Table of contents hide 1 When your sense of life is to be useful and serve, one wonders, Is it possible to be in a couple? If the couple does not participate in the same vocational point, is it possible to stay in it? 2 Once discovered what makes sense, is it an indispensable requirement that our future partner has also discovered that same path? 3 Doesn't sharing silence and mysticism with the couple cannot become sectarian? 4 5 Couple and mysticism by José María Doria
When your sense of life is to be useful and serve, you ask yourself, is it possible to be in a relationship? If the couple does not participate in the same vocational point, is it possible to stay in it?
Most likely, when the vocation to serve is lived as incompatible with walking with a life partner, there is some additional impediment to the pure mystical vocation. We all know the story of great initiates, priests and holy nuns who chose the spiritual path over the relationship. However, who feels that the relationship will be a “tangle” because it will cloud the divine surrender to others, may also hide a certain degree of bypass and frustration from past fringes of loss.
Even so, this feeling of avoiding “getting tangled up” is very genuine and respectable, and in fact it can occur especially in mature stages of life. Stages in which illusory layers have been detached and the gaze has been set there where the soul's purpose is truly served.
Actually during the phases of living in which the upbringing was left behind, it happens that dedication to altruistic service can become one of the most motivating sources of life. That is why if suddenly someone knocks on the door generating temptations to form a couple again, many internal objections to such a proposal will be raised. It also happens that when a certain level of independence and consciousness is reached, the same attraction is not felt in the face of the kind of people who, long ago, lit and fit.
It happens that after having expanded the vision and lived relationships with all its lights and shadows, with whom one best relates, it is with other beings who enjoying a certain self-consciousness, find in humanity serving the deep meaning of their lives. These are times when people consider living a project in community, and in their case as a couple with other couples. That is, together with similar beings with whom to share what is discovered, and confirm every day an intimate commitment to depth and coherence.
Once discovered what makes sense, is it an indispensable requirement that our future partner has also discovered that same “path”?
Not always the people who walk the path towards the encounter with themselves, do it in the same way as those who exercise in meditative practices. In fact, nobody forgets that truth, goodness and beauty live in every human being, including those who have not exercised in self-awareness dynamics.
Even so, it is common for human beings involved in personal development who want to form a partner, need to do so with those who have a certain degree of affinity in the expanded vision and purpose of their lives. That is why they feel attentive to the evolutionary resonances between themselves and their partners, while continuing to relativize their certainties and avoid any form of sectarian life.
Sometimes it also happens that the encounter of a couple occurs between beings who, although they do not meditate in a formal way, nor read those books, show an open heart and live in consonance with the great values of existence. These are naturally refined people who observe themselves in order to make the least possible mistakes and mature in mindfulness.
And just as in the first steps of the road, for example who discovers yoga, will long for your partner to practice such yoga, it happens that as you mature in self-discovery, it is no longer required that said couple practice the same type of yoga, but it will often be enough to be able to share the daily desire to realize and live in cardiac intelligence.
This means that as you grow and find a way to contribute in the world, a level of depth appears that demands daily hours of silence and attentive solitude. In reality, in these stages, everything that in some measure gives up the central purpose that gives meaning to living every day is avoided. The fact of having traveled a certain path, has given off old habits and has given way to another type of food, another way of living leisure, another type of travel, other interests, another way of thinking and understanding relationships not only with human beings, but with animals and nature itself.
In reality no intimate company doesn't matter… In this phase of life it happens that if there is a couple movement, it is formed only among people very committed to what they wake up and with their eyes refined to their own essence.
Can not share silence and mysticism with the couple cannot become sectarian?
It is quite true that every search for the heavens does not escape the spiral changes of life cycles. That is, sooner or later one goes through environments and circumstances that resonate with what he left behind one day. A return that in spiritual traditions is called a "return to the market, " and that somehow points out that the evolutionary leap entails the integration of opposites and their corresponding significance.
In fact it is very common that in the beginning of the adventure of consciousness, that person who before his great crisis was considered "mundane", as he discovered the inner veils, became committed to his search and even something fanatic. Later, he went through the spiritual sciences, and as he went deeper into the culture of silence, he found that intimate essence in his own heart and in that of all things.
This is a state from which any place tends to be recognized as sacred if it serves the discovery of a deeper truth. It is a time when there are no longer so many important differences between human beings, the good and the bad, the sleeping and the awake, those who speak in the abstract and those who seem to be from the earth, but conscious love towards all creatures. These are times when the heart opens and from there also a great compatibility with what was previously excluded because it did not fit with the purpose of life.
During this feeling, the possible couple that appears, looks even less casual than others that appeared in earlier stages of greater unconsciousness. And that is when the intention of the universe is captured through the desires, interests and attractions that flow in our person. A time in which the synchrony of the encounter with those who rubs our soul is recognized, and although from the glare of the newly lit flame we insistently look at the starry night sky, we feel that we step on the earth with maturity and joy.
Couple and mysticism by José María Doria
