When things come to us in this world, including children, they are giving us an experience that we have asked for in the way we believe possible. Thus, the Spirit has to use our belief system and give us things that satisfy our prayer. Some call it manifest. But the most important thing is the prayer of the heart. How deep you go in spirituality you will see that you can only ask for an experience. And you will see that the form never gives you the experience. Emotion always comes from your own consciousness. As you become wise and more mature, your orders change; A teenager's request may seem different from that of a wise teacher. A teenager could ask for a car or a boyfriend or girlfriend. While the wise teacher could say: "I want peace of mind." Thus, our requests change as we walk through life, until we fully see what the deep prayer of our heart is, to know our true identity.
We need to let go of the old ideas about teaching and learning since we are teaching and learning with everyone. We really teach with our thoughts, and what we always teach is something about our identity. The lesson we must learn on earth is the lesson of perfect equality, regardless of the size of the bodies. This lesson really is a unique experience. Parents have a problem of authority because they believe they have created the children and consequently have authority over them. When a child around the age of two says things like “mine!” Or “I will have it my way, ” it is an opportunity to hear the claim of love and a call to recognize equality; that nobody is boss over any other.
Certainly infants and very young children seem to need a lot of care and attention, but it is also an opportunity to let intuition come in a more appropriate way. It seems that the parents are taking care of the child, but it is again an opportunity to see perfect equality. This is really what the mother-child bond is about. It is not really a link between bodies. Jesus teaches us that minds are united and bodies are not. It's more like a telepathic union where you relax and feel the connection. It is an opportunity to relax and enjoy every moment. It is a feeling of connection, the mother is not judging the baby, or thinking about the future or the past, nor about the name, it is simply in a connection experience. Feeling that connection is the goal of all our mental training, letting go of our judgments.
Each is a mirror of thoughts in consciousness. Therefore the child is a mirror for the mother / father and each of these is a mirror for the child. This is why we can never blame our parents for how we feel, because our parents and our environment reflect the thoughts we hold in our conscience. What you see comes from what you think. So parents should never blame, just like children shouldn't do it either. There is never a justification, as well as a good reason to point a finger at a father or a mother or a child and say: "It is your fault", because there is never guilty. It is always consciousness seeing the world and thinking thoughts, and the world always reflects thoughts. This is directly from the Bible: "As you sow, you will reap." It's another way of saying: "Everything you give is everything you receive." It is always a perfect equation. That is why I say: “Be careful with your prayers, because you always receive according to them. You can be sure that you are receiving what you are thinking. Without exception.
Then, when a mother or father says: "I have problems with my child, " it could be reinterpreted as: "I have problems with my conscience." You could even say: "my child reflects my problems in my conscience" or "my child reflects my problems". This applies, of course, in the other direction. When a child has a problem, he can say: "I have a problem in my conscience."
The human race is evolving towards awakening. Each new generation of children born, more and more, reflect the divine light of love. They are sometimes called Crystal children, and they reflect increasingly higher states of consciousness. This is really beneficial for the entire planet. Jimmy Twyman gave lectures about it. He went to Japan and met a very small boy who could bend spoons with his mind. And children have known how to have many psychic abilities that are very natural for the developed mind. These skills come from your previous spiritual development. It is important to have an open mind, which is what happens when you put aside the teachings of the past.
We all have ideas about the family, ideas that come from the memories of our own family and how we were raised. Many of those memories are very unconscious. Sometimes, parents say they want to raise their children in different ways from how they were raised by their parents, but they are impressed when they hear themselves say almost the same words that their own parents told them. When the past is repeated again and again, we must break the patterns of the past. Recently, Eckart Tolle wrote the book A New Earth, and we should say that we are working in a new family, a new way of conceiving families.
We have to let go of the Holy Spirit. Human beings cannot be partially in control, in the same way that you cannot be partially pregnant. As you begin to see the value of moving things towards the Holy Spirit you can begin to include the people around you as well. When you are guided, you can sit with your child in certain situations. For example, if the child is sad for some reason, you can ask the Holy Spirit for help along with the child. Help the child with a mental change in the way they see the situation. Really, if you change your mind the world changes too. Another way is by demonstrating it. We can teach children what we could learn, since they are part of our practice and we are part of theirs.
- How do we talk to you about spirituality?
- How do we talk about the difficult things in life?
- How do we help them to develop as healthy, happy and responsible individuals?
- How are the spiritual needs of children?
We will enter the answers to these questions. The first comes from the three guidelines of the Spirit:
First guideline: do not talk about anything related to spirituality that you have not experienced. This only teaches speculation. If you don't have a clear, direct and profound experience of God, why try to explain it to your children? It will only lead to more doubts and will seem like a fraud or a chat, since your answers will not be genuine. It is a deep thing to be in prayer, in the experience of being guided by the Spirit about what you say and do.
Second guideline: you have to talk about what you are trying to express in very simple terms because if you make it complicated, children will simply lose interest. Think what you say and say what you think. When you talk to children about spirituality, they want it to be practical, they are not at all interested in theories about God. Let's look at an example: Are you afraid of letting your child swim freely in the forest lake without supervision and without lifeguards? Why, if you teach that you do not believe in bodies, death and vulnerability? They want to talk about things that are directly related to their practical experience. So it is important to make use of many examples. You need to be very familiar and very confident with your ideas. A good teacher uses several examples since he is clear about the matter in question.
Third guideline: talk and address the areas of interest of children; those that generate curiosity. If the child does not express interest and curiosity about spirituality and God, it is a sign of a matter to consider. It is not the same to teach mathematics or science. The child must be ready, prepared. If the child is curious, then there is an opportunity for you to express your own curiosity in those areas. In many cases, there is no invitation to explore those areas. Talking to the children about what they are interested in, you are showing their care and attention. It's not about the words you say - but about the attitudes and mental state you express. That is where the teaching begins. That is why Jesus taught about attitudes in the Bible. It is the teaching of a way of being, of a state of being. We are not to correct our sisters and brothers, a better way is to wait for them to come and ask for help with their problems. So, we should never try to correct them in their ideas and ways of seeing things related to spirituality. Every situation is always an opportunity to become clear to ourselves.
HOW TO TALK ABOUT THE DIFFICULTIES IN LIFE?
It is good to talk about belief. Even on topics such as death and murder there are different beliefs. For an atheist and for a religious person, the vision of death can be very different. Tell your child that there are not two people who see the world in the same way. To an interested child, you can tell him that every person who comes to earth operates on a belief system. They organize their lives through that belief system. If they ask about conflicts, such as war, or conflicts between their friends, you can tell them that there are many beliefs and that they are in conflict. If they ask why, it may be an opportunity to talk to them about error or ego, because they will remain asking why. Then tell them that while we believe in the ego, there will be conflicts. We know that no person sees the world in the same way as another, but there is a love and unity that is beyond belief. The only useful belief that exists is forgiveness.
Forgiveness exists with different names in different cultures. It is also a good topic for parents to discuss, since they can teach and learn that matter for years to come. They will have many, many opportunities to forgive. If the child is curious, teach him forgiveness. Talk to him about forgiveness. But the most important thing is always the demonstration of the state of consciousness.
DO WE TALK ABOUT TWO OR MANY SYSTEMS OF BELIEFS?
In the beginning it would be better received and more applicable to talk about various belief systems, since children see many people. Each person seems to operate in a different belief system. But the more you interact with them, and the more trust and curiosity are constituted, they will look at you and say, "Can you make it simpler?" Then, tell them that they look like many, but in reality there are only two basic belief systems. One gives you hope, freedom, peace, love and joy, and the other system gives you jealousy, pain, guilt, fear and anger. If they ask you "why does anyone believe in pain and fear?", You can look at them and answer them: "I am working on the same question, that is why I am here."
HOW DO WE HELP OUR CHILDREN DEVELOP AS HEALTHY, HAPPY AND RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUALS?
The scope to your true security, true happiness, and true responsibility, at that scope you can project or expand the idea of the gift of what this experience is. Because we really cannot do for anyone what we have not experienced. Our fears are reflected in yours, as well as our guilt. It is always an internal job. Even when you're tempted to worry and worry about them, it's better to stop and see, "Well, I'm feeling restless and worrying, it's something in my mind to let go."
ISN'T IT THAT CHILDREN DO WHAT WE DO AND NOT WHAT WE SAY?
Your relationship with the child is very similar to how Jesus does with you. Jesus is the same as all of us; he is like a wise older brother, (although sometimes we can debate whether the father is wiser than the child). But Jesus could say, "Think like me, don't do like me." He doesn't ask you to wear a long robe or cassock, go around and be crucified. He doesn't say "do like me", he says "think like me and do what you want". This means that doing and emotions flow from thought and that the emphasis is always on thinking, not on doing. Apply this to your way of relating to children. If you are truly feeling at peace and cheerful and confident you can say: "Think like me and do what you want." And if you're really happy, you have the chance that they want to follow you. And if you're very conflicted, they won't want to. They will look for another to guide them.
Having children can be a great opportunity to practice intuition, since you cannot constantly monitor them. You have to be intuitive and confident. The priority is to always be at peace, and the intention is to let go of the belief that you can control the behavior. You can never control the world of form, and the child's behavior or behavior is part of that. The father never has direct control over the child's behavior. It is impossible. You can control the direction of your thinking, it is the only thing you have control over. In A Course in Miracles, Jesus tells us that there are two systems of thought, one of love and the other of fear. And you can reach the highest potential by practicing listening to the voice of love and using the love thinking system consistently. He also says: "You may believe that you are responsible for what you do but not for what you think, but you are responsible for what you think, and what you do comes from what you think." Instead of trying to control the behavior or behavior, which is an effect, return to the mind or consciousness that is the cause, and make a change in your thinking. This does not seem to be an easy thing.
Many people try to modify their behavior, try to quit smoking, control their weight, not drink much alcohol, etc. They have a lot of difficulty trying to modify their behavior, but they feel they would have much more difficulty trying to modify their thoughts. The only lasting change comes from changing thoughts. If you try to control the behavior but you are still disturbed in your mind, you still have a cleft in the consciousness. If you try to act well but you have anger underneath, your mind is split, broken. Everything has to be in complete alignment. Beliefs, emotions, thoughts and perceptions have to be aligned to have peace of mind. With children it takes a lot of practice. Parents say their own behavior is very important because of the belief that we learn from the behavior; The idea of being a model of good behavior. But children don't really learn from behavior, everything comes from thoughts. Therefore, you don't have to try to act well, because children can often see the act pass before them and know when the act is fake, and this is a good reminder to be authentic. If you tell your children not to fight and you fight with your husband or wife or with yourself, you need to change your thinking. You need to demonstrate a state of peace.
HOW ARE THE SPIRITUAL NEEDS OF CHILDREN?
The only need that everyone really has is to truly know who we are. The ancient Greeks said: "know yourself." But first you have to know the basic needs, such as hunger, thirst or the need for heat. You have to know the apparent physical needs before going to the depth of the soul's needs. Mother Teresa knew it well. First he took people out of the street to help them. He didn't go down the street talking to children about God; I went for them and attended them. For her and her sisters it was more an act of service. He saw them as Jesus did. It was an example of: "Just as you treat the little one around you, so you will treat me."
As you become clearer you also become more and more intuitive about what the real need is. Often, children will express ego needs, in terms of toys or treats, for example; Waiting for more, more and more. That's when you see that you have to be more intuitive. You don't want to get into confrontations; yes, instead, go through an experience of love that is for both of you. That is the miracle. Bless everyone equally. Sometimes parents seek to treat their children equally. They try to give children an equal amount of food or drink or ice cream. But it is impossible to do it equally. Instead, you have to focus on wanting to be equally loving and equally open to everyone. The satisfaction of love is important and not the form of its expression. It is always a question about one's honesty.
With your child you can take every opportunity to teach love, to teach what you could learn. It works in every situation. If you are afraid or afraid of letting your child feel free and moving around unknown people, for example, you have the opportunity to teach him about the belief of privacy in this world or the idea of thoughts of attack. Yes, teach what you would learn! A very useful tool is to start seeing everything as love or a request for love. Then you can start answering the call where you perceive it. It could be your child entering your room at night, scared after a nightmare, or a child hitting another. The temptation is, in psychology, psychotherapy and in many other areas, to think about things as if they were problems of the others, what the customer is going through and now. Then it is placed all outside and not seen as a request for love in your mind, hence the perception of error arises.
FINALLY SOME DID YOU KNOW WORDS:
Sometimes you may think that you are personally responsible for the child, if he goes astray, for example. But finally the idea of being personally responsible for everything has to go. No one can really be responsible for another.
And, don't censor emotions. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, it is a useful step in the direction of waking up.
Always in love
David.
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CHILDREN AND SPIRITUALITY: LESSONS FROM THE HOLY SPIRIT
MESSAGE FROM PEACE MESSENGERS
David
October 17, 2008, 7:20 am
Translation: Sergio Hache
Edition: Anita Manasse
