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There are moments in our lives that we do not find meaning in our negative experiences, only the positive ones seem to make sense to us, we do not understand why we suffer, because life makes us live those moments so hard, so difficult to understand, to overcome and we often think that We do not deserve them, we wonder what we have done to deserve this ... The truth is that everything happens for some reason, maybe that reason we do not see it until after a while, sometimes short, sometimes longer. That frustrates us, it bothers us, because our logical mind tries to give meaning and explanation to the event and fails to do so.
From my experience, I have experienced situations in which I have not understood the meaning until several years have passed, his pain was so intense, so deep, that it seemed inhuman to live something like that and could not understand that all this happened for my learning, to grow as a person, to evolve.
When we experience experiences of disappointment, heartbreak, disappointment, we cannot understand the reactions of others to us, we only see our truth but we do not realize that there are many truths and that each You own your truth.
We are all good people, we are all good souls, what happens is that our fears, our demons, make us act like that, without being aware of the damage that our actions can cause to others and to ourselves.
There are painful experiences, in which our only desire is to justify our pain, to place the other person as the wrong person and we as the victims. In doing this we always go to the past, this is where our mind justifies the things we have done and how unfair our reward is, or so we believe. In the same way we are worried about our future, we think how we will be, how we will live after this situation, here our fears, our ego, come into play.
What is living in the present, in the now?
Our mind and our ego cannot live in the present, the mind cannot process something that is happening right now, because when it does it is already past, and our ego, our emotions and feelings, are based on past experiences and future but not formed in the present, the ego fears the present and takes care of having our mind occupied with thoughts of the past or the future, because on this depends its existence.
To live in the present is to stop thinking about what happened and what could happen, it is a minimum blank before creating a new thought.
When you are more aware of this state, you live more in the present, it is in the present where we heal, we face our fears and forgive ourselves, to begin to love and love everything.
And in order to love, you have to forgive. Forgive, what a simple word, so easy to say and so big and wide at the same time. It is not enough to say, I forgive or forgive you, you have to feel it, you have to work it and do it from the heart.
What is forgiveness?
To forgive is to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, because we are human and we allow ourselves to make mistakes, it is to forgive others because their fears make them act like this, it is to defend ourselves, always from calm and love, from aggressions towards us, when these steps are made from the heart, thoughts of resentment, anger, hatred, misunderstanding disappear and a peace is installed in our being.
When I finally understood all this, my life began to change and flow towards greater well-being, making it fuller.
Carmen Moriana
February 24, 2014.
Forgiveness is Love by Carmen Moriana
