Interesting experiences related to stress have been carried out in the Department of Psychiatry at Bellvue Hospital in New York. It has been shown that the hormones secreted by the human organism to protect against stress intoxicate the brain in the long term and produce a decrease in immunological capacity and concentration and memory faculties .
From our birth we are subject to stress because this condition is necessary for our survival. However, a posttraumatic stress, that is, the one that extends beyond the 30 days following trauma, is very harmful. And from the situation that we are mortal, we are all prone to suffer traumas in life. There will always be tragedies and profound changes in various moments of our existence.
It is necessary to cultivate serenity and psychophysical relaxation, trying to eliminate or shorten stressful situations. Taking time to calm down and look at the situation calmly will facilitate the meeting of solutions and creative ways to continue moving forward despite obstacles.
An important aspect is to free yourself from the blame. Take responsibility for your actions without blaming anyone. Forgive others and forgive yourself. If in the past he did something wrong, it was probably not because of evil, but because of ignorance. Now you have other knowledge and experiences, you have learned the lessons and the important thing is the future commitment to act better and better.
In children there is a greater risk because they not only influence the physical and psychic effects of stress, but also these processes condition the development of their personality. There are many ways to scare a child and make him feel guilty and intimidated, without resorting to physical violence. The boy or girl is tormented with thoughts and feelings that they cannot communicate or share with anyone and learn to endure pain and silence.
Self-esteem and communication are closely related, because depending on how something is said, the effect will be positive or negative, of learning or resentment, which is transmitted from childhood to the future. For this reason, it is understood that fathers and mothers who harm their children's self-esteem do not always do so intentionally, since they were educated in the same way.
It is convenient that they are not subjected to video games or movies with excessive violence or terror, that they always feel supported by adults and that the communication channels are always open. It is necessary to correct and deny wishes in children for their well-being and education, however, it will always be essential to make them feel that even though "dad or mom are upset, they always love him".
The French Institute of Anxiety and Stress, in Paris, traced twenty rules of life that experts say that if you manage to assimilate ten of them, you will surely learn to live with internal quality:
1. Pause for 10 minutes for every 2 hours of work, at maximum. Repeat these breaks in your daily life and think of yourself, analyzing your attitudes.
2. LEARN to SAY NO, without feeling guilty, or believe that it hurts someone. Wanting to please everyone is a huge wear.
3. PLAN your day, but always leave a good space for any unforeseen, aware that not everything depends on you.
4. FOCUS on just one task at a time. As agile as your mental pictures are, you get tired.
5. FORGET once and for all that you are indispensable at work, home, or usual group. As much as that dislikes you, everything walks without your performance, unless you are yourself.
6. STOP feeling responsible for the pleasure of others. You are not the source of desires, nor the eternal master of ceremony.
7. ASK FOR HELP whenever necessary, having the good sense to ask the right people.
8. SEPARATE real problems from the imaginary and eliminate them, because they are a waste of time and occupy a precious mental space for more important things.
9. TRY to discover the pleasure of everyday things like sleeping, eating and walking, without believing that it is the most you can get in life.
10. AVOID getting involved in other people's anxieties and tensions, in regard to anxiety and tension. Wait a bit and then return to dialogue and action.
11. YOUR FAMILY is NOT you, it is with you, it makes up your world, but it is not your own identity.
12. UNDERSTAND what inflexible principles and convictions can be a great weight to avoid movement and search.
13. IT IS NECESSARY to always have someone whom you can trust and speak openly. It is no use if it is far.
14. KNOW the right time to leave a dinner, get up from the box and leave a meeting. Never lose sense of the subtle importance of leaving at the right time.
15. I DON'T WANT to know if they talked badly about you, or torment yourself with that mental garbage. Listen to what they talked about you, with analytical reserve, without believing everything.
16. COMPETITION in moments of fun, work and life as a couple, is ideal for those who want to get tired or lose the best part.
17. RIGIDITY is good in stones but not in humans.
18. One hour of IMMENSE PLEASURE replaces, with peace of mind, three hours of lost sleep. Pleasure is more rewarding than sleep. Therefore, do not miss a good opportunity to have fun.
19. DO NOT LEAVE your three great and invaluable friends: Intuition, Innocence and Faith.
20. UNDERSTAND once and for all, definitely and in conclusion that: YOU ARE WHAT YOU DO OF YOURSELF.
Source: The Knights of the Order of the Sun
Stress (Intoxicates Your Brain and Lower Your Defenses)
