Table of contents hide 1 # 1 Self-confidence: believe in yourself 2 # 2 Consider your ultimate goal 3 # 3 Write down the pros and cons 4 # 4 Take your time 5 # 5 Don't let yourself be influenced by the other 6 # 6 Do it!
I am not a product of my circumstances, I am a product of my decisions.
Steven Covey
All at some point in life we find crossroads that force us to decide . It can be a move or what career to study, whether to marry or not, have a child or not ...
And we also have the little everyday situations that give us doubts: what dress I wear, what I'm going to have dinner, where I'm going on vacation ... And we are not all the same in terms of our ability to make decisions . And that is one of the reasons why we often have a hard time deciding, the fear of making mistakes .
Whatever the moment you are in, there will always be a situation in which indecision and unknowns make their appearance.
In the following paragraphs I will detail some keys that can help you take the first steps to get out of indecision:
# 1 Self confidence: believe in yourself
First of all, you have to know that you can make a good choice, believe in yourself and your intuition . Our inner being is very wise and sends us signals and messages through intuition, be sure to hear it and pay attention to it. Intuition is your source of wisdom.
# 2 Consider your ultimate goal
The ultimate goal should always reflect the greatest well-being or benefits possible for everyone involved in the decision . In the case of a job change, a move, a career change, you should always keep in mind what you intend to achieve with that modification of our lives, and the response should always have positive expectations: greater tranquility, happiness, personal growth or prosperity. Always choose with that positive goal in mind. It can be helpful to visualize the goal you want to achieve.
# 3 Write down the pros and cons
This point helps you to realize the new option presented is really beneficial. Take a paper and a pen and write the positive aspects of staying in the position you are or deciding on the new option. In addition, it details the negative elements in both one and another situation. This simple act will shed light on the decision, seeing it embodied in the paper will clarify the panorama.
# 4 Take your time
Whenever you can, leave the matter for a few hours and if possible a whole day to rest your mind and not rush the decision . It is very likely that after that time, you will see the situation with other eyes.
# 5 Do not be influenced by others
It is very useful to ask for advice, especially from people you trust and know that they have already made similar decisions and have come out graceful . You can also take into account the opinion of people who are sure that they really want your greatest good. But, please, do not take into account the opinion of people who do not even try to move forward in their lives and leave their comfort zone. Remember, above all things, that the decision will finally be yours .
# 6 Do it!
Finally, don't get paralyzed, make the decision!
Remember: there is no worse decision than the one that is not taken, because it stagnates you and prevents you from moving forward.
Do not be afraid to fail or make a wrong decision, who tells you that you were never wrong in making a decision, surely you lie or you are a person who avoids making decisions at any cost.
I leave you a phrase from the philosopher Ruth Chang: “When we face difficult choices, we should not hit our heads on the wall, trying to figure out which alternative is better. Does not exist. Instead of looking for the reasons outside, we would have to look for the reasons inside: who do I want to be?
Good luck!
DRAFTING: Carolina Cobelli, editor of the great White Brotherhood family
