There is such a thing as an old emotional pain living within you. It is an accumulation of painful life experiences that have not been fully addressed and accepted at the time they arose. They leave behind a form of emotional pain energy that meets with other forms of energy from other instances, so after a few years you have a body of pain, an energy entity consisting of old emotions.

She lives in human beings and is the emotional aspect of egoic consciousness. When the ego is amplified by the emotion of the body of pain, the ego has enormous strength still - particularly at that time. It requires a great presence / be very aware so they can be there as well as the space for your body of pain when it comes to the surface.

That is the job of everyone here to be there to recognize the body of pain when it changes from a dormant state to an active state, when something causes a very strong emotional reaction. At that moment, when he overwhelms his mind, the internal dialogue that is dysfunctional at best now becomes the voice of the body of pain speaking to them internally. Everything he says is greatly influenced by the old and painful emotions of the pain body. Every interpretation, every thing you say, every judgment about your life, about other people, about a situation you are in, will be totally distorted by the old emotional pain.

If you are not there present / conscious as the space for him, you identify with the body of pain and believe every negative thought he tells you. If they are alone, the body of pain will be fed with every negative thought that arises and will get more energy. That's why he has become active after doing that for a while, you can't stop thinking at night or whenever. The pain body is feeding, and after a few hours, it has had enough. You feel a little depleted, and then it happens again a few weeks later, or a few days later.

The body of pain would feel even better if it could feed on someone else's reaction. Your partner would be the favorite person. And it will be, if there is someone around. or family situations. Our pain body loves families. And it will provoke this person, his partner, or whoever he is. The body of pain knows exactly what is going to cause a negative response. Then say what will hurt them. And of course, if you are not fully present / aware at that time, then you will immediately react. And the body of pain loves this! Give me more drama please!

Both pain bodies are now awake and feeding each other. Then, a few hours later, or the next day, pain bodies no longer need it. They are full, they have replenished themselves. And you can look at each other and say, "What was this all about?" In some cases, you may not even remember how it all started. This huge drama began somewhere, and then one thing led to another. “Wasn't it the same two weeks ago? Can we be present / aware and see if we can catch it at an early stage the next time so that it does not pull us completely? Can we both try to be present for each other, and for ourselves? Let's see if we can see the first signs of the body of pain - either in ourselves or in the other individual. ”

Immediately notice him and be his space, and if possible - mention it to your partner, say: "My body of pain felt provoked when you said that."

Often, small situations cause huge reactions. Be there for him / aware of him. Your partner will find it easier to see it in you, and you will find it easier to see it in her. Whether they can tell their partner that their pain body has become active depends on the degree to which their partner has already been overwhelmed by it. If they catch it at an early stage, then some remnant of Consciousness will be there in their partner and that remnant will listen to them when they say: "Could that be your body of pain?" It has to be put into words very carefully. Perhaps you would like to add: “Do you remember our agreement?” If there is still a remnant of Consciousness, then she will be listening to you and your partner will be able to be there as the space for your body of pain. If there is no remaining Consciousness in your partner, you will be talking to the body of pain, and he does not want to hear about the body of pain. Of course he will deny such a thing. “My body of pain? Go yours. ”

So what can they do? Can they be the space for that? While the couple is there, be the space for that. When you are the space for something, this does not necessarily mean you have to stay there. You can be the space, and then get out of there. Watch yourself. Self-observation - that's why being in the body is an important part of this. Feel the inner body as often as you can. When an old emotion arises, it will be easier to be present when it arises.

If you are present / conscious, the body of pain cannot feed itself more on its thoughts or on the reactions of other people. You can simply observe it and be the witness, be the space for it. Then, gradually, that energy will decrease.

Living conscious of the Emotional Pain Body by Eckhart Tolle