To tell you the truth, this is the million dollar question ... in fact, many of us like to be told about this and others experience it as uncomfortable.
healthy and wise relationships…
Actually this precept or vote, "Maintain wise sexual relations", as it is known in the East is kept mainly in the monastic sphere although in reality it is useful for anyone who wants to link in a healthier and more beneficial way with their surroundings.
When we talk about sensual practice we include everything that appears to our senses and with which we engage frequently and habitually.
For example, we can greatly enjoy our favorite chocolate or ice cream, and this is not bad because it is healthy when there is no harmful motivation that can distort the link we establish with the object. This is not edifying when despite having eaten too much we want more without being able to stop causing unfavorable situations such as stomach pain, guilt or overweight.
comfortable state of satiety ...
The difference between satisfaction and excess is very subtle ... but if we remain attentive to everything we do we will find the exact point where we no longer want and remain in a state of comfortable satiety .
It works in the same way with the other senses such as smell and our favorite fragrances, ear and music of our choice.
In the case of sexual practice there is a variable of weight and importance that is the Motivation .
When talking about motivation in this context, we do not mean whether we feel like it or not. Actually we mean yes we do it for honest and correct reason or for an inking of malice and abuse.
physical and instinctive bond…
If at some point this sexual practice becomes merely instinctive in which there is no other affective bond, it is acceptable if those involved are aware of the link, in this case, merely physical that intervenes.
On the other hand, if the relationship is of the physical and emotional type it is important to be sure that those involved agree on what they are willing to contribute. If we notice that the other person has a merely physical expectation and we do not, it is very important to let them know. Otherwise we will be using the other for our sole satisfaction and generating negative karma because it is not edifying to take advantage of others in favor of our own benefit.
impact at the energy level ...
As we can see, there is not always a deep feeling involved, however it is proven that the contact, at least, already contains a large number of connections, especially at the non-conscious energy level that will generate changes in our perception, that is how it is best to act in the most honest way to avoid feelings of guilt and abuse that will detract from us peace and tranquility.
If in some way we cannot have such a pure or transparent motivation, so to speak, it is advisable to speak with the other person or persons seeking to be on the same frequency of contact.
However, there is a great benefit in being sincere and not using others for our own good, since sensual relationships including sexual relationships can evolve virtuously in a deeper and more spiritual sense that does nothing but feed and fill all those who are linked correctly with enormous joy and happiness.
wise administration of our surroundings…
As there are always a lot of ways to relate to our senses and the people around us, the key is to do it in an attentive, willing, responsible and honest way since these characteristics contain the generosity and patience necessary to evolve and be more than what we are now ... if we analyze a little, it is not about suffering but rather about betting on the wise administration of our affections. So is.
AUTHOR: Pilar Vázquez, collaborator of the great family of the White Brotherhood
