People spend most of their lives feeling offended by what someone did to them.
The amazing revelation I'm going to make, will change your life
No one has offended you!
It's your expectations of what you expected from those people, the ones that hurt you.
And the expectations you create with your thoughts. They are not real. They are imaginary.
If you expected your parents to give you more love, and they didn't give it to you, you don't have to feel offended. It is your expectations of what an ideal father should have done to you, which were violated. And your ideas are the ones that hurt you.
If you expected your partner to react in this and that way and he did not do it
Your partner has not done anything to you. It is the difference between the attentions you expected to have with you and those that really had, the ones that hurt you.
Again, that is in your imagination.
Mad at God? It is your beliefs of what God should do, that hurts you. God never offends and harms anyone.
A habit requires all its parts to function. If you lose one, the habit is disarmed.
The habit of feeling offended by what others do to you (no one really does anything to you) will disappear when you get to know the source of the offenses .
When we are born, we are authentic. But our true nature is suppressed and artificially substituted by concepts that our parents, society and television teach us.
And create a fake novel of how things should be in all aspects of your life and how others should act. A novel that has nothing to do with reality.
Also, people are creatures of inventory. Throughout their lives, they collect experiences: parents, friends, couples, etc. and store them in their internal inventory.
Negative experiences leave a deeper mark on us than positive ones.
And when a person is mistreated by someone, he leaves that experience in his "inventory." When he meets someone, he is afraid. And try to see if the new person will repeat the same attitudes as the one who hurt her.
Take an experience from your negative inventory. He puts on the lenses of that experience and sees the new people and experiences of his life, with those lenses.
Outcome? The same problems and the same negative experiences are duplicated.
And the negative inventory continues to grow. Actually what it does is that it hinders you. It does not let you to be happy. And as one advances in years, one is less happy. It is because the negative inventory increases year after year.
Have you seen the elderly and married couples with many years? His inventory is so large, it seems that negativity is his life. Again and again they take experiences from their negative inventory under any circumstance.
One of the greatest sources of offenses, is to try to impose the point of view from one person to another and guide their life. When you tell him what he should do and he says "no", you create resentments twice. First, you feel offended because he didn't do what you wanted. Second, the other person is offended because you did not accept her as she is.
And it is a vicious circle.
All people have the divine right to guide their lives as they please. They learn from their mistakes by themselves. Let them be.
Also, nobody belongs to you. When the American settlers wanted to buy their land from the Redskins, they replied “Buy our land? If they don't belong to us! Neither the glare of the waters, nor the air, nor our brothers the buffalo to which we only hunt to survive. It is an idea completely unknown to us. ”
Neither nature, nor your parents, nor your children, your friends or partners belong to you. It is like the glare of the water or the air. You can not buy them. You cannot separate them. They are not yours. Only you can enjoy as part of nature. You can not catch the riverbed. You can only put your hands, feel the running of the waters between them, and let it go on.
People are a mighty river. Any attempt to catch them will hurt you. Love them, enjoy them and let them go.
So how can I forgive?
1) Understand that nobody has offended you. It is your ideas about how people and God should hurt you. These ideas are the product of a social mask, which you have learned since your childhood unconsciously. Recognize that most people will NEVER match those ideas you have. Because they are false ideas.
2) Let people be. Let them guide their life as they please. It's his responsability. Give them advices, but allow them to make their decisions. It is his divine right by birth: free will and freedom.
3) Nobody belongs to you. Neither your parents, friends and couples. We all belong to natures gear. Let things flow without resisting them. Love and let be.
4) Stop thinking too much. Be open to the possibility of new experiences. Do not use your inventory. Open your eyes and watch the flow of life as it is. When you clean your vision of dark glasses and take them off, the result is vision cleaning.
5) Perfection does not exist. Neither the father, friend, partner or perfect God. It is a concept created by the human mind that has an intellectual level you can understand, but in reality there is NO. Because it is an imaginary concept. A perfect forest would be pure trees, rich sun, no bugs ... does it exist? No. For a fish, the perfect sea would be the one where there are no predators, does it exist? No. Only on an intellectual level. In reality it will NEVER EXIST. Naturally, the fish only has to enjoy reality. Any frustration that the sea is not as it wants it to be is meaningless. Stop resisting that people are not as you want. Accept people as the fish accepts the sea and love them as they are.
6) Get intoxicated with life. Real life is more beautiful and exciting than any idea you have of the world. I am pleased to tell you from experience.
7) Imagine that person who offended you in the past. Imagine that both are comfortably sitting. Tell him why he offended you. Listen to his loving explanation of why he did it. And forgive her. If a loved one is no longer in this world, use this dynamic to tell him what you want. Listen to his answer. And say goodbye. It will give you a huge peace.
8) In light of the short period of life we have, we only have time to live, enjoy and be happy. Our companion death at any moment, unexpectedly, can take us in his arms. It is superfluous to spend time thinking about the offenses of others. You can not get that luxury.
9) It is natural to go through a period of grief when forgiving, let your wound heal. Release yourself with someone to let the pain go away. Reread this article as many times as necessary and let the concepts begin to sow seeds of consciousness within. Learn honestly the mistakes you made, promise yourself that you will not do it again and return to live life.
And as the Beatles would say, Let it be!
Let the world be. And let yourself be you too.
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Collaboration of Edgar Martínez
- Subject forwarded by: Mario Liani
