Note: Signs of Toxic Love in Your Relationship, by Lic. Marisa Ordoñez

  • 2015

TOXIC LOVE SIGNS IN YOUR COUPLE RELATIONSHIP

Love is the subtle ingredient of consciousness and guidance to experience the deep meaning of our Existence but to get there we must experience our relationship with the world (with others) as a scene of darkness, confusion, deflection and pain. ONLY IN THE SUBMISSION TO PAIN, LOVE CAN REPLACE AND BE WHAT IT IS TRULY FOR US.

This is part of the game, neither bad nor good. The point of challenge is to learn to quickly recognize the toxicity signals that are generated when we adhere to certain roles and dynamics of exchange in our relationships.

That a relationship is toxic means that at least one of the members suffers RECOGNIZING it most of the time in which it develops and there is no way to transform the discomfort into well-being or terminate the relationship agreement that exists because the other member does not recognize, with a clear sense of reality, what is happening.

They are the adhesive relationships that cost the most to leave and close karma in a complete and orderly manner.

In it, humans are trapped by a kind of negative network based on the idealism of falling in love (which is illusion and dependent childishness by which the person is not seen but the fantasy of what one yearns for, desires and projects. it needs according to its own matrix or script of life). It also happens in friendly, labor and social relations in general, since not leaving that network contaminates our entire network of daily exchanges.

Some basic characteristics to take into account to identify the toxicity that can be evidenced from one to the other or between them alternately or simultaneously:

- Unclear, indirect, evasive and dishonest communication. Omissions, concealments, conscientious and voluntary deceptions and any form of manipulation of information to which both parties are entitled to grow in the relationship through TRUST are incurred

- Denial of the Responsibility itself that results in…

- Strive to dominate, manipulate and mentally harm the other in order to relieve themselves of the burden that is not assumed as their own. If this persists it can arise ...

- Force, manipulation and physical damage of one towards another or between both members of the relationship

- Conversely; the seduction and chronic insistence (subtle harassment that at first "fascinates" "hypnotizes" "blues") to "complete or fill" the supposed emptiness of one's own needs can be manifested. Who does not want at some time to "buy colored mirrors" or build "story castles where everything is already resolved?"

- The sustained claim to function as the “salvation” and “goat of sacrifice”: offering to his pair the illusory resolution of all discomfort towards a deceptive state of fullness and freedom that, in truth, each one must activate and reach for himself (within himself) and then offer the best of himself in the coexistence of the shared project.

- Recurring criticism and devaluation that translates into dissatisfaction, disagreement and indictment until self-esteem, confidence and security to interact become negative

- Give systematic and mostly priority to personal issues rather than dedicate presence, priority, time, interest and place to the common field called "we"

- Insist on imposing the law of “as everything has to be” in each one within the relationship so that it works, fulfills us and is well. Without respecting the influence of other higher intelligences or the spontaneous, original and proper of each one thus preventing the wealth that each intervening factor can contribute to the whole.

- Jealousy, rivalry, envy and repeated revenge where the relationship is distorted in the game of "accountability" or "prove innocence" because the elucubration of the lower mind predominates rather than the certainty of intuition that comes from the heart

- Put in the sexual encounter the fantasy of reconciliation and overcoming all that really is dysfunction in the relationship and maintain that true love unfolds in that attraction.

It is a major responsibility, for all of us who offer ourselves formally and professionally as helpers, to work very honestly and deeply on these internal aspects. As humans we are prone to contradictions and it is essential to achieve an authentic authority (energy investiture) of service (that is not toxic to those who arrive trusting in the possibility of being better and of achieving it by working for a time taken from our hands) to keep moving forward in the rectitude and coherence between what is preached in the professional with what is embodied and works in one's own personal, intimate and family life. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO GIVE WHAT FIRST IS NOT ACTIVE FOR SAME. A Vocation of Service is a task of love to display infinite benefits without entangling others with humanity itself.

In the long or short, everything we sow without conscience and knowingly returns.

Infinite gratitude to the Natural Law of Karma and Divine Compassionate Grace that support us in our growth and in our awakening to True Life.

SAT NAM

Note: Signs of Toxic Love in Your Relationship, by Lic. Marisa Ordoñez

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