The happiness of Non-Duality
It is true that sometimes we do not realize the existence of situations or positions that we adopt as a philosophy of life and that make us suffer.
discomfort or frustration ...
For example, sometimes we make family decisions that despite being seemingly right leave us feeling uncomfortable or frustrated. If we somehow decide to take our children to a new school ... we experience a feeling of concern as a result of wishing we were doing the right thing.
The above is the result of what is known as the dualistic vision of life, that is, we perceive ourselves in relation to the self and the other, they and we, alone or accompanied ... if we observe a little we act and live in relation to opposites ... .this without consciously perceiving it causes us discomfort.
For example, we find a father and a son ... this is correct because it is a kinship relationship that implies obligations and rights too, however, in the East it is understood that basically there is no such thing as the other because we all have one essence that is not subject to time, age or conventions ... that is our ultimate nature or Rigpa as it is also known.
busy and distracted ...
Perceiving our essential nature is not easy because we are immersed in a world in which what happens daily keeps us busy and distracted to clearly perceive who we are and how we operate.
This is how many teachers claim that we are like a diamond hidden in the mud, like a lotus in the middle of a swamp or like a clear sky with clouds that detract from it.
In the case of dualistic views, we know that they understand concepts that do not define exactly what we want to express, at best they only approximate.
stable moments ...
Our ultimate nature does not see itself as the self and the other. In the field of meditation it is easier to observe when reaching stable moments we perceive that everything is an open space that allows everything to have a place.
At that time there are no concepts to attend to other than dwelling in that last state. In this one feels neither happiness nor suffering is a continuum of clarity that fills us with peace.
This is how everything is experienced in the same flavor, so it is known in the East, somehow there is no one good or bad, we are only human beings in search of happiness and meaning ...
Deep down we all point to that goal, happiness, of course that in the exercise of our freedom we can find infinite variations and ways to do it.
pursuit of happiness…
In this approach, genuine compassion rests on this point of view in which you do not see the other as the one who suffers ... but as someone who is in search of happiness like all those around us.
Of course we can ask ourselves: How can a murderer look for happiness in killing someone? We cannot understand for sure, what he does is that he is looking for some benefit in That action, you are not looking to suffer, some pleasure, however inexplicable it may seem, derives that behavior.
The above does not mean that everything is acceptable if we are in search of happiness, which really leads us to genuine and lasting well-being is everything we do without harming everyone and everything around us without distinction or duality, just like that because it generates peace in our daily actions.
If you suffer, correct the course.
Understanding our dualistic view of things takes time and demands total attention, it is advisable to use the indicator that never fails which is if we are suffering in some action or situation. We are not doing something along the lines of achieving our well-being.
It is said If you suffer, correct the direction.This is true if we have rancor, remorse and anxiety are signs that something is not according to what we think, want and do.
The recommendation as always is to resort to analytical meditation to experience that mental state of non-duality and if it is not possible we can do so through sustained attention or resorting to reality tests questioning us at some times of the day if we help or we harm those and those around us, if we suffer or experience tranquility or restlessness in our actions ... all this helps us to understand that in our environment there is neither me nor the other ... only beings who try to be happy ... understand that in our ultimate state there is no duality and yes much understanding and compassion. So is.
AUTHOR: Pilar Vázquez, collaborator of the great family of the White Brotherhood