Table of contents hide 1 1. Maybe the people in your environment are not the best influences but you love them 2 Step 1: Recognize what that person makes you feel. 3 Step 2: Pay attention to how circumstances and people change when YOU change. 4 Step 3: If you still feel uncomfortable, consider giving space to the relationship. 5 2. And the family? 6 3. Where to find positive influence?
Of course, your environment influences your well-being. "Tell me who you're with ... and I'll tell you who you are, " says the saying. And don't believe that being old is far from reality.
To modernize it a bit we could repeat the words of celebrity coach Tony Robbins:
" You become those people ... with whom you spend your time."
It is a very strong and hard phrase too. Since it can lead us to look at our friends or family in an accusatory way or with a trace of reproach for feeling that they limit us.
It is an especially difficult concept to implement, how do we not let ourselves be influenced by these people who are in our environment?
There are three levels of concern around this issue:
1. Maybe the people around you are not the best influences but you love them
When you think of your friends or your coworkers, for example, try not to see everything as white or black. That is, don't say "this person is negative, I don't talk to him anymore!" Or "this friend has thoughts of scarcity towards money, out of my life!
You can't and shouldn't do it because just those people are the ones who can help you the most. They are showing where you have to grow, what you have to overcome.
They are all your teachers. If you are living that relationship it is because there is something you must learn.
The steps below will help you:
Step 1: Recognize what that person makes you feel.
If it makes you feel inappropriate, you are not at all convinced of your new ideas and thoughts, you are still not sure. He is showing it to you and it is the perfect opportunity for you to face fear, stress, anxiety.
After feeling uncomfortable in his presence, remember the situation again, and try to take away the emotional part.
Remeem it as many times as necessary, until you feel no emotions.
Step 2: Pay attention to how circumstances and people change when YOU change.
After you have revealed the problem in Step 1, you will notice that when you meet this person around you, things will have changed! It may not be obvious in principle, but you will feel another vibration between you.
You will see the situation with new eyes and the conversation may change the focus and may lead you along previously unimaginable paths.
Step 3: If you still feel uncomfortable, consider giving space to the relationship.
Do it from a place of clarity, peace, and compassion, not from fear "I have to run away from this person . "
He is teaching you something and if you do not learn the teaching, another person will appear who will show you the same lesson.
2. What about the family?
With our parents, siblings, spouses, children, the relationship is so close that the feelings are stronger.
The sadness, the anger, the fear, the betrayal you feel is a wonderful opportunity to heal. You can use the steps in point 1.
Set limits, make clear decisions about yourself and your energy. You are in charge of your life!
Clean the wound, hate, sadness. Then from forgiveness, compassion for clarity, make the decision to respect yourself first.
There are times that the people around us are simply too toxic and the healthiest thing is to move away until we are strong and be able to confront those teachers so complicated that life gave us.
3. Where to find positive influence?
Look for people who are on the path of spiritual growth or in the development of their gifts or abilities.
There are weekend retreats on almost any subject: yoga, cooking, art, spirituality.
Another thing you can do is try something different that catches your attention, for a day at least, a class or a workshop.
Get out of your comfort zone, expand your surroundings!
Turn your Smartphone into a source of positive energy, listen to the people you admire and learn from them. Maybe one day you know them.
“I started listening to Wayne Dyer, Caroine Myss, Louise There are already others on my iPod before they became my real, true friends and they can hug!”
Nick Ortner (bestselling writer The Tapping Solution)
Give books: Is it difficult to convince your friends of your new ideas? Approach them in a book.
Did you find these ideas useful? What do you think of the influence of the people around you?
DRAFTING: Carolina Cobelli, editor of the great White Brotherhood family
REFERENCES: Nick Ortner. (2017). Who you spend time with. 10/03/2017, from The Tapping Solution Website: www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/who-you-spend-time-with
