Let's recover our voice and inner light when we are parents

  • 2015

Your vision will become clearer only when you look inside your heart ... He who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside, wakes up . Carl Jung

It is true that today there is a lot of anguish and insecurity regarding the education of children. The guilt, the stress, the being lost, sometimes comes to overcome the enjoyment that can be felt in the upbringing, when you take the time to go calmly, respecting the real needs of your children and your needs as a father too .

In the times we are going through, when technology, networks and communications have been able to enter our world, our privacy, our families in such a way; Sometimes it becomes necessary to know how to filter and set a limit to everything that this development entails.

Speaking about our children, it is true that this wave of new technologies can bring benefits, as well as not-so-good things if you do not know how to balance and monitor the time and contact that children have with these advances. We can find an infinity of information that tells us about the pros and cons of new technologies and their impact on new generations. They pose at what age a child should start their contact with all types of electronic devices, the exposure time, the type of information they should see; and it is about finding balance in order to benefit and not later repent as parents of negative consequences. However, if we think about the misuse of new information technologies, these can not only be harmful for our children, but also for us adults.

There is so much information on the web whose purpose is to give you a hand and perhaps be a light on the road for so many people who have decided to be parents. Parenting groups, web pages, blogs (like this one) online workshops, articles, discussion groups, books ... but EYE, let's not let this light on the road dazzle us in such a way that it blinds us and does not let us see clearly What is our mission as parents?

All these articles related to upbringing and respectful education, may well help us if we take this information as advice, as a guide; or else they can provoke us totally the opposite, when we focus and our purpose is to do exactly what professionals, scientific research, specific sites ..., and we go to the extreme of seeing what they provide us no longer as an aid, but as commandments that must be followed to the letter.

In a very personal way, everything I share from this page, which I do with great affection, I do so that we learn together, and each one as a parent must decide between following the advice or not, and / or adapting the information to the needs of their children and families.

I think it is so important when we are parents to have enough emotional maturity that allows us to find the balance between what the environment can provide us, however valid the information that comes to us, and what we feel as parents; taking into account that our children are unique beings, and that what serves or is beneficial for a family does not have to be one hundred percent for mine as well. Here is the importance of connecting with our needs and those of our children, with our own light, since if we can connect with this, the rest, what comes to me from the outside, will be nothing more than an advice, which I can follow or not follow, but never an imposition and / or rule that must be complied with.

When you immerse yourself in your inner world, you find a light that cannot be extinguished, the light of consciousness shines for all, in all ”Alejandro Jodorowsky

Is it not then that more than alternatives that allow us to know from the outside what we should or should not do about the education of our children, we need strategies that help us connect with our inner light, with our truth as parents? It is not easy, because since we were little we have been taught in many ways to look for “outside”, which we actually have many times inside.

Well they say that education has always encouraged and given more importance to reason, to certainty. We are a generation marked by the education of our left hemisphere, the logical one, the rational one, the one that believes and gives validity to what can be checked and measured, because if the rest does not say it and it has not been scientifically proven, does it cost us to believe it no? And this has led to our work as parents. Because while studying at such a university, or my parenting group, does not tell me or confirm that what I am doing is the right thing, I have no doubt? And where is then what I feel, what I intuit, what my inner voice says, my voice as mother and father?

I think the time has come to start connecting with that sleeping, numb, silenced part, let's call it the right hemisphere, emotions, heart, intuition. This part that did not educate us, stimulated us, this part so ours that does not want tests, studies, approval or external validity. How do we do it? Here is our homework. I think the first thing is to become aware of this, the rest will come by itself. To begin, we can only turn our gaze inwards, trust and listen ...

By Evelyn E.

Source : https://cambiemoslaeducacion.wordpress.com/

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