La Soledad By Gerrit Gielen

  • 2017
Table of contents hide 1 The Internal Causes of Loneliness 2 Loneliness as a World Vision 3 Internal Healing 4 The secret of feminine energy is to really be able to say “yes” to the other person from Love. The secret of masculine energy is to say "yes" from that same Love. 5 Internal Healing 6 You can make a simple visualization:
Loneliness. Our most misunderstood friend.

June 22, 2017

Loneliness is one of the main problems of our time; Many people feel lonely, misunderstood and not recognized by others. And they are not only the elderly; They even feel lonely people who have family and an active profession. Despite all the activity around, there may be something inside us that feels ignored; then a substantial part of us is not connected with the World or with the people around us.

The Internal Causes of Solitude

As a Human Being you have 2 main aspects: A masculine aspect and a feminine aspect. The masculine aspect (the inner male) deals with the feeling of being "I", a force that separates you and differentiates you from the rest. In the feminine aspect (the inner woman) lies the ability to connect. You were born a man or a woman, as a Human Being you are complete, however that is not what we have been taught; Since childhood we have learned that we are a boy or a girl. This is how we are raised and consequently we are supposed to behave accordingly. So we are alienated from a part of us by identifying with only one aspect, whether male or female.

If you identify with the masculine aspect, you feel lonely because the part of you that can connect, the feminine aspect, is not recognized. If you identify with the feminine aspect, then you connect so strongly with others that you can lose yourself in relationships; Then a feeling of loneliness arises because you are no longer aware of yourself, of your own "I", you lose the sense of who you are as an individual.

Loneliness is primarily and primarily an internal problem: We cannot feel a part of ourselves; we may not feel enough about our "I", a problem that women frequently have; we may not feel our part capable of connecting with others, a problem that many men have; That is why men often feel lonely and do not have a relationship, do not have enough contact with their internal woman (the aspect that deals with having good relationships with other Human Beings), so they are really unable to have a true relationship. Often women feel alone while in a relationship because they do not feel understood and recognized by their partner; they lack something because when a woman does not feel her inner man, she cannot see herself completely; with her ability to merge with the other person, she loses something: herself; then we have the image of a woman who feels perfectly in tune with her husband, but who feels unhappy; and since she does not connect with her masculine energy, she cannot find a solution to the problem, so she complains and hopes that her husband will resolve her unhappiness; however, her husband cannot solve the problem, so he closes more and more to his unhappy and complaining wife. This creates a downward spiral in the relationship.

Loneliness as a World Vision

Loneliness gives us the feeling of living in a World where we really don't have friends or people who understand us, a World where we are alone. The danger is that we see this as a fulfilled fact, as one of the characteristics of the World. In literature and philosophy we find all kinds of seemingly deep statements that confirm it; Some of the best known are: "We live as we dream: Alone"; and "Hell is the other."

If we accept these statements and find confirmation in the underlying philosophies, we begin to consider that our sense of loneliness is an inevitable truth. Loneliness becomes a vision of the World, a belief; we stop believing in a loving God and in our internal bond with other Human Beings ... We are alone in the Universe.

People who do not perceive the feminine in themselves, adopt a vision of the World in which the feminine does not exist, the loving energy of connection; and they consider naive to anyone who dares to reject this conical image, they believe that the day will come when those cr dulas people will learn. The great attraction of this kind of pessimism is that it seems deep; we get to see that men and women are so different that we will never really understand each other; that really any relationship is a hopeless project, that men are from Mars and women from Venus However, the reality is that we all come from the Sun.

How does such a vision of the World affect us? Like any other rigid view of the World, it rejects living reality, it stops the flow of life. Consciousness always seeks to grow, the natural flow of life always seeks solutions; Just like the body, the Spirit tries to heal itself. This natural healing process is blocked when we believe that those negative beliefs that loneliness is inevitable are an absolute truth. We lock ourselves in a self-imposed prison, in which the bars are our beliefs that are seen as absolute truths that make any kind of happiness and growth impossible. And obviously we will feel more miserable than ever. ; and this misery reconfirms our of deep of the World that is to say that the Universe is a completely empty, dark and cold place; hopeless.

The end result is depression; Of course, depression also has other causes, but a common cause is the combination of not perceiving a part of us and of building a wall of negative thoughts around that part., to this is added the belief that the part we are looking for does not exist.

Internal Healing

If we want this kind of crossroads to end, we first have to go inside and ask ourselves: “What part of me am I suppressing and refusing to recognize?”… You can approach this in the following way, for example: Imagine you are a man who needs to have a woman, a life partner. It is probably not so difficult to fantasize about having that woman, you may in fact do it frequently; and yes, doing it is only fantasy; nevertheless it is your fantasy ... And that means that woman is also in you, the woman with whom you fantasize is inside; if that feminine power did not reside in you, you could not have the fantasy of that beautiful, sensitive and empathetic woman who always says kind and wise things; that fully understands you and is always so loving ... What does she tell you? ... Listen to her for a moment.

Imagine that woman frequently, even when you are at work, when you are talking with others, or when you are with your friends ... How does that woman see you? ... Do you allow her to be there? ... What makes her happy? ... Try to feel what she feels ... You will gradually notice that the feelings of that woman are your feelings, so allow them; you will begin to feel that your Being is more complete and rich ... The feeling of loneliness will be weaker.

Loneliness is an ideal setting for your divine being

You will begin to radiate that wealth, you will be more attractive to others; Women will feel that you appreciate them and understand them more. As a man you will no longer see women as strange creatures from another Planet, but as people like you, with the same fears and the same uncertainties. Often men who do not have a good connection with their inner woman have no idea how fragile and sensitive women really are ... How human! ... A sure sign of a poor connection with your inner woman is that you have difficulty seeing women as people; people with fears, worries, desires and dreams. The enormous inequality between men and women that still exists in many parts of the World, is simply the result of the fact that men are unable to look at women as Human Beings. Being aware of the inner woman also gradually leads to a different perception of the world around you: You recognize and feel the inner unity of all things.

Obviously you can do the same exercise if you are a woman ... Imagine your inner man, make him a strong and brave gentleman with a poetic and sensitive heart; that is to say a man who, in contrast to many of those around you, is well connected with his inner woman, with his feelings. You immediately realize that you can have the fantasy of an ideal man because that man exists within you, it is a part of your soul energy; It is the part that has not been admitted because you came to believe that you are a girl and that it is not right for a girl to act in a masculine way. Perhaps in the course of your life you have come to believe that men are bad, violent and aggressive; and that you have to suppress everything masculine in yourself: Say no, set limits, use yourself; you consider all that bad; consequently the good thing is to give you, be kind, say "yes", always. And if you use yourself and show your masculine appearance, then you always feel guilty, as if you had given up on something bad.

The secret of feminine energy is to be really able to say “yes” to the other person from Love. The secret of masculine energy is to say “yes” from that same Love.

Feel for a moment your 'inner knight'; he is strong, can set limits, fend for himself; and say "no" when necessary ... really how do you do it? ... What is your secret? ... Women often think that to have such a strong position it is necessary to have power; But that is not the point. These qualities are a natural consequence of the ability to say "yes" with Love; when you really say "yes", creating the limits in a natural and obvious way; then you don't need strength to say "no."

Use your feminine ability to connect with the 'gentleman' and experience it completely from within; Almost immediately you will discover a very natural self-esteem and self-esteem ... And from that self-love arises the desire to manifest yourself, to externalize yourself: The desire to do things ... From the feeling of being able to say "no" to things that you don't They correspond, you become calm and natural.

Why often and easily what others say hurts you as a woman? ... Usually it is a silly comment that was not intended to hurt. The answer is the lack of self-love that causes continuous internal doubts that cause us to become unbalanced by the slightest observation ... Connect with your inner man, your Love to the Self; and so you will unbalance much less easily; the foolish comments of others will mean nothing in the face of the continuous internal flow of Love that gives you a good connection with the masculine energy… Then, set limits and say “no” when this arises from your own Love and your self-respect, are guaranteed.

Internal Healing

If we feel alone, we want to be with other Human Beings; However, if we want to find that connection, we must first learn to see ourselves as Human Beings ... Just as a person has right and left sides, internally it has a masculine side and a feminine side ... Only when we fully admit both aspects do we end loneliness.

How do we do it? ... We begin having doubts ... As long as we stick to beliefs that make happiness and fulfillment impossible, we will be unhappy; Only when we are willing to question the beliefs that make us unhappy, will there be an opening for change.

You can make a simple visualization:

Imagine that on your head a beautiful star is shining that is an endless Source of Unconditional Love ... That star is your Soul: The part of you eternal and timeless ... The Light of that star descends towards you; and when it does, the Light is divided. Part of the Light becomes a woman and says: “I love the life that surrounds me: To all people, animals, plants; and to the Earth itself ”. The other part of the Light becomes a man and says: “I love myself; and the Love I feel for me gives me strength and self-respect, it gives me the desire for adventure and the enjoyment of life. ” For yourself, make these statements out loud.

Imagine that man and woman travel together; man seeks new adventures and new areas to explore; wherever they go, they find new people and all kinds of Beings, sometimes miraculous life forms; so the Love of the woman can flow endlessly; They go together for life. The masculine side takes a step from Self-love, thanks to which you allow yourself anything: New experiences, new adventures and new encounters ... Then the feminine aspect takes another step thanks to which your Love begins to flow into the new environment and everything in it: Other people, unknown territories, a new World.

When you do this exercise, you will undoubtedly feel all kinds of resistance ... They are your old beliefs ... So look back at them carefully ... Why are you so sure of them? ... How objective are they really? ... How is it possible that these beliefs will they serve you if they make you so unhappy?… If you examine these beliefs carefully, you will discover that behind them there is a starting point: The denial of Love… We have accepted ideas from our culture that say that Love is an illusion, a self-deception based on selfishness and biological instincts ... For example, that you love your children and your partner just because your genes want reproduction.

We do not know how an atom is held together; we don't know how the universe works; we do not know how Human Beings are composed ... If everything could be reduced to a set of mathematical formulas, as some scientists believe in the theory of everything, then in the Universe there would be no place for Love, nor for subjectivity, for internal experience ... There would be no room for the Human as a Conscious Living Being ... In such a vision of the World, Human Beings are only insensitive robots.

Mentally healthy people have doubts; To doubt is Human ... But it seems that people often treat doubts in illogical ways. Imagine the following: There is someone very poor who lives in a shabby cabin, has many needs and does not even have money to buy food; but in the cabin there is an old chest that belonged to a distant ancestor; the rumor is that this distant ancestor found gold and put it in the chest ... Perhaps it is true, perhaps not ... What is logical? ... 1-. Maybe the story is true, so it would make sense to look inside the chest; and all your concerns may be resolved. 2-. Perhaps, based on the fixed belief that his problems will continue, he believes that the story is not true; so it would make sense not to look inside the chest.

Obviously the first approach is logic ... When we have doubts, it is logical to give opportunity to the positive ... However, in practice this is not what many people do; They act illogically in relation to their doubts by not giving opportunity to the positive: They do not look inside the chest ... Healing begins with doubts, but doubts can also prevent us from real healing ... So give the logical consequence of those doubts a chance: Look inside the chest! ... It's okay to doubt it, but give the positive a chance, give Love a chance ... Give yourself a chance!

Translated: Jairo Rodríguez R.

Energy and Spiritual Consulting

http://www.jairorodriguezr.com/

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