Fear that paralyzes: 3 steps to move forward despite fear
Fear was, in the early days of humanity, an instinct for survival, an ally to alert and protect the lives of human beings, lurked at that time by serious dangers. The adrenaline rush that causes the sensation of fear in the human body, prepared them to run faster and have more resistance momentarily.
Today that fear is useless, except in exceptional cases, and the adrenaline rush arises at a time when there is no real danger, but we feel lurked by our own mind, our weaknesses or insecurities.
We can classify fears into those that " happen " and those that " require action ."
Those that happen are old age, illnesses, accidents or the loss of a loved one.
Those that require action are public speaking, starting or ending a relationship, a career or a job, making decisions, making mistakes, intimacy, or making new friends.
All these concrete fears can in turn group them into another level of fear that involves the ego, and it has to do with internal mental states and not so much with the external causes that seem to be the trigger. These deepest fears are fear of failure, disapproval and loss of our image to others. And they are the underlying causes that incapacitate us to give a speech, or stagnate us in a job that makes us unhappy since we are not able to face new job interviews.
You can't make fear go away
Unfortunately, there is no recipe to stop feeling fear . As long as you keep growing and pushing your limits out of your comfort zone, you will feel fear . Every time you try something new and challenging, it will make its appearance.
If you wait to not feel fear to begin to realize your dreams, you will never move forward, you will not move from your current situation.
The only way to overcome the fear of doing something is to do it, and several times until you feel confident in yourself. I assure you that this is much better than doing nothing and living in fear for a lifetime.
# 1 From pain to power
We already know that there are many people doing countless activities, despite the fear that can cause them, therefore, fear is not the problem. The problem is that we stay in a position of pain and victimization instead of moving to a position of power : inner power, power to grow, power to create happiness and joy in our lives.
Every day, do something for yourself that will advance you from pain to power, a small step each day will help you get closer to your powerful part. Take small positive risks and expand your comfort zone.
# 2 Change to a positive vocabulary
Start the changes in a simple way, with the words, which are so powerful. Using the right words can help us get very far on our way to overcome fear . Here are some examples:
Instead of saying "I can't", say "I don't want": you have control of the situation and decide not to do something.
Instead of saying "should, " say "could." It should sound like total weakness and guilt, while it might be your choice, you choose.
"It is not my fault", is another phrase that takes away the power over your life, even if the complete phrase is "it is not my fault to have gotten sick" you must face that something you can change for next time . Say "I am fully responsible" for my illness, or whatever. See what you can do so that it doesn't happen again, you could eat healthier, sleep better, exercise.
"I hope" is another victim expression, "I hope to get a job", it has no power. "I know" has much more strength . “I know I will get the job, I have no doubts!”
# 3 Surround yourself with positive thoughts
Listen to positive audios and videos, and motivators . Subscribe to blogs or sites that highlight positive thinking towards yourself and others. Read inspirational books.
# 4 How complete is your entire life
Develop and feed all the sectors that make up your life so that they all have equal importance. Work, friends, couples, personal growth, recreation, a hobby, family All of them are part of your life and if you give them all the importance they are always going to have an important basis for when Problems arise in any of the areas. For example, if you only put your energy and love and time in the couple, of course you will fear losing it or losing it, and if, for any reason, you run out of it, your life will be empty to. If, on the other hand, you consciously put one hundred percent of your love in every aspect of your life, if you were left without your partner, of course it will be painful! but it won't be the end of the world, because you can rely on the rest of the areas of your life.
For more information on this topic you can read Susan Jeffers' book e Feel the fear and Do it anyway!
Remember that pushing your limits and growing depends on yourself. You only have one life to achieve it.
