Table of contents hide 1 The action-reaction equilibrium 2 Forgiveness to our experiences 3 Interpretation error 4 Learning from forgiveness
“Forgiving is not easy, but fantasizing about revenge only prolongs resentment. You have to turn the page, not ask so many questions and think about the future. ”
Jenny Moix Queraltó
" To err is human, to forgive is divine, " says the saying. It will be because many times we fail to find that divine power of forgiveness. Sincere forgiveness, without any grudges.
The problem is that those things we don't forgive stay with us, they pollute us, waiting for their way to emerge. And the more pollutants we have inside, the more we deteriorate as well.
Carrying old resentments also makes us reluctant to relate deeply to other people. We believe that by hardening we become indestructible. We believe that the heart hardens when the reality is that the soul hardens, and the heart suffers .
Sincere forgiveness has the ability to free the heart of its suffering, and make our soul a more flexible element. It heals us, balances us and helps us open our eyes. Hence it is curious that it is believed that it is another person who benefits from our forgiveness, who has to earn it. We see non-forgiveness almost as an act of revenge, something that someone else will have to carry as punishment for their actions. This is a great misinterpretation about the act of forgiving .
I have talked in previous articles about how the interpretation we make of the things that happen are gradually structuring the reality in which we live. I bring you, then, a different interpretation of forgiveness, one that may offer you a lighter and more bearable reality, so that you have more options when choosing your perspective.
The action-reaction equilibrium
We forgive or not those actions that are performed by other people that directly or indirectly affect us in a negative way. Now, one of Newton's fundamental laws tells us that every action involves a reaction . Yes, it is a law of physics, but we can see that it applies quietly to everyday life.
The error in our interpretation has to do with our belief that we have the need to make this reaction visible. We must manifest it, so that it does not go unnoticed . Well, the reality is that with or without our participation, the reaction is unleashed in the same way. It does not depend on us. It is the well-known and popular Law of Karma
This acts as a superior force that maintains the balance between intention, action, and the result of it. And its real effect is not tangible, it cannot be seen with the naked eye. That is, it is not that the person who does evil will automatically receive a blow to the head . But he will bear the weight of his actions until he finds his own sense of forgiveness, and can free his own heart. This, ladies and gentlemen, is not an easy or fast process.
But, find your own forgiveness? What does a guilty person have to forgive?
Then we will return to the person who performs the action. For the moment let's see how we work .
Forgiveness to our experiences
If we structure the reality we live according to the experiences that are happening in our lives, it makes sense that those actions of another person that affect us become a determining part of our reality . Now, what happens to those things happen in luck?
Well, not all events occur as a reaction to the direct action of a person . The storm that knocked down a tree over your house, the stumble on the stairs, a work accident. While I understand that the limit between one thing and another is diffuse, life is composed of an endless succession of fortuitos events that occur without any apparent reason.
It is one of the great lessons of existence: one does not control what happens . Many things happen and now. Nobody is to blame, nobody is favored. In those cases, who do we blame? God? Life itself?
Blaming another is one more way to avoid carrying the weight of that event . And no one who avoids dealing with these situations can really learn from them. Don't avoid it, stop looking guilty. Life is not easy, and never was, people make mistakes.
Everyone carries the consequences of their own acts, no one is accountable for the acts of others. If someone else was wrong, who are you to judge it? Have you never been wrong?
No one taught us to live either, and everyone does what they can with what they have.
Interpretation Error
We believe that we should forgive people, but people are imperfect by nature . They will be wrong millions of times throughout their lives. And because they are sociable beings, they will affect at least one person in most cases. And you too.
Now let's change perspective .
The only thing we can account for is our own actions, because our field of action is ourselves. No one can force another to change. Therefore, remove the focus of the other person.
Life is complex, but we can make the most of it if we learn to forgive the things that happen to us.
Forgiveness is given to events, not to people, since you are also not who to determine who deserves what. Do not think guilty, because we are all victims of our own history.
Sorry to be born in a broken family, sorry to have had that accident, forgive what you have lost. Sorry your marriage is over, you have been scammed. And trust that no one is free from Karma . That each one will reap what he has sown, although you will never be able to see it, for the true ordeal goes inside .
That way you can take advantage to learn from those things what life has to show you. It will not be pleasant, but it has the potential to develop your personal growth, and your posture for life.
Learning from forgiveness
Learning from these things is that peace is achieved, because that way nothing happens without being taken advantage of by you. Everything has a meaning, but it will be in you to humbly accept it.
It will also happen that when you stop seeing people as guilty of your suffering and understand that they also carry the weight of their actions in tow, you will see that they are not so different in that aspect . You can also make mistakes, and making mistakes is a fundamental part of life . You are a victim of your own history, and you deserve your own forgiveness.
The word forgiveness finds its origin in Latin. It is composed of the prefix -per which means "the continuity of an action to the whole", and the word donare which means "give away". Forgiving would in any case be the act of giving continuously, that is, continuing to give. Give for free and abundant. And the new perspective: give yourself, completely and continuously to life .
I write these reflections because after a long process, I also managed to make peace with my life. With all those things that have happened to me since I have consciousness. And I can attest that there is nothing more reassuring than waking up in the morning and being at peace, trusting that what has to be will be and what not, no.
That is why I also want to invite you to sacrifice also the rigid and toxic posture. No one lives really calm if they do not offer sincere and real forgiveness . If you do not accept the conditions of living.
Surrender to life, let it in and through you. Let him make you what he should be.
And whatever you are, use it to serve .
AUTHOR: Lucas, editor of the great family of HermandadBlanca.org
SOURCES: http://etimologias.dechile.net/?perdo.n
