Arrogance is built on the fear of vulnerability. We have defined vulnerability in the past as "going forward" with the whole Being. It has nothing to do with letting another person have unrestricted access to our energy core. Vulnerability means taking ourselves forward as we are.
In arrogance, there is a constant sense of defense against vulnerability. Walls are built around the Being, often in the form of a certain image that we give to others, paying too much attention and focus to the creation and maintenance of these walls. However, when such attention and focus are given to a space outside of Being - unless what is inside this space is full and complete as what is inside - there will always be a sense of omnipresent emptiness. In other words, the person with arrogance feels constantly empty inside. As a result of this feeling of inner emptiness there is a great fear of being seen and of being considered fraudulent, the void will be perceived by the rest.
There is recognition of the apparent discrepancy between this wall (and image) that remains and the feeling of emptiness at the bottom of the wall.
Manifestations of Arrogance
There are, as you can imagine, different ways of manifesting arrogance. One is more cardinal (out or outgoing) and the other is more ordinal (introverted). Cardinal arrogance or exalted arrogance will result in a constant feeling of pushing out to keep the wall.
A personality is built that pushes outward and that image is solidly maintained, and yet that inner emptiness is known and it is feared that someone who meets that wall will see that inner emptiness and consequently the person with a cardinal arrogance will be considered fraudulent It will be discovered that the king has no clothes. Ordinal arrogance is a little different. The wall exists and is maintained, but there is no constant feeling of pushing out to keep it. The wall is more like a protective shield that provides an illusion of invisibility. The wall is a defense against anyone who wants to enter; This wall is hurriedly placed at the last moment, to prevent anyone from moving from that point. It is known where this wall should be placed when a threat is perceived, but it does not represent a constant external pressure. So the wall is hurriedly placed to defend against the threat that someone can perceive the empty core that can always be seen within the arrogant person. This is the root of shyness. This defense wall that the arrogant ordinal uses can take different forms.
In the case of shyness it is a retreat towards that feeling of emptiness. In this case, the arrogant ordinal only sees the emptiness and believes that others can also see that emptiness. They immerse themselves in a state of invisibility when placed in that emptiness. It feels empty. They feel the emptiness. They believe that others see them as empty and invisible. On the other hand, the arrogant cardinal fears that he will be discovered fraudulent. Ordinal arrogance is chosen mostly by people who already show an ordinal energy. There is no established rule but in general the ordinal model feels more comfortable with ordinal arrogance. It is not always the case and it is not always identified with the same model, but it is a generalized energy choice.
Ordinal arrogance is still based on this constant feeling of emptiness but more like a "defense by offense" that is the function of cardinal arrogance, it is more like "pure defense." When an energy attack is felt in the outer shell of the identity, the person who uses ordinal arrogance tries to become invisible; It is more a stealth function than a projected image. In cases of ordinal arrogance, recognition of the emptiness of Being is typically more recognizable than in cardinal arrogance. In the latter, the focus is established on the outer shell of the personality, so that the individual's sense of personality is lost in that focus; The outward movement is always to escape that feeling of inner emptiness. In ordinal arrogance, the inner emptiness is felt because the person largely identifies with the smallness of invisibility.
THE INTERIOR VACUUM
Often the word "void" is used more to define people with Greed, where this void is tried to fill with more and more. The feeling of emptiness in arrogance, on the other hand, has to do with the Self - a feeling of self emptiness, its value and identity as such. Greed's emptiness, on the other hand, is always looking outward. Greed is always wanting more and more of something, even if that something is intangible, in order to fill that inner void. The fear of that emptiness in Arrogance manifests itself in two forms: the cardinal and the ordinal.
Rather than gathering more and more experiences, things or relationships as in the case of Greed, with Arrogance there is the creation of the individual's wall (cardinal arrogance) or in directing attention to creating the wall of invisibility to protect oneself. The feeling of emptiness exists for both; In Greed the perception of emptiness is attempted to be filled, while in Arrogance the emptiness is attempted to be denied by blocking access to it. When accompanied by Self-Destruction, it manifests itself in clear addictive behaviors.
How the wall is built: origins in childhood
Arrogance is created when the child begins to develop unreasonable high expectations for himself. Expectations often develop when the child feels competitive with others in the family. In other words, there is a constant sense of comparison between the child who develops arrogance and others around him as parents or siblings.
The energy of arrogance is often associated with damage to the third chakra. When the third chakra is damaged by other people around the child who develops arrogance and if there is difficulty expressing the scope of it, it manifests itself in damage to the chakra (if the feeling of competitiveness is great or the child is silenced by any reason such as power struggles) then the damage caused to the third chakra will manifest itself in a change in the fluidity of the child's energy. This fluidity of energy, rather than being self-contained, will always feel as if the center is missing. The center of power is identified, in the child's mind, with the feeling of Being. If there is something missing in the child's power center, then there will be a feeling of inner emptiness. The great expectations of the Being tend to be formed when there are frequent attacks made by the third chakra of another person of trust towards the third chakra of the child.
Because there is a desire in the child to maintain the connection with the person who is damaging his third chakra, there is a desire to please. However, and due to the nature of power interactions, there can never be a genuine pleasure in the other person, so the child adopts this dynamic of competition and transforms it into high expectations for himself., which makes him an uncompromising person, as is the case with prodigy children or they throw themselves at anything they hope to excel at.
It is quite interesting to note that it is a consequence of an inner emptiness that most individuals who stand out in any activity cannot fill that feeling of inner emptiness because they are always enlarging your expectations, no matter how good they may be in something. It must be understood that not everyone who has the energy of arrogance will excel at anything in particular. The feeling of competitiveness sometimes manifests itself in competing to be the worst . But even without excelling, the dynamics are the same expectations, power struggle and a feeling of inner emptiness. This wall, this identity image, is created in part to be great as the person against whom you are competing, to be as good as the father, mother or brother, but at the same time there is a feeling of security that you will never be as good as the person they are competing with; It is a situation where you always get lost.
Relations in the wall of Arrogance
In general, relationships with people with Arrogance can be frustrating if someone wishes to maintain a close and intimate relationship that is not also co-dependent. People with Arrogance want to be close but have an intense fear of letting someone see who they are. They get used to putting up all kinds of defenses or maintaining self-destructive relationships when other people get too close. In other words, they break up with the other person in any relationship that progresses and is more intimate, or they close completely emotionally.
People with arrogance tend to take the easy role in relationships: The Protector, The Caregiver and The Provider are some examples. They assume a role and it is difficult for them to get out of this paper. They tend to choose partners to help them feed those identity roles they acquire in the relationship. They are very susceptible to making the same manifestations of behavior over and over again in a relationship. They tend to manifest a pattern of serial monogamous love adventures and have difficulty being with the same person for a long time, unless that person is satisfied that there is an element of distance or an imbalance of power in the relationship n.
A person with arrogance in general, will not feel comfortable in a lasting relationship with someone who wishes to have great intimacy. Keep in mind that these generalizations only refer to arrogance not raised or examined, there are no limitations. The general features can be to let go, as we will see later. People with arrogance can enjoy long-term relationships with other people, as long as these people feel comfortable in these relationships where there is an element of distance. We know about long-term relationships and working very well, in which one member is arrogant and the other is not, but that he is happy interacting with that created image rather than with the inner person.
However, arrogance also leads to a strong disconnection with the Self. People with arrogance can be very functional and help others a lot, but do not necessarily perceive that there is a problem or the nature of their feeling of empty.
Social Rewards
Also as with Martyrdom, there are social rewards towards arrogance in modern western culture. Western culture admires that feeling of being more than it really is. Admire the strutting of John Wayne, admire the bravado. There is an element in the energy of arrogance that has that, especially in the cardinal arrogance that pushes out. What is not contemplated at the social level, is the fear that fraud will be discovered. Because of this fear that inner emptiness will be discovered, the arrogant person will push harder, daring to do great things and become bigger. Ironically, it is the most arrogant cardinal who denies his Being the most inside, it creates a lack of self-awareness.
It is in this irony that very often arrogant cardinals conduct self-help workshops. These people can deny themselves because they completely believe the image they have created of themselves. You can go with that image, put a lot of energy into that image, even think: "I am the guru and I help you", without even attending to that feeling of inner emptiness. The admiring energy of the students reinforces the pattern of arrogance and creates even more fear that others may see that inner emptiness. Perceptions, and perceptions of students in that context, are repressed unconsciously until there is a small awareness of the nature of Being.
It is not that these people are inept and cannot do anything due to omnipresent fear, in fact it often leads them to help others, but there is always a deep and constant fear of being discovered, even at a subconscious level and not aware of it. There is damage in the center of power. Often the arrogant seem to have great energy and seem powerful, this is due to the model they had in their childhood and the relationships they created based on interactions with their family. They tried to be bigger than them at the energy level due to the power struggle dynamics. This is the dynamic they know at the level of interpersonal relationships and this is what they are based on and taught to others. In essence, even when a person with arrogance teaches very positive information, that power struggle will always exist.
Let's give an example of a well-known personality. This dynamic can be observed in the interaction with Esther Hicks and the channeling of Abraham. Esther uses a great authoritarian presence and if someone tries to deal with that image and the energy wall built around it, she will automatically quickly and violently sell her energy (along with Abraham's) so that the person retracts. This occurs during Abraham's channeling sessions. If someone questions Abraham in any way that triggers doubts or relates to a feeling of inner emptiness, then he violently pushes his energy outward and causes the other person to withdraw. This is a classic description of a "power game."
Question: What is the difference between helping and leading others from within arrogance and helping others just as a person is? Because of the idea that being bigger is a reward in modern western culture, many individuals are attracted to "bigger than life" personalities.
So there is a magnetic effect on teachers who have exalted arrogance. The things they say can be great Truths for themselves. It is not that arrogance denies the truth that what they are teaching. The energy of arrogance has a magnetic effect and makes others see them as “bigger than life” that fits their ideas of how the world should work and that they should be “up there” This in turn feeds the energy of arrogance by having a multitude of people who love them and are willing to buy the image of "greater than life." It is a cycle that self-perpetuates.
How is it different from a teaching that does not focus on someone with arrogance? It will attract different individuals. When you need to look outside of yourself to find the Truths, when you don't trust your own inner guidance, then you will look for someone who has an energy “greater than life” that includes teachers with arrogance. So what exists is a trend that matches arrogance with other main features that disconnects you from that inner guidance.
When people feel more comfortable when checking their own inner guidance, they will tend to look for teachers without much arrogance who “walk the way” and more in line with the energy structure and who are in contact with both their inner Truths and their Own inner fears. As you know when someone is too “disconnected” from who he really is, including his doubts, insecurities and also his strengths, he will finally feel more complete. Especially, when he feels more comfortable validating things for himself instead of looking outside to find the answers.
TRANSLATED BY: MP
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