.

Beyond what we initially created, emotional predators are the ones who have the worst time, since they do not have the capacity to establish authentic bonds, nor to relate from love to anyone. As much as the victim suffers, time heals the wounds and after an appropriate process, he has more chances of overcoming that bad instance .

Therefore, my advice: do not hold a grudge against them . Remember the first Hindu law of spirituality : The person who appears in your life is the right person . Therefore, now you have the responsibility to learn from that situation.

How to identify emotional predators

Emotional depredation is still a type of psychological abuse (although camouflaged by a relationship of trust) recidivist, which ends up making it very dangerous. Those who exercise it cause moments of great suffering in their victims, sometimes without regard to the harmfulness of their behavior. Either way, emotional predators achieve the moral and psychological collapse of their prey.

Within their most common characteristics, we can find that they live in negativity . While we can all at times see life through a dark lens, they are stubbornly pessimistic and complaining . Skilled to repair errors and problems. In addition, you need to be regularly assisted. Go to your victim every time you are facing a problem . However, emotional predators are rarely willing to receive emotional support.

It can happen frequently that you come to tell him your problems and end up sympathizing with them . They always prepare to point out your flaws, again and again damaging self-esteem and self-confidence. Also, enjoy not respecting your limits, and are not very likely to take responsibility for their actions. Emotional predators possess great skills in the psychological manipulation of people, and that will be their greatest weapon.

It is common for you to also be pressured to do things that you do not feel comfortable with, and you will end up noticing that you are constantly provoked by negative emotions and doubts.

Rebuilding you

Relationships with emotional predators are absolutely destructive, and recovering from them is not an easy task. Therefore, if you have been able to recognize one and have ended such a relationship, congratulations: You have taken a very important first step.

Keep away from you all memories, images and situations that make you think about what hurts you, at least in the first instance . You will have time to think about what happened when the pain has subsided a bit . This is usually the most important and difficult step: get out of the trap.

The following will take a while, but it will be worth it. It is important that you identify the dynamics, and the process by which emotional predators force their victims to take responsibility for any conflict. Drop the blame and focus on healing yourself.

This is actually an opportunity for you to find yourself again .

Do not rush things, the true way to heal is to be patient and let the wounds stop bleeding little by little. Get back to those things you enjoyed before. Many times relationships with emotional predators destabilize us so much that we forget those things that used to make us laugh. Know yourself again. Learn to be alone .

Do not force new relationships, or you may end up worse than you were and then having to heal twice. Everything will be given when it has to be given .

Identifying you as a predator

Every toxic relationship is based on two people. And as many times emotional predators do not notice their patterns, we will also leave a series of questions to answer that may lead you to realize if you are the one who is exercising this role in the relationship.

Does the idea of ​​getting people close to you do what you want causes you satisfaction? Many times the manipulation ability is attractive to us, but don't forget that there are other people involved in this.

Do you enjoy the recognition of others? Emotional predators have big insecurity problems behind their actions.

Doesn't it bother you that others have to sacrifice so that you feel comfortable? This is a very important indicator of the need to feel important .

Are you taking any criticism or questioning about your attitude personal? This is also a way to take care of your superior position.

Are you immediately looking guilty to those who increase in the face of failures or complicated situations? In this way you also keep your eyes and those of others intact.

Do you feel discomfort when you are alone? Silence is often the place where the truth is manifested behind the comedy that you perform every day. If you can't with him, then there is something there that isn't being taken care of.

Don't be detrimental to other people's emotional balance, and don't let others be with your own.

There is much worth spending time and sacrifice beyond a certain relationship.

The moment is now.

AUTHOR: Lucas, editor of the great family of HermandadBlanca.org

SOURCES:

• "The vampires and emotional predators", by Pilar Muñoz
• https://lamenteesmaravillosa.com/hay-relaciones-atrapadas-en-jaulas-emocionales-construidas-por-un-depredador-emocional/
• http://www.lucioperez.com/2012/10/es-usted-un-vampiro-energetico/