CHAPTER 3
Where does it come from?
“The past has no power over me.
All right, we've examined a lot of things, and we've been going through the sieve what we thought was the problem. Now we have encountered what, in my view, is the real problem, we feel totally devalued, and love for ourselves is scarce. According to how I see life, if there is a problem, this has to be true. Let's see, then, where this belief came from.
How do we go from being a tiny baby who knows his own perfection and that of life, to becoming a person with problems, who feels, to a greater or lesser extent, unworthy and unworthy of love? Those who already love themselves can love each other even more.
Think of a rose, from the moment it is a cocoon. While it opens to fully bloom, until the last petal falls, it is always beautiful, always perfect, always changing. The same as us. We are always perfect, always beautiful, always changing. At all times we do the best we can with the understanding, awareness and knowledge we have. As we have more understanding, more awareness and more knowledge, we will be doing things differently.
The cleaning of the mental house
Now is the time to examine our past a bit, to take a look at some of those beliefs that have been governing us.
Some people have this part of the cleaning process very painful, but it doesn't have to be. We must look at what needs to be cleaned before we can do it.
If you want to clean a room thoroughly, start by checking everything in it. There will be some things that you will look at with tenderness, and polish them or dust them off to give them a new beauty. With others, you will take note that they need a repair or a touch up. There will be some who will never serve you again, and it is time to get rid of them. Old magazines and newspapers, such as used paper plates, can easily be thrown away. There is no need to get angry to clean a room.
The same happens when we are cleaning our mental house. There is no need to get angry because some of the beliefs we kept in it no longer work. Let her leave as easily as, after having dined, we throw away the leftover food. Really, would you search yesterday's trash for something to prepare tonight's dinner? And to create the experiences of tomorrow, do you go through the old mental garbage?
If an idea or belief does not work, give it up! No law says that because once you have believed in something, you have to continue doing it forever.
So let's see some of those beliefs that limit us and see where they come from.
LIMITATION BELIEF: "I am useless."
WHERE IT COMES FROM: From a father who insistently repeated that he was stupid.
The client said that he wanted to be a winner so that his father took pride in him, but since he was full of guilt, that created him resentment, all he could produce was one failure after another. The father kept financing business that always failed. The client used those failures to get even, forcing his father to pay continuously, but of course, he was the one who lost the most.
LIMITATION BELIEF: Lack of love for herself.
WHERE IT COMES FROM: Attempting to obtain parental approval.
There was nothing less desirable for that client than to be like her father. They could never agree on anything and were always arguing. She just wanted his approval, but she got nothing but criticism. She was full of physical pain, just like her father, but she didn't realize that the anger she felt was the cause of the pain, just like her father.
LIMITATION BELIEF: Life is dangerous.
WHERE IT COMES FROM: From a frightened father.
Another client saw life as something sullen and hard. Laughing was difficult for her, and when she did, she feared something might happen to her. They had raised her with the threat that if you laugh, they will pay you.
LIMITATION BELIEF: I don't serve
WHERE IT COMES FROM: Feeling abandoned and neglected.
The client had a hard time talking; silence had become his way of life. He had just quit drugs and alcohol, and was convinced of his uselessness. His mother had died when he was very young, and he had been raised by an aunt who rarely spoke to him, except to give him some order, so that the boy He grew up in silence. Until he ate alone and without speaking, and day after day he remained alone in his room, in silence. He had had a lover, who was also a taciturn man; They both spent most of their time together, without speaking. When that man died, my client was left alone again.
Exercise: Negative Messages
The next exercise is to write down on a large sheet of paper all the things that your parents said were wrong with you. What were the negative messages you heard? Give yourself enough time to remember as many as you can. Usually, with an hour it's fine.
What did they tell you about money? And about his body? What did they tell you about love and sex? What did they tell you about their creative capacity? What were the limiting or negative things they told you?
If you can, objectively consider these points, and say: `` Because that is where this belief comes from. ''
Now look for another sheet of paper, to dig a little deeper. What other negative messages did you hear as a child?
- Of his relatives
- Of his teachers
- Of his friends
- Of authority figures
- From his church
Write them all, taking your time. Be attentive to the bodily sensations you have.
On those two sheets of paper are the ideas you need to make your consciousness disappear. It is those beliefs that make you feel it is useless.
Look like a child
If we put a three-year-old child in the middle of the room, and started yelling at him, telling him he is a stupid, unable to do anything well, that he must do this and not do the other, and that he looks at the disasters that it causes, and in passing we would give him some other blow, in the end we would have a scared boy who sits obediently in a corner, or a rebel who destroys everything within his reach.
The child would show one of these two behaviors, but we would never know what potential he had.
If we tell the same child how much we love him and how much we care, that we love what he looks like and that he is nice and intelligent, that we like his way of doing things and that it is okay to make mistakes while learning, and that we will be always by your side in any situation ... then, the potential that this child shows will blow us away!
We all have a three-year-old child inside, and we often spend most of our time yelling at him ... and then we wonder why our life is the way it is.
If you had a friend who always criticized you, would you want to be close to her? Maybe as a child they treated him like that; It's a shame, but that was a long time ago, and if now it's you who chooses to be treated the same way, it's even sadder.
So now we have before us a list of the negative messages we heard from children. What correspondence is there between your list and what you feel is wrong with you? They are almost the same? Probably yes.
As the basis of the script of our life we use those first messages. We are all good children and we obediently accept what "they" tell us is true. It would be very easy to just blame our parents and be victims for the rest of our lives, but it wouldn't be much fun ... and it certainly wouldn't take us out of the quagmire.
Blame the family
Blaming someone is one of the safest ways to continue with a problem. By blaming another, we renounce our power. Understanding things allows us to distance ourselves from the problem and control our future.
The past cannot be changed, but the future is being shaped by what we think today. To free ourselves, it is imperative that we understand that our parents did the best they could given the understanding, awareness and knowledge they had. Every time we blame someone, we stop taking responsibility for ourselves.
The people who did these terrible things to us were as scared and disoriented as we were; They felt the same helplessness. They had no chance of teaching us anything other than what they had been taught.
What do you know about your parents' childhood, especially before the age of ten? If you can still find out, ask them. If you can know something about when they were children, it will be easier to understand why they did what they did. And that understanding will bring compassion.
If you do not know, and can no longer find out, try to imagine how it may have been. What kind of childhood can such an adult create?
You need to know, for your own freedom. Because he cannot free himself until he releases them; You can't forgive yourself as long as you don't forgive them. If he demands perfection, he will also demand it himself, and he will be miserable throughout his life.
We choose our parents
I agree with the theory that we choose our parents. The lessons we learn tend to harmonize perfectly with the weaknesses ”of the parents we have. I think we are all making an endless journey through eternity. We come to this planet to learn certain lessons that are necessary for our spiritual evolution. We choose our sex, the color of our skin, our country, and then we look for parents who can best "reflect" the patterns that govern our lives.
We make our visits to this planet as who goes to school. If one wants to become an esthetician, he goes to a school of beauticians; if you want to be a mechanic, to an industrial school; If you want to be a lawyer, to a law school. The parents we have chosen this time are the perfect pair of “experts” in what we have decided to learn.
When we grow up, we tend to point to our parents with an accusing finger, reproaching them: “Look what you did to me!”, But I think we choose them.
Listen to others
When we were little, our older brothers and sisters were gods to us. And it is likely that, if they were unhappy, they would take it out on us, physically or verbally. Maybe they would tell us things like:
"I'll tell mom (or dad) what you did ... (infuse guilt)."
"You are a brat and you can't do that."
"You are too stupid to play with us."
It is also frequent that teachers have influenced us a lot. In fifth grade, the teacher emphatically told me that I was too tall to be a dancer. I believed him, and I put aside my ambitions in that field until it was too late to face the dance professionally.
Did you understand that the tests and grades were only useful to see how much you knew at any given time, or was a child who felt that what they measured was their own value?
Our first friends share with us our own wrong information about life. Our schoolmates can hurt us deeply and endlessly with their teasing. My last name, when I went to school, was Lunney, and the boys used to call me "lunatic."
The neighbors also have their influence, and not only because of their observations, but also because at home they reprimanded us with: "What will the neighbors say?"
Try to remember what other authority figures had an influence on your childhood.
And by the way there are the affirmations, energetic and very persuasive, that come to us through the announcements of the press and television. Too many are the products that are sold making us feel that if we do not use them, we need "class" or we are dumb.
We are all here to transcend our first limitations, whatever they may be. We are here to recognize our own magnificence and our divinity, no matter what they have told us. You have your own negative beliefs to overcome, and I have to overcome mine.
In the infinity of life, where I am, everything is perfect, complete and whole.
The past has no power over me because I am willing to learn and change.
I see the past as something necessary to get to where I am today.
I am about to start, from where I am now, to clean the rooms of my mental house.
I know that it doesn't matter where I start, and that's why I now start with the smallest and easiest rooms, and in this way I will soon see the results.
I love being in the middle of this adventure, because I know I will never go through this experience again.
I am about to free myself.
Everything is fine in my world.
CHAPTER 4
It is true?
"The truth is the unchanging part of me"
The question about whether something is true - or real - has two answers: "Yes" and "No." It is true if you believe it is; It is not true if you believe it is not. The glass is half full and half empty; It depends on how you look at it. And there are literally billions of things we can decide to think.
Most of us decided to think the same things our parents used to think, but we don't need to continue doing so. No law has been enacted that says we can only think one way.
Whatever I decide to believe, it becomes true for me. Whatever you decide to believe, it becomes true for you. What we think may be totally different. Our life and our experiences are totally different.
Examine your ideas
Anything we create becomes true for us. If you have a sudden financial disaster, it may be that at some level you think you don't deserve the comfort of money, or that you deserve to have difficulties and debts. Or, if you think that good is always temporary, you will probably believe that life is against you or, as you often hear it said, that "you are not one of those who win."
If he feels unable to attract a man, perhaps his belief is: "Nobody loves me" or "I am unworthy of love."
She may be afraid of being a dominated woman, like her mother, or she may think that people do nothing but hurt her.
If your health is not good, you are likely to attribute the disease to a family trend or consider yourself a victim of the weather, although you might also think that you were born to suffer or that your body does not give you rest.
Or it may have a different belief. You may not even realize what your belief is, like most people, who simply view external circumstances as simply the way in which luck comes. As long as someone does not show you the relationship between external experiences and what you think and believe in your internal jurisdiction, you will remain a victim for life.
PROBLEM BELIEF
Financial disaster I don't deserve to have money.
Lack of friends Nobody loves Me.
Labor problems I'm no good at this.
Always please I never get to others. what I want.
Whatever the problem, it comes from a mental model, and mental models can be changed!
They can give us the sensation of being true, they may seem real, all those problems we struggle with and debate in life. But as difficult as the problem we face is, it is no more than an external result or effect of an internal mental model.
If you do not know what are the ideas that are creating your problems, you are now on track, because this book has been designed to help you discover them. Consider each of the difficulties you have in life and ask yourself: What kind of ideas do I have to create this situation?
If you take the time to sit quietly to answer this question, your inner intelligence will give you the answer.
It is nothing more than a belief that you learned from a child
We believe some things that are positive, that feed us. These are the ideas that are useful to us throughout life, like Look both ways before crossing the street .
Other ideas are very useful at the beginning, but when we get older they no longer serve us. "Do not trust strangers" may be good advice for a small child, but an adult maintaining this attitude will not bring him more than solitude and isolation.
Why are we so few times we stop to wonder if something is really true? For example, why do I create things like that it is difficult for me to learn? Why don't I wonder if that is true for me now, where did I get that belief, if it didn't come from the countless times the first teacher repeated it to me? degree, if it would not be better for me to abandon it?
Beliefs like that boys do not cry and girls do not climb trees create men who are ashamed of their feelings and women who are afraid of their body.
If children taught us that the world is a dreadful place, we will accept as valid for us everything that reflects that belief. The same can be said of phrases such as: `` Do not trust strangers '', `` Do not go out at night '' or `` People will deceive you '' .
On the other hand, if we were taught as a child that the world is a safe place, our beliefs will be different. It will be easy for us to accept that there is love everywhere, that people are friendly and that we will always have what we need.
If you were taught as a child that it was all your fault, whatever happens you will go around the world feeling guilty. And this conviction will make him someone who will continually apologize.
Or if in his childhood he learned to think I do not count for anything, this belief will always keep him in the last place, where he is. As my childhood experience that I never got a cookie. Sometimes one becomes invisible when others do not pay attention to him.
If the circumstances of his childhood led him to believe that no one loved him, he will surely be a lonely being, and even when he gets a friendship or other relationship, it will not last long.
Did your family teach you that there is never enough? Then, many times you should feel that you have nothing in the pantry, or find that you are always tight or live full of debts.
A client of mine grew up in a home where they thought everything was wrong and could only get worse. His greatest pleasure in life was to play tennis, but he injured his knee. He saw countless doctors, but he only got worse, until he had to stop playing.
Another person, the son of a preacher, learned as a child that everyone should go before him. The preacher's family was always the last in everything. Today, this man is very skilled at getting the best deals for his clients, but he usually has no coins for the subway. His belief continues to make him the last of all.
If one believes it, it seems true
Many times we have said: "Well, I am like that" or "Things are like that". With those words we are actually saying that this is what we believe is true for us. Generally, what we believe is nothing other than the opinion of someone else, that we have incorporated into our belief system. And surely, it fits perfectly to all the other things we believe.
Are you one of many people who when they get up and see that it is raining, they protest for that infamous day?
Well, it is not an infamous day; It is only a rainy day.
If we put on the right clothes and change our attitude, we can have a lot of fun, in the way it is possible to have fun on a rainy day. If we really believe that rainy days are infamous, then every time it rains we will get depressed. We will spend the day fighting over time, instead of fully experiencing what is happening at that time.
There is neither "good" nor "bad" time: there is only time, and our individual ways of reacting to it.
If we want a joyful life, we must have jubilant thoughts. If we want a prosperous life, we must have thoughts of prosperity. If we want a life full of love, we must put love in our thoughts. That which, verbally or mentally, we send out, will be what in the same way returns to us.
Every moment is a new beginning
I insist that the moment of power is always the present. It is never stuck. Where do the changes occur? Here and now, in our own mind! It does not matter for how long we have followed a negative model or suffered a disease or a bad relationship, or suffered financial difficulties. It doesn't matter for how long we have hated ourselves. Today we can start to change!
It is no longer necessary that your problem be your truth. Now it can fade into nothingness where it originated. You can do it.
Remember: nobody else thinks in your mind! You are the power and authority in your world.
His ideas and beliefs of the past have created this moment, and all those who preceded it. What you decide to think and believe at this moment will create the next moment, and tomorrow, next month and next year.
Yes, I am giving you the most wonderful advice, the result of my years of experience, and yet you can continue to choose to think the same things as always, you can refuse to change and keep all your problems.
In your world, the power is you! You can get anything you decide to think about!
This moment starts the new process. Every moment is a new beginning, and this is a new beginning for you, here and now! It's great to know. This moment is the Moment of Power! It is the moment when the change begins!
It is true?
Stop for a moment and catch what you are thinking right now. If it is true that your thoughts shape your life, would you want what you were thinking right now to become your truth? If your thinking was of worry, anger, resentment, revenge or fear, how do you think it will come back to you?
It is not always easy to catch our thoughts, which move so quickly. However, right now we can start monitoring and listening to what we say. If you hear anything negative, stop in the middle of the sentence. Rephrase the sentence, or simply abandon it. I could even say, "Get out!"
Imagine you are queuing at the self-service of a luxury hotel, where instead of food dishes thought dishes are served. You can choose all you want. Those ideas are what will create your future experiences.
Now, if he chooses ideas that create problems and suffering, he will be foolish, as if he chose foods that always dislike him. However, as soon as you discover what foods are harmful to you, avoid them. The same has to do with thoughts. Stay away from ideas that cause problems and pain.
One of my first teachers, Dr. Raymond Charles Barker, used to repeat:
—When there is a problem, there is nothing to do; There is something to know.
It is the mind that creates the future. When there is something undesirable in our present, we must turn to the mind to change the situation. And we can start changing now, in the same second.
My deepest desire is that one day the issue of how thoughts work is the first thing taught in school. I have never understood how important it is to have children memorize the dates of a series of battles. It seems like a total waste of mental energy. Instead, we could teach them really important things: how the mind works, how to invest money for financial security, how to be a father or mother, how to have good relationships and how to create and maintain feelings of self-esteem and self-esteem.
Can you imagine what a generation of adults would be like who in school, in addition to the normal curriculum, would have been taught these subjects? Think about how those truths would manifest. They would be happy human beings, who would feel at peace with themselves, would not have financial difficulties and would enrich the economy with prudent investments of their money, people who would have good relations with everyone, who would feel comfortable in the role of parents and create another generation of human beings who feel good about themselves. And, within all this, each person would remain an individual and express their own creativity.
There is no time to lose. Let's continue with our work.
In the infinity of life, where I am, everything is perfect, complete and whole.
I no longer choose to believe in the old limitations and shortcomings.
Now I choose to start seeing myself as the Universe sees me, perfect, complete and whole.
The truth of my Being is that I was created perfect, complete and whole.
Now I am perfect, complete and whole, and I will always be perfect, complete and whole.
Now I choose to live my life based on what I understand.
I am in the right place and at the right time, doing what I have to do.
Everything is fine in my world.
CHAPTER 5
So, what can we do now?
“Seeing the model I follow, I decide to change it.
The decision to change
Once they have reached this point, the reaction of many people is to raise their hands to heaven, horrified by what we can call the disaster of their lives, and give up any attempt to do anything. Others get angry with themselves or with life, and also leave the game.
In general, they think that if the situation is desperate, and it seems impossible to make changes, why try? And the reasoning continues like this: “Stay as you are. At least it is a suffering that you already know how to handle. You don't like it, but you already know it, and hopefully things won't get worse. ”
For me the usual anger is like sitting in a corner with a donkey hat. Doesn't it sound familiar? Something happens and one gets angry; something else happens, and he gets angry again and again, but he never goes beyond anger.
What is the use of this? It is a silly reaction that wastes one's time without doing anything but getting angry. It is also refusing to see life in a new and different way.
It would be much more useful to ask how one is creating so many angry situations.
What do you think is the cause of all these frustrations? What do you emit, which generates the need to irritate others? Why do you think you need to get angry to get what you want?
Whatever we give, we receive it again. If what we give is anger, we are creating situations that will give us reasons for anger, as if we were staying in a corner with a donkey hat, without going anywhere.
If my words have made you angry, perfect! They must be hitting the mark. And that is something that you, if you wanted, could change.
Make the decision to get ready to change
If you really want to know how stubborn you are, face the idea of being willing to change. We all want our life to change, our situation to improve, but we don't want to have to change. We would rather have them change. To make that happen, we must change ourselves internally. We must change our way of thinking, our way of speaking, our way of expressing ourselves. Only then will external changes occur.
This is the next step. We have already dedicated enough to clarify what the problems are and where they come from. Now it's time to get ready to change.
I have always been very stubborn. Even now there are times when, when I decide to make some change in my life, that stubbornness emerges and reinforces my resistance to changing my way of thinking. And I can become temporarily incoherent and, angry, take refuge in myself.
Yes, that still happens to me after so many years of work. It is one of the lessons I have learned, because now, when it happens to me, I know that I am at a crucial point in my path. Every time I decide to make a change in my life, to free something else, I have to dig deeper into myself. Each of those old strata must yield to be replaced by new ways of thinking. Sometimes it's easy, and sometimes it's like trying to lift a stone with a pen.
The more stubbornly I clung to an old belief when I said I want to change, the more certain I am that this change is important to me. And only by experimenting and, therefore, learning these things can you then teach them to other people.
I am sure that many really good teachers were not born in happy homes where everything was easy, but they have experienced a lot of pain and suffering, and have overcome various negative experiences until they reach the point from where, now, they can help Others are released. Most good teachers continually work to keep freeing themselves, to make deeper limitations disappear. And that becomes a lifelong occupation.
La diferencia principal entre c mo sol a trabajar yo en esta labor de liberaci n de creencias y la forma en que lo hago hoy reside en que ahora ya no tengo que enojarme conmigo misma para hacerlo. En estos momentos, ya no creo que sea una mala persona porque todav a encuentre en m cosas para cambiar.
La limpieza de la casa
El trabajo mental que hago ahora es como limpiar una casa. Voy recorriendo mis habitaciones mentales y examinando las ideas y creencias que hay en ellas. Como algunas me gustan, las limpio y las pulo, y hago que me sigan sirviendo. Veo que hay que reemplazar o reparar algunas, y me ocupo de ellas tan pronto como puedo. Otras son como el peri dico de ayer, o como ropa y revistas viejas: ya no me sirven. Entonces las doy o las tiro a la basura, y me deshago de ellas para siempre.
Para hacer todo esto, no es necesario que me enoje ni que sienta que soy una mala persona.
Ejercicio: Estoy dispuesto a cambiar
Vamos a usar la afirmaci n Estoy dispuesto a cambiar . Rep tala con frecuencia, reiteradamente. Mientras dice Estoy dispuesto a cambiar, t quese la garganta. En el cuerpo, la garganta es el centro energ tico donde se produce el cambio. Al toc rsela, usted reconocer que se encuentra en un proceso de cambio.
Cuando la necesidad de cambiar algo aparezca en su vida, esté dispuesto a permitir que ese cambio suceda. Tome conciencia de que allí donde usted no quiere cambiar, es, exactamente, donde más necesita cambiar. Repita: “Estoy dispuesto a cambiar”.
La Inteligencia Universal responde siempre a lo que usted piensa y dice. Cuando usted formule este enunciado, las cosas empezarán decididamente a cambiar.
Hay muchas maneras de cambiar
Trabajar con mis ideas no es la única manera de cambiar; hay muchos otros métodos que funcionan muy bien. Al final del libro incluyo una lista de maneras en que puede usted abordar su propio proceso de crecimiento.
Piense ahora en unos pocos. Tenemos el enfoque espiritual, el mental y el físico. La curación holista incluye cuerpo, mente y espíritu. Se puede empezar por cualquiera de estos dominios, siempre y cuando en última instancia se los incluya a todos. Hay quien empieza por la parte mental, acudiendo a seminarios o sometiéndose a terapia. Otros comienzan por el ámbito espiritual, orando o haciendo meditación.
Cuando decide uno limpiar su casa, en realidad no importa por qué habitación empiece. Puede usted hacerlo por aquella que más le apetezca y las otras casi se irán limpiando solas.,
Las personas que comienzan por el nivel espiritual y están habituadas a comer mal, suelen encontrarse con que les atrae la nutrición. Conocen a alguna persona, o encuentran un libro, o van a una clase que les hace entender que lo que están dando de comer a su cuerpo puede tener mucho que ver con la forma en que se sienten y el aspecto que tienen. Mientras se esté dispuesto a crecer ya cambiar, un nivel siempre irá conduciendo al otro.
Yo doy muy pocos consejos referentes a la nutrición, porque he descubierto que todos los sistemas funcionan para alguna u otra persona. El hecho es que cuento con una red local de buenos especialistas en el campo holista, y les mando a mis clientes cuando veo que necesitan esa información. Se trata de un terreno en donde uno debe encontrar solo su camino, o bien recurrir a un especialista que pueda orientarlo.
Muchos libros sobre nutrición han sido escritos por personas que estuvieron muy enfermas y elaboraron un sistema para su propia curación. Después escribieron un libro para divulgar el método que usaron. Pero no todo el mundo es igual.
Por ejemplo, la dieta macrobiótica y el naturismo crudívoro son dos enfoques totalmente diferentes. Los crudívoros jamás cocinan nada, raras veces consumen cereales, se cuidan muchísimo de comer fruta y verdura en la misma comida y nunca usan sal. Los macrobióticos comen casi todo cocido, tienen un sistema diferente de combinación de los alimentos, y usan gran cantidad de sal. Ambos sistemas funcionan, ambos han conseguido curaciones, pero ninguno de los dos es bueno para todos los organismos.
Mi teoría de la nutrición es simple. Si crece, cómalo. Si no crece, no lo coma.
Hay que ser consciente del acto de comer; es como prestar atención a nuestros pensamientos. También podemos aprender a prestar atención al cuerpo ya las señales que nos envía cuando comemos.
Limpiar la casa mental después de toda una vida de complacerse en pensamientos negativos es un poco como iniciar un programa de buena nutrición tras haberse pasado la vida alimentándose mal. Son dos situaciones que con frecuencia producen crisis de curación. A medida que uno empieza a cambiar su dieta física, el cuerpo comienza a deshacerse de la acumulación de residuos tóxicos, y cuando esto sucede, uno puede sentirse pésimamente durante un par de días. Así también, cuando se decide cambiar las pautas mentales, puede parecer que durante un tiempo las circunstancias empeorasen.
Recuerde lo que pasa al terminar la cena de Nochebuena, cuando llega el momento de limpiar la cazuela donde se cocinó el pavo. Como está toda quemada y llena de costras, usted la pone en agua hirviendo con detergente y la deja remojar un rato antes de empezar a fregarla. Y entonces sí que realmente está frente a un desastre; todo parece peor que nunca. Pero si sigue fregando sin desanimarse, la cazuela pronto quedará como nueva.
Lo mismo pasa cuando uno se quiere quitar las incrustaciones mentales. Cuando las remojamos con ideas nuevas, todos los pegotes salen a la superficie y se ven más. Insista en repetir las nuevas afirmaciones, y verá qué pronto se habrá librado totalmente de una vieja limitación.
Ejercicio: La disposición a cambiar
Entonces, hemos decidido que estamos dispuestos a cambiar, y que usaremos todos los métodos que nos den buen resultado, sin excepción. Quisiera describirles uno de los métodos que uso conmigo misma y también con otras personas.
Primero, vaya a mirarse al espejo y dígase: “Estoy dispuesto a cambiar”.
Observe cómo se siente. Si advierte vacilaciones o resistencias o ve que simplemente no quiere cambiar, pregúntese por qué. ¿A qué antigua creencia está aferrándose? Le ruego que no se riña; limítese a observar de qué se trata. Apuesto a que esa creencia le ha causado mil problemas, y quisiera saber de dónde proviene. ¿Usted no lo sabe?
Pero no importa que sepamos o no de dónde viene; hagamos algo por disolverla, ahora mismo. Vuelva otra vez al espejo y, mirándose profundamente a los ojos, tóquese la garganta y diga diez veces, en voz alta: “Estoy dispuesto a abandonar toda resistencia”.
Los trabajos con el espejo son muy poderosos. La mayor parte de los mensajes negativos que recibimos de niños venían de personas que nos miraban directamente a los ojos, y que quizá nos amenazaban con un dedo. Hoy, cada vez que nos miramos al espejo, casi todos nos decimos algo negativo: nos criticamos por nuestra apariencia o nos regañamos por algo. Mirarse directamente a los ojos y expresar algo positivo sobre uno mismo es, en mi opinión, la manera más rápida de obtener resultados con las afirmaciones.
- En la infinitud de la vida, donde estoy, todo es perfecto, completo y eterno.
- Ahora, serena y objetivamente, decido revisar mis viejas pautas y me dispongo a hacer cambios.
- Puedo aprender y estoy en disposición de hacerlo.
- Opto por pasármelo bien con esta tarea.
- He decidido que reaccionaré como si hubiera encontrado un tesoro cuando vea que puedo liberarme de algo más.
- Momento a momento, me veo y me siento cambiar.
- Las ideas ya no tienen poder alguno sobre mí.
- En mi mundo, yo soy el poder. Y yo escojo ser libre.
- Everything is fine in my world.
Excerpt from the book: You can heal your life by Louise Hay
Capítulo 3 ¿De dónde proviene? “El pasado no tiene poder sobre mí.
Capítulo 4: ¿Es verdad? “La verdad es la parte inmutable de mí”
Capítulo 5: Y ahora, ¿qué hacemos? “Al ver el modelo que sigo, decido cambiarlo.
El pasado no tiene poder sobre Mi, de Louise Hay
