With a kind of "codes" that are located deep in your mind in the form of beliefs and all kinds of inhibitions that paralyze you.
Marianne Costa says that at one point in her life she wrote on a scroll paper: "I am a failure . " Then he signed it with a drop of his blood and buried it.
In that place he planted a beautiful flower and began to design his reality freed from that curse. (It is a psychomagic act, where we free ourselves from those codes we receive from our family) A contract is an agreement between two parties that commit to give something and receive something in return.
But not all contracts are on paper, they are not even verbalized, nor are they all on the level of consciousness. Moreover, as in the case of the name, there are contracts that we accept in unequal conditions because they are "sealed" in the earliest childhood: the child intuits that the breach implies not being loved, which means death.
Our most primitive brain dictates the order to obey when the threat is to be expelled from the clan.
These contracts can affect our four egos: Examples of intellectual contracts: Many of the beliefs we have are contracts that we have with our family tree, ideas that have been transmitted to us from our great-grandparents and that we cannot question. (We must get rid of any beliefs that are not beautiful and useful)
a) “You will be a lawyer, like the men who benefit from this family” (In trees where the artist is considered a starving man, who really does not know how to do anything)
b) “In this house we speak Christian” (Don't leave me wanting to study languages… you just have to speak one language: the mother tongue)
c) "You are clumsy like your mother" (A prophecy that acts as a curse that ends up being fulfilled)
d) "In life we should leave things the same as we have found them" (Signal that the tree has stagnated ...)
e) "A son must never surpass a father" (An absolute madness that connects with the failure neurosis)
Intellectual contracts are like the "irrational ideas" described by Albert Ellis, roots of our disturbed emotions and unjust behaviors.
The psychogenealogy connects with its famous and in many cases effective RET (Emotional Rational Therapy), in the sense that the family configures a scheme of toxic beliefs that we adopt for loyalty to it and that move in four fundamental axes:
* If you don't have what you need, you die. ("If my boyfriend leaves me, I die") Toxic inheritance is to confuse need with desire. If you don't have food, you die, but if you want your boyfriend and you don't have it, you're still living ...
* This is horrible ("It's horrible that I have to cancel my vacation") It is judged too much. There is nothing categorically bad or good. There are facts that cause us more or less pain. If we order the painful events from 0 to 10 and in 10 we put the death of a loved one, how will we value canceling a vacation?
* I can't stand it ("I can't stand loneliness") There are situations that kill, are unbearable. Believing that something is the limit between life and death makes us feel agonizing every time that happens. That leads to prefer a disaster of love relationship, loneliness is prohibited by the tree, because it is approaching death.
* If something bad happens is that there is a culprit and has to be convicted. The family teaches us to judge and find guilty parties in which to discharge responsibility for what happens, or to blame ourselves.
Events are not a confluence of factors, nothing has a single cause. If we feel guilty about something, the best medicine is a formula with three elements: acceptance, reparation and learning of what happened to avoid repeating the same mistake in the future. Examples of emotional contracts: They usually come in the form of emotional inhibitions. Very associated with children's levels of consciousness ...
a) “Do not grow up” (If he gets older one day he will abandon his parents. This order will keep him at an emotional age of 10 years for the rest of his life)
b) “Here we are from Madrid” (From the first month of life the child is a member of the club. When he grows up he has no alternative, if he does not like football or is not Real Madrid, he will be considered a traitor or a sick person)
c) "Don't be silly and don't make a girlfriend" (Stay with the mother ... she won't let you down)
d) The couple is for a lifetime (No one has ever divorced, in our family we are all very Catholic)
Emotional contracts bind us strongly to the past and foster relationships based on emotional dependence. Dissolving these contracts is finally opening the door to freedom to love with a higher level of consciousness.
Examples of libidinal contracts: Here are all creative and sexual inhibitions:
a) "Theater-painting-music are a waste of time" (It is like saying that you should not devote yourself to things that are not helpful ...)
b) “This relationship does not suit you” (We might ask ourselves: who does not really suit him?)
c) “You will marry at age 25 and at the age of 26 the only daughter will arrive” This could be an unconscious contract that is repeated from generation to generation. A project that the tree has for us.
d) "The woman who expresses sexual desire is a fulana" (If the woman's sex is only an instrument of procreation, she is forbidden to enjoy her libidinal energy and ultimately the creation and life).
Examples of material-bodily-economic contracts: Economic inhibitions. We need to find the elements that allow us to separate ourselves from violence, fear and guilt
a) You are identical to your grandfather (And with that one of the lineages takes possession of the son)
b) Do not touch the buttons that will break them s (When they do not let you touch anything it is because you have no space)
c) Money is sin (If they make us believe that money is dirty, it will generate us a lot of guilt to win it)
d) He who risks loses (Leaving the territory is an unforgivable disloyalty and we have an ancestral fear of not being admitted back to the clan).
All this urges to accommodate with a couple who no longer contributes anything, unsatisfactory work, a house that is not a home and also a city, a bank, a group of friends etc. Installed in a territory forever, because they have taught us that to risk is to lose everything, instead of urging us to follow our desires as a wise path of transformation. The contracts are fulfilled by loyalty, but also for fear of the consequences.
Let's say there is a fear of being punished, that these predictions (curses) are fulfilled : If you divorce, they will look at you badly If you become an artist, you will live in the poverty.
A psychological act to heal this type of fear of noncompliance with what the parents ordered would consist in metaphorically making the prediction, staging it in front of them. Alejandro Jodorowsky tells us in his 10 recipes to be happy,
There is no greater relief than beginning to be who we really are. Since childhood they impose on us other people's destinies.
It is convenient to remember that we are not in the world to realize our parents' dreams, but to realize ours.
Alejandro Jodorowsky
Source : http://memoriaemocional.com/
Invisible family faithfulness: Codes that prevent you from being what you are
