Table of contents hide 1 What is Ho'oponopono? 2 What is inside of me that is attracting this person that I feel is doing something to me, or that it offends me or that it hurts me? 3 What will happen? It will happen that other relationships will come, the next one and it will be exactly the same. 4 The problems are not at the physical level, we treat everything at the physical level, but in reality the problem is not there. 5 Difference between memories and inspiration. 6 But there is a relationship that I would like to talk to you very much, because it really reaches my heart, and that is the relationship with our children that seems very important to me especially in these times that we are living. 7 Become children again, in all relationships. In the couple, in the work, go happy, they will look at you with a weird face, because if they arrive happy at work, they know that it is as if we do not trust neither happiness nor peace. On the contrary, we find it suspicious. 8 What are we going to choose? We are going to choose to be at peace or we are going to choose to be right. 9 Do you know how we become automatic? 10 Always ask yourself what example you want to give, right? 11 How do we let go? Thanks or I love you. 12 Did you hear the phrase that what we resist persists? To think, to worry is to resist. 13 Because we are always taking care of ourselves, another very important thing in relationships, yes? and well it applies a lot in relationships, don't worry what the rest do. 14 So very, very important to worry about what we do, we already have enough of what we bring, so we want to accumulate more memories that we have to erase.

This article will consist of providing you with a tool that, perhaps, you already know to be able to heal and improve your love relationship and all those relationships that summon you most day. It is one of the easiest tools to apply, since it requires a few minutes and comes from an ancient and very powerful ancestral wisdom. In this way, I bring you from a conference of Mabel Katz, her wonderful words and teachings through which you will learn in a very loving way how to start healing your relationships, especially the relationship with your sons. Before I begin, I tell you a little about Mabel Katz. Mabel is a native of Argentina, is a speaker, author and leader of seminars, is summoned and acclaimed by people from all over the world and in addition, she is recognized as the main authority of the Hooponopono, ancient Hawaiian art through which one can achieve states of great happiness, peace and live and work in consonance with those states. In addition to all these benefits, this art promotes mental clarity and a lighter and lighter life full of joy and pleasure. This wonderful writer, created a series of talks and seminars for different types of institutions, companies and individuals that apply Hooponopono practices so that they develop and reach their full potential and so that the People get success in their work and in all areas of their lives.

Improving relationships by MAbel Katz Comments by Gisela S.

What is Hooponopono?

The Hooponopono is an ancient Hawaiian art of problem solving that tells us that everything is really inside of us that there is no one outside, doing nothing to us. So when we talk about this, relationships are very important to take one hundred percent responsibilities .

What is inside me that is attracting this person that I feel is doing something to me, or that it offends me or that it hurts me?

What is inside me?

It does not have to do with having something bad, or because we are sinners or because we have bad luck but they are simply people who come to touch the buttons because they know, they are like little angels, who know where to press for us to react. The secret is not to react . The secret is to know that simply everything that appears in our lives are programs, are memories, that touch, that are in our conscious. And the subconscious does not know, it has no discernment, it is like playing this memory, sometimes as if playing the disks like the dj.

So, it's our conscious mind that has to make that decision, and touch that erase key and I'm going to stop the disk . Because I am attracting him, I am responsible. The main thing is when, for example, we leave a relationship, the important thing is that we do not do it from the point of view, as we sometimes do to blame, to think that it is the other and that we are well. Because if we don't take responsibility that it's us attracting that.

What is going to happen? It will happen that other relationships will come, the next one and it will be exactly the same.

We will continue to attract the same. That's why we say in Ho'oponopono that life is a repetition of memories and if I really want to change something in my life, outside, I have to change myself . When I change, everything changes. So, all of those memories are that most are past lives, most are from past lives and what happens with this is that we are trying to understand all the time, to analyze. But in reality there is nothing to understand, nothing to analyze but only to be aware, to be more present and to know that at that moment it is a memory that is touching that actually comes as a blessing of wanting to help us, for what? To want to free ourselves. Because all these memories are like anchors . They don't let us move forward, they have us as stagnant. So, if I want to change my life, I have to take responsibility, well, but what do I do? It says a lot of people.

Let's talk about a relationship with another person, which can be romantic, as a couple, no matter what. The other person does something, says something that bothers me, so I can simply say thank you, thank you, thank you, I repeat mentally because there is our power. It is in the decisions that I make, then if I stop the stories, this part as I call the crazy woman of the house, who is always talking and thinks that she is right or wants to be right and the last word. So, that way I don't attract happiness. And then, if I want to bring more happiness and something happens with a work relationship, or a relationship, or with the children, if I realize that I am attracting it and that, in addition, I can change it, the only thing What I have to do is repeat mentally: thank you, thank you, thank you.

Why?

I stop the stories, stop my reaction, stop my opinions and judgments, and when I do that I ask the divinity to erase and transmute, and when the divinity erases it and transmutes it not only erases it from me but from that person and everyone . Especially from the family, relatives and ancestors. Most of the problems we have come from our ancestors. Then I need to know that if I really want to change something, I have to delete.

The problems are not at the physical level, we treat everything at the physical level, but in reality the problem is not there.

A very dear Mexican friend Mabel once told me, do you know what I realized? That in reality all the difficult people in our lives are those who really love us . That is, those who came to this life to touch the buttons.

So the main thing for us is to know that these difficult people, really one day, before we came to this world, raised my hand and said: ok, I'm going to make you a husband, I'm going to make you a son, I'm going to approve you, I'm going to make your boss and I'm going to mistreat you. They are our friends really, the people who said ok I'm going to play that role.

Because we really have to realize that nothing has to do with what is happening now and that when we really open ourselves to that possibility that I am responsible and that I can really do it, and I can change that returns power. Because when I blame, I see others as enemies, or when I see myself as always having bad luck, I am not helping myself and I am not helping anyone. I am definitely not attracting peace and neither is happiness.

Now something very very important, when we do this, we do not make the other change, we do it for us to be at peace, for us to be happy . We do not depend on the other to change to be happy. We are always putting things out. When he changes, when he washes, when he asks me for forgiveness, does he? And we are not happy, so I will say this thank you, thank you, thank you, for me to be at peace. In order to be present, I have to remember the following at that time: it is not what you are telling me, it is not how you are treating me at this moment, but it is a memory; And again, memories do not know. And we don't know where they come from, we don't know why, but our job is to take responsibility and let go.

Hooponopono is really sorry, forgive me for what is in me that created this . I know that many of you learned it or believe that the Hooponopono are four sentences, sorry, forgive me, thank you, I love you. Personally it is not the Hooponopon that I practice, personally it is not the Hooponopon that I teach because it is not the teacher that my teacher taught me Dr. Ihaleakal. But if it works, why? Because they are stopping the madwoman, because they are returning to the present, because the madwoman of the mind either leads us to the past or leads us to worry about the future, we are never present. Because the four phrases also help me ask for help, but I ask for help, help cannot come . My job is to let go, so if someone tells me something and it really hurts, I say I'm sorry, forgive me for what is in me and that created this.

My teacher, Dr. Ihaleakal, received it, received easy tools such as thanks, as he loved you and many more, and God said to him: Tell us that Say thank you that I already know what you want to say . Then just saying thank you, God is already working for us, God starts to transmute, to erase . How we erase, how we create an empty space or now inspiration can come .

Difference between memories and inspiration.

The difference between memories and inspiration is that inspiration is going to be right and perfect for us, we don't know what it is. But it will always be something new, something different. For me, knowing that I am coming or acting from my inspiration is to take me through my feelings, which feels good. Maybe it's not going well, but it felt good. Because that can happen, because it was the right and perfect thing. When we say this is the right and perfect couple, it's the one that I don't have a yes or a no, the one that we understand and get along great, but no! It is the one that will touch my buttons, it will show me what I still have to heal, what I need to work. So, it's about us letting go, taking that one hundred percent responsibility, the four phrases are also a way of letting go, but I'm here to clarify that it can only be thank you, thank you, thank you, mentally and God already knows, God is going to Do the transmutation.

Thanks, he loves you, it's like pressing the delete key, because we are always talking to the monitor, we want the monitor to change, like when we go to the cinema and we get hooked with the movie on the screen but we know that the movie is not on the screen. Well, that person who is hurting them at that moment, who is taking advantage, who is not treating us well, is not out there, is the screen . That doesn't mean he has to see me the whole movie. Okay? If I don't like it, I can get up and go, but from a hundred percent responsibility. Okay? Very important and that in all relationships.

But there is a relationship that I would like to talk to you very much, because it really reaches my heart, and that is the relationship with our children that seems very important to me especially in these times that we are living.

We are the example for them so it is very, very important first that we see them as our teachers because in reality our children are our teachers and are in our lives to teach us, to help us be better. We always give it to perfect parents and we know everything, but kids can't be lied to, they know, so the main thing is to be honest, to show ourselves vulnerable, because the real thing is that we are vulnerable, the real thing is that we don't We know that we have to become more humble, out there ask them what they would do, or ask them for advice or make them part of the solution. If I have a problem with my son I ask him, to see how I can solve it, so that we are all happy, talking does not work, I have to press that delete key or I have to stop the projector if I do not want to watch the whole movie, but always from one hundred percent responsibility . Also or when my child behaves, when studying, when doing homework. Do not! Don't wait, you can be at peace now, as long as you don't do your homework or don't do it . And your children will find the way, our obligation is to create happy children, but for that we have to be happy first . We have to be at peace. Then very important.

Become children again, in all relationships. In the couple, in the work, go happy, they will look at you with a weird face, because if they arrive happy at work, they know that it is as if we do not trust neither happiness nor peace. On the contrary, we find it suspicious.

If someone comes to work happy, we suspect. He must walk badly or he must walk in something strange. I have to realize that, because we boycotted ourselves, being happy or being at peace. We need to be different, so we need to be different with the couple, we need to be different in the street, with our children, with everyone. Give us permission to play dumb, to have fun . Let's choose to have a good time, because we have something in mind, nobody came to suffer, and again, the relationships we attract in our lives we planned before coming . Even our children, if you think they don't have the right or worse children, that the parents don't have, that they didn't have the right parents, we have to erase, because they are. When we were not in this body, when we did not know the time, when we did not have the limitations of the body, we chose this.

Now the intellect, we talk about the memories being all in the subconscious, yes? Well, the intellect has a very important function, that of choosing . The intellect is the one who chooses, will he let go or not. No, no, I don't have to have the last word, not me. Those are the things that the intellect does, but it doesn't work, does it? The only function of the intellect is to decide, oh well I'm going to try this and let go, I'm going to try this to ask for help, no, I don't have to do it alone. Sheer, and we get a weight off, I don't need to know, I don't need to do it alone, okay?

Then the conscious when things hurt, when these difficult people come into our life what does he do? Again, it hooks, we are in automatic, reacts . We are all in automatic, intellectually I can make the decision, because that is what God gave me, free choice . When perfect things appear in my life, what am I going to do? I have to press that delete key. I have to take responsibility but simply by saying thank you, God already knows that I am pressing the key, that I am giving permission, that I am taking responsibility.

I really call this the easiest way, and it is really the easiest one, there are many but one easier one that they won't find. This easier path, allows you again, to be children again, to connect with the power that you have inside. Because again when I don't want to forgive, it's a big one, when I don't forgive, I tie that person with me, I charge that person for the rest of my life and it's a very heavy burden.

In Hoonoponopono we forgive but here inside (heart) we just work with that reaction that I have and decide to release it, why? Because I am not going to do more damage to me, when I do not forgive, I do the damage to myself. So, all of these are intellect decisions. Cleaning as we call ourselves in Ho'oponopono begins in the intellect. I will release or not, I will say thanks or I will paste, as we say in Argentina, a pineapple. We have to make decisions in our life .

What are we going to choose? We are going to choose to be at peace or we are going to choose to be right.

That's right, but we don't have to suffer along the way, we can have everything we need when we need it, and for that comes a very important part that is to trust . Release, but when I release I have to trust, I have to release seriously . We always say: "I said thanks in the morning and nothing happened", no, no! and this must be done all the time.

Do you know how we become automatic?

Something they don't like, applying only one thing, well maybe Ho'oponopono may not choose anything else, but when they choose something, they have to do that, because if not the inner child that is our subconscious does not It will help us. The inner child that is our subconscious that apart from having all memories, is our emotional part, the subconscious, is the inner child, it is also the one that manages our body. For example, I am breathing and I do not think how to breathe, my heart is beating but I am not thinking how the heart beats. Then, the subconscious can also do this cleaning automatically, but it will not do it if it is confused, but knows what we do when a problem comes. Yes? So our job really is to let go. Our job is to take responsibility that is what makes us attract this, I have a problem with a child, I have to take responsibility, work on me, I have to worry about being happy, giving him that example.

Always ask yourself what example you want to give, right?

Because one of the most important things is that the era of sacrifice has passed . So it's no use putting them first, staying in a relationship that doesn't work for them, okay? Or tell them that everything will be fine when I don't believe it, I have to start practicing it. Then I call it the easiest way, because they won't find it easier, but if I have to tell them it's not so easy to practice it. Because sometimes we cannot avoid getting hooked, sometimes we cannot avoid stopping opinions and judgments. It is stronger than us.

So what are we going to do next time we have a problem? Just drop.

How do we let go? Thanks or I love you.

What are we doing when we are releasing? We are taking responsibility and saying sorry, forgive me for what is in me that created this . Remember, you don't have to repeat all that, just with a thank you or a love, that's it, as I said thank you, thank you, thank you, I can say I love you, I love you, I love you, mentally. S ?

Everyone, especially our children, talk to them when they are asleep, because the subconscious never sleeps, then if you want to speak to the subconscious not to the intellect of the other person, because you will always be trying to be right In the intellect of the other person, then he does not listen. Again, remember that it is the monitor, the screen, the only thing you have to do is release. The only thing you have to do is take responsibility, the rest is responsible for divinity, as you understand it, but for that I have to give permission, thanks and I love you is a way to give permission, but Am I really going to let go or am I going to keep thinking? When I think and I am getting hooked, or when I worry, or I think it is because I am getting hooked.

Did you hear the phrase that what we resist persists? To think, to worry is to resist.

You know the story, in my first book the easiest way, I tell the story of the creation that Dr. Ihaleakal told me, it says that when God put Ad Nynya Eva on earth, said: you do not have to worry about anything, I can provide you with everything, what you need, but he gave you the little apple. And he said to them: This is not necessary, I can provide them. But you have free choice, and that little apple, represented thinking, represented worry . And we still do it because we do not trust, we do not trust that there is a smarter mind than ours that can solve all problems, we do not trust that there is a smarter mind that has all the Solutions, of all problems.

The apple represented thinking, the apple represents worry and we do not need.

Because we are always taking care of ourselves, another very important thing in relationships, yes? and well it applies a lot in relationships, don't worry what the rest do.

If there are many things that seem unfair, but many times it is a consequence of other lives . Sometimes, we will know, sometimes not, but the main thing is to trust, the main thing is to trust us, the main thing is to know that behind everything there is a divine edge . Yes? That if it were not right and perfect for us, God would not bring them to us, we would not put it in our lives, because there is a possibility of healing . So, you worry about yourself, for what you do, they say, because everything really comes back because of that I tell you that many of the things we don't understand because they come from other lives but everything in our life is consequences of decisions we make, everything is consequence of actions, of thoughts then, you don't have to be the judges, but you have to know that everything comes back in life, don't criticize, don't envy. Yes? Because all those things, they bring more than we don't want.

So very, very important to worry about what we do, we already have enough of what we bring, so we want to accumulate more memories that we have to erase.

Know that the relationships we have both work and personal, are opportunities to erase. They are blessings even if it doesn't seem like it and what I have to do is take responsibility.

I am going to tell you another story, which is in my first book that of love. To always put love first, because when we put love first, relationships will be much more peaceful, when we put love first, wealth and success come, isn't it? Always, always, everything always, follow love, then we are really love but we are loaded with all these toxic memories, then well anyway, then we cannot avoid it.

REDACTORA: Gisela S., editor of the great family of the hermandadblanca.org.

Source: Article based on Mabel Katz's Channel Conference, improving relations, whose link is as follows: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w9uwNDCqla0