Any kind of confrontation, no matter what, is one of the hardest things to learn to drive. Regardless of whether the confrontation is kind or hostile, you need to learn when not to confront someone. No matter what stage of life they are in, they will find themselves facing many precarious situations where they will be given ample opportunities to take the noblest path - where they allow to stop mentioning a certain idea or opinion in order to maintain the self-respect, integrity and balance of your inner person.
My dear ones, the question is how to know when it is time to step back and let things go instead of arguing or obsessively presenting your opinion. There are some things to consider, and this requires that you reflect a little. You know how easily you can get so deeply involved with an opinion or idea that you continue to argue in your favor even though it is not the best way to proceed . Many dear beings refuse to let things go mainly because they fear that they will be seen as weak, but in truth it shows that you are logical and control your reactive side when new information is presented.
When you realize that your idea or opinion may not have been correct, it is a good idea to admit that you are wrong. They can maturely demonstrate that when the new information was presented they changed their minds. Very possibly they could ask for extra information in order to expand their knowledge and allow themselves to see from the perspective of the other person. Remember, my dear ones, that everyone has something significant to share, something that is important, and being considerate and willing to listen to what others say will often prove that their opinions are wrong and that they can improve their ideas by learning with others when they They share their ideas, concepts and ways.
When they consciously choose not to go after their idea or opinion when they work with others to reach a common goal or project, what they are saying without words is that that particular goal or project is important and that they are giving it greater importance over their own personal agenda that is sometimes self-centered. When there is another time when you have to be firm with your idea, those who are working with you will know that they are giving you priority for the right reasons and not just to be right.
Every day they meet people they sometimes don't know. Have you ever taken a defensive position with these people, people with whom you work, with your family, friends or even with those in the same line as you? This could happen for many reasons, but it usually has a lot to do with people telling them that they are wrong or that they have not done what was up to them efficiently, and perhaps you proved to have little influence. Negative consequences can arise easily, showing your ugly face when expectations about others are based on some internal opinion you had. You do not always have a clear idea of what is in front of you in any situation, but you can choose at each interval how to handle yourselves in a responsible and mature way when faced with a difficult situation. They may decide that the best course of action is to retract when the shared information has indisputable facts that support the reason why you are working together with another person.
You have had many moments when you have been right, and therefore clearly showing that you do not exert an influence, but you may encounter someone who works with you, possibly a work colleague, a family member, friend or associate who is behaving unreasonably and is escalating the situation with heated hostility. When the bad temper is given free rein, instead of adding more wood to the fire by becoming defensive, you also simply leave the room until the person who has exploded with heated emotions has calmed down and is reasonable again. Shouting, raising your voice and insulting is not productive or mature, nor does it show that you are responsible.
If they are talking to someone and they realize that what they are talking about has become negative they can try to refocus the conversation by demonstrating that they respect a lot and appreciate what the other person is saying and that they are willing to learn more about why and how to think. You are trying to soften a possible angry situation by showing that you can be friends, one who is open and willing to listen. Even after all your cunning and conscious efforts to return the conversation to something positive clearly show that you are not leading to anything, what All they can do is take the highest path, not give in to the temptation to argue. They are encouraged to show gratitude for seeing things from a different perspective, and when they have calmed down they may be able to meet again. Learn to work together. . . This requires the same effort to give and receive, residing in the comforting arms of compassion and respect.
It requires great discipline to control your reactive emotions. When interacting with others, try to monitor your own thoughts and attitude when engaging in any conversation or situation that takes place with more than one person. Being aware of your own thoughts, feelings and emotions, you can more easily choose how to respond appropriately at all times.
Life can be very unpredictable in general. However, regardless of whether the situation they are in is personal or professional, they will not always have the last word and that is not a problem. Tell your ego to rest and that you have everything under control. Choose the noblest path and show maturity by demonstrating that you are able to work together with others and will do your best not to add anything that makes any heated and tense situation worse. But after all, it is just as important to know when to let go and when to stand firm in what you feel in your heart is right. Many people say they are following their intuition, their instincts, their hunch, and some say they are following their heart. . . Everyone is right in principle. They are listening to their own internal voice on how to improve the situation, if possible, learning to turn around and keep their integrity and self-respect intact.
This trajectory is yours. You walk it alone, but you cross paths with many different personalities from different cultures and ways of life that help to add character and color to learn and grow together. Show yourself open to learn new ways, show that you can be friends. . . from someone they can depend on and be a good listener. You never know, they might be able to change a negative situation simply through their calm and compassionate behavior.
I AM Melquizedek
Source : http://lightworkers.org/channeling/208604/you-got
By Julie Miller
Message from Melquizedek: Confrontation
