From a very young age we have been instilled in the value of sharing. In fact, it has been said that people who do not share are selfish and therefore bad people. Nobody really wants to feel like a bad person, so we feel compelled to give even if we don't really want it.
One of the things that probably causes us too much guilt is when we don't want to give something we treasure. And it may not necessarily be something of economic value. Actually, what it costs us the most to give is time. Give attention to someone who really needs it.
The problem is that we can never give something we don't think we have. How could I give someone time, even my children if I feel like I don't have enough time? How could I give my full attention to someone, even if she is my mother, if I feel that no one pays enough attention to me, that nobody cares?
By giving what I do not have, I am secretly waiting for it to be returned to me and with interest.
By giving more than we think we have, we are not happy. On the contrary, we feel more lack. By giving what I do not have, I am secretly waiting for it to be returned to me and with interest. How is it not going to hurt to have given a friend / or hours consolinging her / or for a problem, and that when we have a problem, she doesn't answer the phone?
When we give what we don't have, we feel that we are sacrificing ourselves for the other, and that sacrifice should be paid in the same way. If not, the other person should feel guilt, and guilt must be paid in sacrifice or with punishment. 
All you live that causes you pain, physical or emotional, is the form that takes the blame to be released. The problem is that guilt when released through sacrifice, will claim the guilt of another, so it is never really released, it is only transferred to another.
We live in a culture of guilt / sacrifice. Cutting the circle is something we must do to free ourselves.
To stop feeling guilty, propose to stop sacrificing yourself. You can never give more than you have. What you must do is become aware of what you have, of everything you have to start giving it. Think about your time: you think you don't have time. Actually, if you have, only that you are always thinking about the past or the future. You are never in the present. Take a minute to be in the present completely. Put total and absolute attention on what is happening around you and you will see that there is totality right there. You have all the time, to be here and now. In this totality you can feel, you can look into the eyes of the person in front of you and give your full attention. Sometimes it only takes a minute to get into absolute connection with the other.
When you give what you have, and you know you have it in abundance, then you do not live it from the sacrifice so it does not generate guilt in the other.
I can't give more than I have. But since I am a very lacking person, I give others what I would like them to give me to be abundant. The circle of guilt / sacrifice can only be finished when I find abundance in myself and share myself with the other from that infinite abundance, love and fulfillment.
I can learn to bless others, but how could I give what I don't have? Do I really want to give others what I am if I consider myself insignificant, unworthy? In doing so I am giving the other my pain and my lack of love.
If you really want to be a generous person, start discovering what you do have to give. Never bless another if you don't feel blessed.
Written by Beatriz Cueto, editor of the Great White Brotherhood. If you want to know more about his work you can read at www.Cocreandomimundo.cl or on his blog
