Impermanence and suffering
It is true that impermanence is suffering, if we see it from the side for example of the loss of a loved one, we certainly wish it were permanent, that it did not have to die, that it was forever with us. If it is suffering.
When we remember our childhood or youth moments and we are experiencing old age, we certainly wish that those times would not have passed, but that they were permanent, but that is not what actually happens.
We have experienced again and again the loss of a loved one ... death, our old age and that of those around us, illness and loss of our work, and if they are suffering, it is true but if we are realistic if there was no change we would be frozen, without movement ... that does not happen.
The great news is that impermanence has another side that we do not value or take into account and that all situations are subject to change, suffering tends to change sooner or later to a state of happiness such as the birth of a child. So, the growth and achievement of our children, the maturity that allows us to travel and meet new people and places, the benefits of exercising our profession, are desirable but impermanent states as well.
The important thing here is to be aware that all things, mental and emotional states are subject to change, so when we experience a loss we can be sure that it will happen, everything changes, it is not Thus, when we experience enormous joys, we can focus all our energy to value and fully enjoy those moments because they can change, that is sure they increase or decrease, they simply change.
Resistance to change
Some teachers consider it as a characteristic of our existence and that the origin of suffering is actually resistance to change, when conceiving everything as permanent when it is not. Instantly things and situations change instantly.
The great lesson here is to be careful not to get depressed when things go wrong and not trust us more when they are going well, to value the states through which we travel in this life especially because they invite us to learn r, to be strong and better in joy and in adversity. Something like when an illness ceases and we say thanks that there is impermanence .o when we find the desired job after an arduous search and say “thanks to the impermanence”
Nothing is final or absolute everything changes and all we can do is be prepared physically, mentally and emotionally to live with intensity all the moments that occur in our lives, that is really living because change is part of our existence without more. . Change can be enjoyed and transformed into constructive experiences for our spiritual growth, it is the laboratory of reality.
they are significant experiences
So we value impermanence and change that allow us to make our life a full of meaningful experiences, in situations that are not favorable to us we can learn, when a loved one dies we can understand that we are also going to die and that we do not know how much We have time, we appreciate a difficult time to assess our present situation and the future we want, if someone has a great achievement we can also understand that it is best to value it, enjoy it all it gives.
We cannot control the situations we face but if we can work on having an alert and conscious mind of the change that takes advantage of every moment for inner enrichment, it is then that we are not subject to what happens to us, rather we are mentally and emotionally prepared to experience everything that life offers us ... it is not what happens to us if not with what mental attitude we decide to experience it ... and if everything will change.
AUTHOR: Pilar Vázquez, collaborator of the great family of the White Brotherhood