Life brings us many challenges and our greatest desire is to find a way to live it without having to suffer. It seems to be the most difficult and least successful task because we do not know how to face the daily events that continually appear.
The key to avoiding suffering is to accept instead of resisting what happens to us. Accept what happens without reacting, without resisting what is presented, however unpleasant the events may seem, that is the way. These are the only two options we have, there is no other. Accept or react.
We generally resist, fight, manipulate, try to control and change what we don't like, or make us suffer. Other times we run away, avoid, ignore or end up reacting violently because we don't know any other way to face what we are feeling. What we feel is the real problem, not what is really happening. It is how we perceive the things that happen according to our concepts of what is right or wrong. A simple example could be that someone well-intentioned approaches us to give us advice that we have not asked for and we take it as an attack on our person, as an interference, so we react because the concept we have about us is threatened, questioned. . This produces feelings of anger, helplessness and lash out at that person, instead of looking at what hidden beliefs we have about ourselves that make us feel this way. There are innumerable examples that would serve to realize how we project our beliefs abroad, but that would be another writing. Here we emphasize what we feel it is where we have to place our attention, on our erroneous interpretations and not on events that are worthless.
We are so asleep that we do not realize that the situations are whatever they are: what we find unpleasant, what causes us anxiety, what apparently makes us or takes us away from sleep; They do not come from outside, from the outside world. We have a mental filter, a lens that distorts everything that enters, adjusting it to our worldview. It is we who judge, interpret and feel it either as a threat or as a blessing.
Everything that happens to us has no meaning whatsoever, and we are the ones who grant the meaning as we interpret it. Nothing you hear is personal, it is only your memories that give meaning to words. Nothing you see has meaning except in you and for you.
The world we live in is neutral, what gives it color and flavor is our perception based on our beliefs. How good it would be to see the neutral world, as it really is or perhaps with the eyes of love and stop giving it the meaning we are giving it. This depends solely on constant self-observation, training our mind and staying alert because we are programmed.
If we could understand that the cause of absolutely everything is in us and the effect is what we are feeling, the world would stop hurting us. The cause is the definitions we give it, which comes from what we believe. If we can realize that what causes us suffering is our way of thinking and that we can see things, and the world in another way, without judging, without giving it meaning, accepting what it is, without putting mind, without trying to analyze, ... then we will feel peace.
Everything is neutral, nothing really happens outside our mind. The whole universe is mental. The resistance we put to what we are experiencing will bring us more of what we are avoiding. If we accept detaching ourselves with an attitude of complete tranquility and let go of what causes us suffering without stopping in it, we will flow like the river that borders the stones follows its course without deviating.
Depending on how we decide to see an event, either as a threat or as a blessing, it will become another problem or an opportunity and will make a difference in how we are going to feel. From there depends the effect that in our life has; If we suffer or feel at peace. If we accept what it is, without putting our energy there everything will pass without leaving any residue.
What reality do you prefer to experience? Accept, love, thank and bless what you see, what you feel and everything that happens in your reality or complain, regret and victimize you? There will always be situations that seem challenging, unfair, heartless and tragic. There will always be perfectly justified reasons to focus on what is wrong. However, the choice of placing your focus in these situations will link you to the timelines of less vibration and therefore live more similar situations.
You do not need to escape from suffering, you do not have to escape from pain, from sorrows, from what causes you stress, loneliness or disgust. If you can only remain in it, feeling in silence, observing it, making it yours, without trying to solve and without trying to interpret or judge. If you could see it as if in your hands you had a diamond with many edges and you appreciate it for what it is, without trying to transform it, you will soon begin to see its other facets that will give you a feeling of great freedom. If you accept what it is, without prejudice and without preferences, you will soon begin to see hidden blessings in all situations.
The implicit blessings in what causes us the most pain is that they have the greatest potential to transform us.
Changes are the only constant in the universe, you can accept them by saying THANK YOU, loving them or you can resist them fighting, but they are inevitable. By not engaging in what harms us, letting it happen, it will continue its path without touching us. If you react, if you resist him, it is yours and you will have to deal with its effects.
Embrace any unpleasant situation, instead of resisting and fighting against it and after experiencing it, you will find peace.
I love you
Jocelyne Ramniceanu
Source: http://hooponoponoenvenezuela.wordpress.com/2013/01/15/que-debo-hacer-resistirme-o-aceptar/
