Table of contents hide 1 “Fear in the stages of Life” by Roberto Pérez 2 What is love? Want the full development of all beings. 3 Fear says “cover and shut up”, love says “open and speak”. 4 Why aren't we better? 5 What is the value or place of fear in life? 6 How does this come down to life? How do you take it? 7 What is wisdom? 8 “Take life in your hands and do you know what happens? Something terrible, there is no one to blame anymore! ”9 When one studies these ancient cultures, there is a fundamental key: 10 Then the moments in which life asks us to review are the following: 11 Types of People 12 The crisis It is not the birthday, it is nine months before and nine months later, this is the period of crisis.
This article will be based on one of the lectures given by Roberto Pérez, theologian, philosopher, lawyer, International speaker and Ambassador of Peace. Whose knowledge and conferences are based not only on their theoretical competences but on their knowledge acquired through their experience by being in contact with the Mayan grandparents, Andean people, of the oriental traditions and the peoples of Argentina.
Because his lectures have touched me deeply as a health professional and mainly as a person, I feel the immense desire to share them with our wonderful brotherhood. Their reflections are so genuine and wonderful and their desires so noble that it is impossible for me not to transmit them with our dear family of readers. In addition to all this, the simplicity with which it explains processes as complex as fears are in each of the stages, nothing more or nothing less, than in our life and different social processes that constitute us as people who, it is You need to share it with you.
Roberto P rez is an amateur of the study of societies, that is, of the people who compose them and their behaviors, that is why he conducts his research, mainly anthropological, to understand the human being in all stages of his life, and more than anything to understand our children and thus have better tools to educate them. In other words, he tries to understand and explain the behavior of the human being from the cradle to the bed of his death.
“Fear in the stages of Life” by Roberto Pérez
The idea of these conferences is to spread as much as possible and multiply exponentially and reach mainly young people .
Then, to realize that we are people, and in this way to be able to understand my stages and my fears as an individual, is fundamental to be aware of the responsibilities that I have, and thanks to this I will be able to develop myself better in my work tasks or wherever.
These conferences are pillars to get to know each other better and work on ourselves. As an anthropologist, I have studied different cultures and compared them to be able to know the links of its members with God, with nature, with the other, that is, I fundamentally studied the behavior of each culture. And the common factor I found were fears . In all cultures, in the moments of initiation, always the works of initiation were done where the person has to win himself, triumph over himself.
The different martial arts, in Eastern art, have in common the objective of beating the opponent but they are based on the fact that they first have to overcome their own fear and be in an inner state of calm and so strengthened as to then defeat the other .
In these rites of initiation the work is with one's own fear, if one governs them, has the state they have, goes on to face the outside.
A person conquers himself when he governs his fears . Not only for the spiritual but for everything. If an athlete is afraid when he is going to play, he is locked by them . If you are afraid, the decision you make will be conditioned by it and sometimes there are risks to assume. You have to take a risk because you do not have all the security, when making certain decisions, whether you are a father, mother, director, etc.
The common factor in all orders of life for us to succeed is fear . The opposite of love is fear . Not hate, hate is an emotional state . Because we define love What is love? "Is to want good, is to seek good ." Plato. And what is good in Greek philosophy? It is the full development of the person, of any being. The good of a plant is to develop fully, the good of an animal is to develop fully, the good of the human being is to develop fully, to develop their talents and gifts.
What is love? Want the full development of all beings.
Loving myself is the same, is wanting my full development . It is not selfishness, but to dedicate time and energy to overcome myself, to develop all my gifts, that is to love me. Love of myself always makes me surpass myself, that seeks to surpass me, that seeks fullness. To love me is to seek my own good and want to overcome myself.
Fear does what our grandmothers said "better known bad, than good to know" means that you do not develop, that you remain comfortable, that you shrink.
Fear says "cover and shut up", love says "open and speak."
In a relationship when we do not say what happens to us, the link gets sick and ends up dying. Love always says, but when we don't talk in a marriage, for example, we go straight to the death of it. When fear conquers our bonds since I do not say, but I fell, sick to the bond.
The health of living together is proportional to the possibility of saying what happens to me. If I cannot say what happens to me because they throw me out, because I am crazy, because the other is going to reject me, survival will get sick, and when it becomes customary the disease becomes lethal . The end of marriage is when one ceased to be transparent . Love always wants fullness and security.
Why are we not better us?
Because of fear we do not do what we have to do, we do not embark on the adventure of moving forward and deciding on new things, we remain safe. We are always invited to the sea and many always end up doing lagoons.
In the cultures of the planet, the invitation to conquer fears is for the person to learn to conquer himself and gain his freedom. When the person chooses from his freedom, he is growing well, but if he decides from his fears he will commit acts or omissions that in the long run will not lead him to the best version of himself. But if you take it from your freedom with the risks that it implies and even if everything does not go as you wish, the best of it will always come out. What catches us are the fears and behind any reproachful behavior, any reproachful action behind, always, there is a fear . Fear of what they will say, fear that I said this or that or did this or that, as long as they are not good, there is fear.
As parents we tell our children when they make a mistake Why did you do this? and they don't know why they did it . If we were good parents, we would have to ask them what fear made you do this? The fear of losing? The fear of feeling this way? What fear was behind what you did?
This, pay attention, is an educational key : What fear drove you to that? . The fear that you were missing something, made you steal, the fear of rejection, made you be like the other. What is the fear that was behind the scenes in your reprehensible behavior? . This is an educational key, when you do something that you are really feeling the courage that what you are going to do is not good, ask yourself, do I do it from my freedom or from fear? . Is there any fear that is, right now, behind me? s ! Then watch out!
Fear seems like a bad thing, but first fear is constitutive of our human condition, that is to live healthy is not to be afraid, it is to recognize them! The art of living is to recognize what are the fears that may have me trapped, not not have them. In fact in the East, on the subject of martial arts and initiations the secret is that they discover that fear can catch me and thus win . And when you have this state of inner freedom you can face the situation in another way, but if fear catches me, whatever is outside, it starts to beat me.
This has to do with the whole life of a human being, yes! Fear is constitutive of the human condition that is why loving a person, is not just saying I love you every day is, are you afraid that you have trapped, do you have any fear?
The question is fear constitutive? Yes! But what is it that we have to take out or eradicate?, No! we have to know it and we don't have to decide from fear, it is very simple, not to decide from there. I have to decide from my freedom that you are looking for the best version of me, so the person has matured well.
What is the value or place of fear in life?
Fear is of life, or fears are of life, what the wind is to fire . Then the fear is to life, what the wind is to fire. When we are in a camp we know that if the fire is consistent, the wind encourages it and there is more light or heat, but if the fire is inconsistent, the wind puts it out . The problem is not in the wind, it is in the consistency of fire . When a situation scares you, what you are testing is your personal consistency. If you are facing decisions that you have to make and are afraid of you, it is like the wind, if you are consistent with that situation or that adversity or what you have to go through that causes you fear, it will make the best of you . But if unfortunately you do not have personal consistency that situation, that risk, that adversity what is going to cause you is fear, you get trapped and you get smaller, I win you, I turn you off. There are many circumstances in life where fear moves us forward, for example changing a job, deciding to marry, deciding to separate, deciding many things in life that are relevant. Decide to cut a link or decide to face or say forgiveness to a person who will reject me, there are thousands of situations, in all of them, one faces fear . Telling the person who is my boss what I really think knowing that I am at risk is freedom, transparency is synonymous with freedom .
A marriage or a community where there is transparency, there is freedom. When we cover for fear of this or that, it is when we get sick together. In all cultures there is the recognition that fear is "a masked friend" that comes into my life to prove my consistency . So when someone is afraid, instead of covering it up, you have to say “welcome, now it's my turn to win you, now it's my turn to not dominate me”.
How does this come down to life? How do you take it?
Saint George of the Catholic religion, of Christian beliefs, this saint is very strange for them because he has a dragon and seems a mythical or rare thing, and to have this saint in the Christian religion is like showing the irrationality of a religion by having Such a saint. But the icons of the Byzantine tradition were more symbolic than real, so that question What does Saint George mean? some doubt if it existed, others affirm that it was a martyr of the fourth century, beyond that the reality is that Saint George represents something, something that is characteristic of our human condition. It is on a white horse that is free consciousness, the sword it holds has a cross above, which is the sword of love, and the dragon that is below the horse, which is not dead, but is alive and It's dominated, it 's fear. In the book "The knight in the rusty armor", if they read it, they understand me, since there is a chapter of the book where the knight has to go through different places and in one of them he meets a dragon that he has to face . In the west dragons symbolize fear, and they are generally like Tolkien, writer of the Hobbit, they are always at the door of a cave, taking care of a treasure. What is the mythological idea of this? that fear, that is to get to the treasure I have to overcome fear, defeat the dragon, but I overcome it, I do not destroy it, but I have it subject to fear and what is behind it, so that this knight reaches where he has to arrive, you have to subdue fear, and behind it is a princess or maiden, what is that saying? that to love unconditionally I have to overcome my fears . To truly love a person I have to overcome my fears. If for fear of what they will say, what will happen to me, I think of different things like “he is going to offend, he is going to live with his father instead of being with me”, etc. If I start to limit myself out of fear, I will never love anyone unconditionally. In fact, to a friend or friend, if I don't tell her everything because she is going to be offended or she is going to play badly, for fear of… I don't say everything but I fall, in the end I end up being an accomplice, accomplice of attitudes that I don't should be. Fear prevents the unconditional love that is represented by the maiden, and the treasure is represented with the castle, which in ancient culture is where the treasures were hidden but not a material treasure but that the great treasure of ancient cultures was wisdom a.
What is wisdom?
The word wisdom does not come from the verb to know but it comes from the verb flavor. In this way, wisdom comes from the verb Savor in Greek Sapere. So what does wisdom mean? It means the ability to savor life . A person knew is one who learns to taste life, to like life . It does not have to do with accumulating knowledge but it has to do with well-digested experiences of life . It has to do with walking with a look from someone who is comfortable in life. Therefore, people who face indigestion have no wisdom. Show me with your face, your wisdom . Wisdom always seeks to find deep meaning, what I have to learn from things, what is hidden behind each of the situations and that I have to realize. The wise has nothing to do with the intellectual, there are wise women and men from different beautiful ancient cultures of the earth who taught me more truths than people with titles . Wisdom is the art of discerning what is essential from what is accidental . Sometimes we lose too much time and energy with issues that are not important that are not essential. And unfortunately for dedicating ourselves to that we are not devoting time to the important, to the valuable, to the essential. Wisdom has to do with the art of discerning, with the art of liking life, but I cannot enjoy life, like life, if I am caught in fear . If I'm trapped in fears I stay, I fall, I keep, I hide. I begin to make gossip with this and with the other, I begin to cover, so I am no longer transparent.
“Take life in your hands and do you know what happens? Something terrible, there is no one to blame anymore! ”
Fear is constitutive of the human condition, to overcome it is not that we are not going to have it any more but that we have it very clear, do not hide it as Adam and Eve and learn to return to the paradise that is transparency. How nice it is to be able to talk about everything! I always tell them with my children, "Tell me everything always, if something is going to bother me, it is because it costs me, because of the way you tell me, but never keep anything." "If something is going to bother me, " I say, "it's hard for me the way you are telling me, I prefer that it affects me and we work it to not be told."
We have to learn personal transparency . In my experience whenever I was not transparent I was wrong. That endures, that covers, always with justification. This honesty is the secret, with this I say we skip to the next step.
When I started trying to understand what ancient cultures taught me, I managed to find this key : there are five dragons in the human condition . There are five fears in the human condition and, the most interesting thing studying them is that these dragons are presented to us in life stages of seven years each period . Human life can be shown through cycles of seven years, it is archetypal, this is in all cultures. Science today through endocrine-logical studies and studies that have to do with biology, every seven years the human being changes his cells and makes a hormonal transformation . Science today affirms, what ancient cultures said, that human beings permanently go through cycles of seven years, and this begins at birth ...
When one studies these ancient cultures, there is a fundamental key:
The human being follows 12 cycles of 7 years, that is 84 years. And the number 12, for ancient cultures, means manifestation. Numbers were a quality not only quantities, 12 means manifestation, that is why Jesus had 12 apostles, Buddha had 12 disciples, there are 12 signs of the zodiac, and all the different manifestations, the Virgin has twelve stars. The 12 is what is manifested, is the conclusion, 12 cycles of 7 years is archetypally the life of the human condition . Of course, in the oldest cultures the human being lived much longer because he had natural medicine, healthy food etc. But that was the key period. From the age of 84, people became members of the council of elders, the most important consultation body in the community . These men and women dedicated themselves to play with children, to tell them stories, to enjoy their life. When the key moment arrived, they were consulted to make decisions. The most important moment in human life is 42 years . The crisis of 42 is the most important in the life of a human being. For these cultures, every 7 years both the human being, marriages and human organizations follow 7-year cycles.
The itching of the seventh year of the grandmothers is true, every seven years the marriage enters into crisis, the person enters into crisis. Krisis with k comes from the Greek krinos which means “to decide” so crisis means that it is time for decision, it means that every seven years life invites me to review my decisions and realize if my decisions are aligned to the best version of myself or not Life is inviting me, if we are believers God, behind life, is inviting me not to waste my life, not to go the wrong way, to really hit the target.
Every seven years the human being enters a crisis and that crisis sometimes, we perceive it as a moment of revolution, that is to say I feel that I am not happy with what I have, I feel bad with that, I begin to feel a series of sensations, etc. . And we don't know that behind this there is a common factor, all your energies begin to move. Serrat says it best as a poet “Every once in a while life drinks coffee with me and is so beautiful that it is nice to see her, she releases her hair and invites me to go up with her on stage . Every seven years, life puts me on the scene, invites me to put myself on the scene and look at me, not to judge me, not to enter dramas, but to correct what I have to correct .
And in ancient cultures every human being when he reached that seventh year, separated from the community, was invited to leave retirement and make a life review experience . Today, nothing like that happens. If someone comes to the seventh year of the period I say, this is weird, something happens, it sure has a problem, it must be doing something wrong . And we begin to look guilty, they have nothing to do, but the life that asks me to review me.
So the moments in which life asks us to review are the following:
7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49, 56, 63, 70, 77, and 84.
Think about your age, the age of your parents and the age of your children.
What is usually common is that when a man or woman reaches the age of 42, he has one of his children in crisis because he is 7 years old and his parents out there are in some septenio too. And everything starts to mobilize. And if your partner is 42 like him, both are in crisis and, if they have been married for 7 years! or 14 years of marriage, bue. It adds up, everything adds up.
I invite you to the journey of life, we will begin to understand the secret of 7 years in life and know this, in that period of 7 years there is a constitutive fear of that period that is behind the scenes in my life . Behind the scenes, that fear is in life, which means that if I now know that with the age I am, behind that fear, I invite you to review your own life and realize that sometimes, many decisions and choices are We make from that fear that is behind.
But if I recognize what the dragon is at the stage of my life, is it that I can live more freely? Yes, but is knowing it enough? No !, but to know it is to unmask it and realize that sometimes I think I say things from a place and I do not realize that this constitutive fear of my age, of my stage, is behind the scenes deciding. From there I can review my decisions.
Attention now! The 5 dragons in life, we will have until 42, in the second part of life occurs as a mirror, the five fears are mirrored, it means that the life of a human being, until 42 and from 42 is mirrored . Children and grandparents have the same fear . That is why grandparents and children have tremendous affinity, they are not aware, but they are working the same fear, and that is why in ancient tribes, grandparents always walked with children, grandmothers and grandparents formed children to children. 7 years because they were the same fears.
Types of People
The problem is that there are nutritious grandparents and toxic grandparents . eye! I wish all the grandmothers were an example and they spread to the children the greatness of the human being and not the miseries of a human being. In life there are two types of people, those that last and those that mature . Those that last age and those that mature become wise . The one who lasts complains about everything, and always has an indigestion face, the one who matures, always has a smile and always has reason to thank . When you knock on the door of your grandparents' house, see what receives you? a complaint face or a thank you face, an indigestion face or a smile. Just think! If you receive a smile, and if a grateful person receives you, that will be a great trainer of your children, but take distance, because you have a dad or a toxic grandfather. I didn't say to throw it away, I said take distance . But this wisdom is very clear, that's why grandfather and child are so similar.
In this image (image of two hands joined by the thumbs), the two thumbs touch each other, that is to say there is the same fear, which we are going to reach, this fear lasts 14 years a dragon that to beat him I have to be 14 years fighting with him and he begins at age 28 and ends at age 42 .
The crisis is not the birthday, it is nine months before and nine months later, this is the period of crisis.
Sometimes the crisis manifests itself with problems, with adversities, with winds that blow for you to realize, because sometimes you don't realize it. But sometimes the crisis, thank God, does not come from adversity but from the reflection that something I have to change from my marriage, from my organization, something I have to change. Crisis does not always mean drama, if that happens it is because I do not want to hear, and sometimes something physical appears, through which the body tells me what I do not want to hear.
Let us keep in mind that near the seventh year there are events that I have to ask myself, do you have to say something that I am not seeing? And how nice it is that we have the habit of arriving that septenium, we escape . Nature has four seasons, Mother Earth has four seasons, when one is in the middle of the period or near, how nice it would be for each station to withdraw me 3 days, 4 days a Loneliness, to meet me . The word loneliness is to put sun on the property. Soledad is an experience of ancient cultures to retire to try to put light and clarity to my life, at my age . A mature person is one who knows how to retire to loneliness, to find oneself. Being lonely is being in the absence of others, being alone is being in the presence of myself.
REDACTORA: Gisela S., editor of the great family of the White Brotherhood.
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