Our universal fears

  • 2015

We are part of every blade of grass, of every rock in every stream and in every river. We are part of every drop of rain and even the fresh air that grazes our faces when we leave home early in the morning.

We are in resonance with everything from our cars to our homes, which is why we affect others, our environment and our world with just our presence. It is not surprising then that when something changes within us or in the things that surround us, those changes manifest themselves in our lives and they do .

We already speak in “The five mirrors of relationships” that the Divine Matrix (“THE DIVINE MATRIX” GREGG BRADEN) serves in our world as a reflection of the relationships we create with our beliefs. If we have the wisdom to understand the messages that reach us Through our environment, our relationship with the world can be a powerful teacher. Sometimes, it can even save our lives! We talk in this post about our universal fears. You stay?

Fear has many masks in our culture. Although it plays a key role in the way we build everything, from our relationships and our careers, to our romances and the health of our bodies, fear arises almost daily as a pattern in our lives that we don't recognize. But interestingly, that pattern is perhaps not even ours. It is a pattern that is deeply rooted in our collective consciousness, which can be described as our essential or universal fears.

Universal fear patterns can be so subtle in their expressions, but so painful to remember, that we create skilfully masks that make them bearable. Because of the ways we mask our fears, we never have to talk about our deepest sufferings. But not talking about them does not mean they are not; they remain with us, persistent and without having been resolved, until something happens and we simply can no longer look in another direction. When we allow ourselves to delve a little into these powerful moments, what we discover is that no matter how different our fears may seem, they all conclude in only three basic patterns (or in a combination of them): the fear of separation and abandonment, the fear of not having self-esteem, and the fear of giving ourselves and trusting. Do you recognize them? Let's see them ...

OUR FIRST UNIVERSAL FEAR: SEPARATION AND ABANDONMENT

Almost universally, within all of us there is a feeling that we are alone. Within the framework of every family and of every person, there is an unexpressed feeling that we are somehow separated from that or that responsible for our existence.

When we are afraid in our lives, even if we are not aware of what it is exactly, we express radical ideas about the "right" or "wrong" of a situation, or how "it" should have worked. These manifestations show us our fears; The older they are, the deeper the fears. And they are almost never wrong.

If you do not consciously remember your fear of separation and abandonment there are great chances that it will manifest in your life as you least expect it and during the most inconvenient moments.

In your love relationships , your profession and friendships, for example, are you "left"? Are you always the last to realize that the relationship is over? Do marriages, jobs and friendships perfectly "good" seem to collapse before your eyes without warning? Or maybe you are on the other side: Do you always leave relationships, professions and friendships at their best for fear of being hurt?

If this type of scenario has appeared in your life or is doing so now, there is a good chance that you have created in a masterly way, a socially acceptable way to mask your deepest fear of abandonment and separation. By repeating these patterns in relationship after relationship, you can reduce the pain of your fears to a bearable level. You can even spend your whole life like this. However, the disadvantage is that suffering becomes a distraction. It becomes your way of looking away from this universal fear.

OUR SECOND UNIVERSAL FEAR: LOW SELF-ESTIMATE

Almost universally there is a feeling rooted in every person of all cultures and societies of our world, that somehow we are not good enough. We feel that we do not deserve recognition for what we have contributed to families, communities and workplaces. We feel that we are not deserving of being honored and respected as human beings.

Sometimes, even, we are surprised that we are good enough to be alive.

Each of us has dreams, hopes and aspirations to achieve great things in his life, and very often we find every reason to excuse ourselves for not achieving it . Our fear of not being valuable enough to have love, acceptance, health and longevity, promises that each of our relationships reflects the fear of being of little value. And that happens in ways we wouldn't suspect in a million years.

How many times have you settled for relationships that are not what you really want, but excuse them by saying things like: " For now this is the best " or "This is a springboard to something better"? Have you ever discovered yourself saying, " I would love to share my life with a loving, compassionate, tender and caring couple, but ... " or "This is not the job where I can really express my talents and abilities, but ..." followed by All the reasons why you can't realize your greatest dreams right now? If these or similar cases have occurred in your life, there are great chances that they will be cleverly created masks by yourself to question your worth.

OUR THIRD UNIVERSAL FEAR: DELIVERY AND TRUST

Almost universally, there is a feeling within us that it is not safe to do something like that, it is not safe to trust others, the wisdom of our bodies or the peace of the world. Every day we see examples of behaviors that seem to justify and even perpetuate the sensation that we live in a frightening and dangerous world. From the terror, the murders and the assaults we see in the world in general, to the breaches of trust and the betrayals we experience in our personal lives.

Yes, after all, our sense of security in the world must come from the security we feel inside us. Who has not taught us that our world is not safe and that we should not trust?

The root of our negative experiences can be reduced to one of the three universal fears (or a combination of them): abandonment, low self-esteem or lack of confidence.

If we want something to change, we must break the cycle and start seeing each other in another way. Sounds simple, isn't it? It can be deceptively simple but changing the way we see each other is perhaps the most difficult practice we have faced in our lives . Due to our internal beliefs, we experience in our external world the great battle that is being waged within all the hearts and minds of each person who lives the struggle that defines what we believe we are. Until when are you going to keep fighting to keep your masks?

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