It is an emotional state of compulsive attachment to a particular thing or person, caused by the belief that without that thing or person, it is not possible to be happy.
Your mind says: You cannot be happy if you have no such or such thing, or if such a person is not with you. You cannot be happy if such a person does not love you. You can't be happy if you don't have a safe job. You can't be happy if you don't give security to your future. You can not be happy if you are alone. You can't be happy if you don't have a fashionable body. You can not be happy if others act as well. And how many more 'You can't be happy if….'
Your mind is programmed to constantly show you (if it is not for one thing, it is for another) that you cannot be happy. All this is false!
You are happy here and now; but you don't know it, because your false beliefs and your deformed way of seeing things have filled you with fears, worries, bonds, conflicts, guilt, if you could see through that mara mara To, you will verify that you are happy and do not know it.
There is not a single moment in your life when you don't have how much you need to be Happy.
All the things that you stick to, and without which you are convinced
that you cannot be happy, they are simply your reasons for anguish.
What makes you happy is not the situation around you, but the thoughts in your mind
Attachment is an emotional state that has two points, one positive and one negative . The positive is the state of pleasure and the emotion you feel when you achieve what you are attached to. The refusal is the feeling of threat and the tension that accompanied it, which makes you vulnerable to emotional disorder and constantly threatens to make your peace shatter.
Note well: If the object of attachment is not achieved, it causes unhappiness; and if it is achieved, it only produces a moment of pleasure followed by worry and fear of losing it. Can we win the battle against attachments? Yes, giving up on them. Changing our programming.
Make a list of everything attached to you and tell each one:
I'm not really attached to you at all. I'm just fooling myself believing that without you I can't be happy ”
And if your attachment refers to a person say:
“I let you be yourself; that you have your own thoughts, that you satisfy your own tastes, that you follow your own inclinations, that you behave just as you decide to do it. I release you with Love and I release you with Love ”
Now you are in a position to love that person. Why? Because Amar is not love. What you want, you want to own it. When you want someone for you, you're just putting a chain around your neck, and you're tying on the other side.
Love can only exist in freedom. Choose between your attachment and happiness. What you need is not to give up, but to understand, to become aware. If your attachments have caused you suffering, that is a great help to understand, and if you ever experienced the feeling of freedom it will be useful to remember it. Erase in you how happy you make me! and this makes me happy!
Only you, you can make yourself happy and all present moments are because you are in them. And today, the eternal present, the here and now, you will be happy even if today this or that accompanies you. And you can go from one moment to another in life, enjoying it fully, without carrying emotional burdens of the past. And like the lilies of the field and the birds of the sky you will be free from worries, always living the Eternal present.
Whence came your attachment? It sprang from a lie that comes from your culture, your society, or from yourself, that is, from your programming. Just observe: thousands of people live without what you suppose to be the owner of your happiness; and if you review your past you will find something that at one point you assumed irreplaceable, and that time showed you that it was not so. You don't even remember them today. Look how small they were!
Author : Gerdix
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