The Master Hilari n is of the line of fifth ray, reason why his teachings are of scientific type, in particular in the field of the psychology. It was St. Paul at the time of Jesus.
These messages were dictated between July 28, 1991 and March 22, 1992.
1. INTRODUCTION.
I would like to announce that I will take charge of a series of instructions, something that we consider important for the needs of today's world and that at the same time I will finish rounding up the series of knowledge that you have been receiving about psychology.
We have called the instruction “THE ECOLOGY OF MAN IN HUMAN RELATIONS” (1), that is, we seek to prepare an essay that seeks to demonstrate that the laws that man has been discovering and that govern the relationships of living beings with their surroundings, are the same laws that govern, psychologically speaking, the relationships that a human being has and its surroundings. We seek to establish a parallelism of correspondence between human relations and the ecological relations of living beings. (2)
The way in which this theme will be developed will vary depending on the concerns that we perceive in their minds; However, in broad strokes we can say that we will begin by giving a series of definitions that allow us to use ecological language in terms of human relationships, then we will seek to investigate the dynamics that are established within human ecosystems, speaking in psychological terms.
Subjects of study.
What happens when there are contamination? What are the self-cleaning processes that society has developed?
What are the defense mechanisms that each human being establishes psychologically, and how among them do a series of relationships similar to ecological ones arise?
We will also seek to identify the most important dangers within human psychological ecosystems, and we will observe the trends that society develops to achieve a harmonious balance.
We will characterize societies based on the type of relationships that exist between them. We will differentiate a small community of human beings, comparing it with the macro settlements that occur in the big cities of today, and we will observe how it is that human relationships are degrading as more and more diverse entities establish increasingly complicated relationships. How is cooperation becoming competition? How is it that the harmony of living is transformed into survival?
And finally, we will study what the steps to be taken should be, so that human beings manage to succeed their superior nature and transform the psychological jungles of large cities, into small ecosystems where the balance is easy to establish and can be increased the quality of life until reaching the heights that are had in the small human communities.
2. BALANCE BETWEEN THE SPECIES.
We said that human relationships follow principles that can be easily associated, to those that ecology has identified as regulators of relationships between living things and their environment. If we could study the earth, the entire planet earth, as a single ecosystem, we could make a couple of extremely important observations that give us an indication of where the evolution of the earth is heading as a living being.
Individual evolution.
In the first place, the ecosystem of the earth is formed by a large number of living beings of different species, who seek at the individual level, to evolve, to achieve a greater degree of satisfaction and quality of life, so that survival is one of the fundamental reasons that justify the changes of each of the species.
It should also be clear that each individual seeks to obtain the maximum satisfaction from the environment that surrounds him, so, all the changes that an individual or a community of individuals experience, seek to find and obtain the greatest amount of satisfiers for their needs private individuals
Balance between communities of living beings.
Now, in the second term, there is a balance between the different communities of individuals, and this balance is maintained above the particular interests of each of the species or small communities of living organisms, that is, the relationships established between Different communities have, in a way, their own existence and the balance will be established sooner or later between the different communities of living beings.
If this equilibrium demands to sacrifice some species, this will occur, if on the other hand, this equilibrium requires that a certain species be over-multiplied to make some cleaning or reach and restore a lost balance, this will be done, that is, the same nature will effect changes necessary to regain balance.
On the one hand, we have, then, the organisms that as their own entities seek to obtain the best of their environment, and on the other, as a law that exists independently of living organisms, the need to manifest a balance between all the communities of organisms from the earth.
Parallelism between the processes of nature and humans.
Let us now go to the human lands and try to make the same observations.
On an individual level, all human beings seek to obtain the greatest amount of satisfiers from the surrounding environment, and secondly, there is, beyond human will, a series of universal rules, a series of principles that regulate activities human, we call these the Divine Laws, or the Divine Will.
At a practical level, we will study the effects of these laws, as the subject develops, but we can say that as well as there are numerous species competing in the ecology of the planet to obtain a greater number of satisfiers, in the same way we can say that Within human society, there are a multitude of small communities of human beings competing to have the best of the environment in which they operate.
These small communities can be classified in many ways, call countries, call cities, call social classes, call political organizations or families, or unions, you can group them in hundreds of different ways and they all behave like a small community of individuals, seeking to obtain the maximum satisfaction of the environment in which they operate.
3. FREE WILL AND DIVINE LAWS.
Analyzing in a panoramic way the needs of human beings at psychological levels, we could observe two aspects, one individual and the other collective.
At the individual level, each person seeks to obtain the greatest number of satisfiers of the relationships they have with the rest of human beings.
At the collective level, we can talk that there is a natural inclination by divine law, to reach a state of harmonic equilibrium among all the members of an ecological community.
Divine laws generate balance.
Thus, since the divine laws regulate the behavior of all living beings, we must understand that everything that occurs within the ecosystem we are talking about, will always seek to establish the balance between its different members; This is important because it has the following implications:
In the natural state of things, nothing destroys itself, everything regulates itself, controls itself and seeks a state of harmonic balance between its parts.
The free will.
On the other hand, human free will that has so often been misinterpreted, we must understand it as a prerogative of man to be able to self-direct his actions, to a certain point that does not oblige the divine laws that seek balance between all members, to Act. When this occurs, it means that the human being has broken the balance by using his free will and nature begins to act accordingly to restore it, even this, despite the will of man.
We could say that the human being uses his free will without taking into account the implications of his behavior, this can be done to a point where he forces other higher laws to act and then he must seek a readjustment of his interests in favor of the community.
On a psychological level, human beings go through the same lessons, each individual seeks to exercise his will within the relationships he has with other people, often seeking selfish gain; this can be done until as long as his selfishness does not cause a violent response from the rest of the people, when this happens, it means that the balance has been broken and a force begins, a struggle of forces, where the collective necessarily prevails over The interests of an individual, in this case, the free will of this person must be subject to the will of society. From this we can also define, or we can conclude, a fundamental principle in human relationships.
Fundamental principle in human relationships.
“The liberties of a person must be exercised taking into account respect for the freedoms of others.
The behavior of a human being must be observed in function of the behaviors of his peers; human relations are a conglomerate of stimuli and responses, derived from the continuous friction that as individuals belonging to a society, each action on the part of someone causes a reaction on the part of others, and thus to infinity. In this continuous interaction, there are certain rules that must be observed.
4. FAMILY LIFE.
Do you know what an ecological niche is? It is actually a term used to identify a small community of living beings and the environment in which they move. Among human beings, the ecological niche par excellence is the family. Each family constitutes a small ecosystem to which it is possible to study systematically and understand the reasons for the behaviors followed by these members in the rest of society.
We have said that human relations are a conglomerate of stimuli and responses, continuously received and emanated by all living beings; With each impulse received from abroad, the person responds with another, his reactions are determined by a series of lessons learned that he has accumulated throughout his life.
The struggle of the human being to receive adequate recognition.
The way in which the personality of man is gestating as he reaches maturity has been widely explained, but from an ecological point of view, there is one aspect that must be taken into account: Tailor-made children that are growing, they are acquiring new needs that are often not identified by the parents since they continue to react with them as if they were still children, that is, each person responds to the stimuli of another many times not in itself by the stimulus he is receiving, but by the image that he keeps in his own mind of that person, that is, the image that each of the human beings projects on others, conditions the responses that these people give na your impulses.
A father may be responding to an eight-year-old child, when in reality the person in front of him is his seventeen-year-old son, the father will continue to see him as a child because it is the image he still holds of the. The young man before the needs he feels and the treatment he receives, reacts sharply, because his father has failed to identify the new needs he has now. In this way, the young man will seek to take a new role in family relationships, a role of greater importance, he will be fighting because his family recognizes him as an adult and does not treat him as a child.
The fight for survival.
This struggle that all human beings have to undertake as they grow within their family, also occurs in society.
Human beings are changing entities and their dynamics of change generate needs that they did not previously have, however, the human beings with whom they live continue to maintain an image of which often corresponds to a past that no longer exists; the person must then seek to build a new image within others and this often makes him react violently, or isolate himself, or any other type of protest reaction.
This search for new places, for new positions within the ecology of human beings, is what has been called the struggle for survival within the jungle of human relations . However, once the process has been understood through which communities react to an individual, it is possible to work through these projected images, to achieve higher levels of satisfaction. personal and social harmony.
Two ways of perceiving family life.
All this we will see as we develop our study, but returning to the family, it is also possible to observe that the parents who run a home, as time goes by, have greater needs for support from their children, without However, what children want above all things, is often independence, they have felt that their home was not a peaceful place of residence, but a place of oppression. Leaving the paternal house represents freedom for them, returning to it represents only returning to a life of oppression and limitations. At psychological levels, the adolescent associates his home with limitations, and associates the external life with the family, with freedom.
Later when the needs to create your own family develop in your home, your home will be associated with security, stability and rest, while the external world will be
associated with other factors necessary for the subsistence of your home.
Let's see then the different images that the family represents for the different members of her: For young people, oppression. For parents, safety and rest.
Many times for the mother it is also a symbol of oppression and continuous work, and while she seeks to go out and rest, the father seeks to arrive and rest.
Given these different perspectives, the house, the home, becomes a place where different interests come together and the different personalities that coexist in each other transform, an infinite number of stimuli and responses arise that will largely determine the harmony or disharmony of the people who form it.
5. THE ECONOMY OF CARICIAS: DONORS AND CONSUMERS.
In ecology, the relationships between certain animal communities and others have been studied and it has been observed, for example, that animals that serve as food for others, in turn, feed on others, and each of these communities plays a role that consciously ignores, but that at a global level it is possible to understand it, as a chain of events in which the concept of equilibrium floats intangibly. The number of individuals of each of the species regulates the number of individuals of those others that feed on them, and even the species they feed on, that is, the number of individuals of a species controls both to its predator as to its predators.
Thus, taking for example the community of a small lake, the number of frogs will depend on the number of insects that are available as food and the number of vipers that feed on these same frogs. This very small example of an ecological system is equally true for human beings, only in a somewhat more complicated way.
The caresses (3)
Human beings feed on others in relation to caresses, that is, those stimuli that are satisfying for individual needs.
We say that a stimulus is a caress, when the feeling left in the person is comforting.
Human beings roam the society in search of these caresses and at the same time, they are encouraged to give them as part of a need, however, there are people whose nature makes them donors par excellence of caresses, while there are others in which this capacity It is totally repressed; We say, then, that they are people who caress.
In a certain community where both types of people are in equilibrium, a harmonious coexistence will be established, however, if the balance is broken, the community will tend to restore it, that is, the number of donors will adjust to the number of consumers.
Balance between giving and receiving caresses.
This means at practical levels, the following: In all groups the number of people dedicated to caressing, is equal to the number of people in need of them, however, complexity is introduced when we understand that each person can at a certain time, be donor and consumer at the same time; both phases must be equally in balance and a person must know consciously when he passes from one state to another.
In groups where there are only consumers, the group will tend to disintegrate, also in those where there are only donors; However, the nature of man is such that when this happens, some of the people change polarity and become consumers or donors, as necessary for the survival of the group.
Turning to practical examples we could say that sometimes the bad mood prevailing in a meeting can make it quickly disintegrate, since at that time everyone has become a consumer and nobody is willing to donate anything.
In other cases where only people are giving compliments to each other, nobody feels the need to receive them and the talks become empty and meaningless, likewise the group will tend to disintegrate.
Let's take this now to other fields of human activity.
The caresses in labor relations.
In labor relations for example, where continuously and according to the roles that each one plays, bosses feel obliged to direct their employees; Normally a boss should alternate his donor and consumer states, closely monitoring the mood of his employees. Since this is not frequent, what usually happens is that the bosses are targeted by all the criticisms of their employees.
Just as living organisms have as one of their basic priorities to obtain the necessary food for their sustenance, so human beings seek to establish relationships that leave them caresses.
In closed communities where the number of individuals is necessarily maintained by the fact of being a family, a group of workers or an organization of some kind, human relations will be endowed with a higher quality if these members manage to maintain the balance between donors and consumers, if not, relationships will be degraded and quickly enter an inharmonious state.
Later we will talk about the great utility that can be had, when a person can easily, freely change from one state to another. I invite you to continue to deepen the issues of human relations, since it is a study that will bring great benefits to today's society.
6. THE VITAL SPACE, THE SOCIAL FIELD AND THE INTIMATE FIELD.
The search for caresses among human beings is an authentic search to satisfy a psychological need. In that search, human beings foster in their different relationships with their similar pleasant atmospheres, where smiles, compliments, and words, become bearers of caresses, however, in the face of that need to keep every human relationship in a harmonic status, there is another that also remains present in each person, I refer to the need to create a vital space.
Definition of living space.
The vital space is that psychological area and with physical, biological and mental repercussions, where the being moves, decides, and interacts with the world, is a jealously guarded space that gives the person the sense of freedom and property, his living space is practically a region where he can exercise total dominance and remain completely free.
This concept is transcendentally important to understand human relationships, for a very simple reason: the living space is also used as a refuge against any adverse circumstances that life presents to the person, it is a place where the being can be alone and feel protected of something that has bothered or damaged outside.
The vital space in a relationship between two people.
When a relationship between two people, the caresses are worked in a symbiotic way, that is, in perfect harmony, there will be an attraction; this attraction will lead them to get closer and closer in the levels of human relationships; there will come a time when their vital spaces interact, and when this happens, the defense mechanisms of each of them will become active and cause the first conflicts in their relationships.
We could say then that there will be a force of attraction between two people, as long as their relationship remains harmonious by virtue of the balance of caresses given and received, and this force of attraction will lead them to unite their lives more and more, to the point where their Vital spaces are touched, at that time, other forces that each person has and that have to do with the survival instinct will come into play, these forces are greater in intensity of the others.
If the relationship between them manages to be to such a harmonious degree that their vital spaces can merge without altering harmony, then their friendship, or their marriage, or their relationship, whatever it may be, will be lasting and will represent both of them, but It is very important to understand the different psychological fields in which the human being moves, the living space is an intermediate field at the psychological level.
The social field
The social field of an individual would be one that is determined by the interaction he maintains with the rest of the people in his society.
The intimate field.
There is a third field even more intimate than the vital space, it is the one in which the person faces himself in his most intimate conflicts; other people do not come into play there, it is the conflict of their personality with their spiritual essence, it is the conflict suffered by depressive people, for example, or people who are about to commit suicide; these conflicts are of another order and are generally stopped by that last field that the human being maintains in the most intimate part of his being, to this field we could call him the field of the psyche of the self.
Thus, speaking in psychological terms, the regions where man interacts with society, would be his social field . The region where man establishes a harmonic, functional and lasting relationship would be the `` vital space. '' And the field where man resolves his most intimate conflicts, would be the field of the i psyche of the I .
These terms that could vary depending on the approach we give them, determine three totally different regions from where the human being establishes his relations with the rest of the human beings, the first two have to do with the interaction n of the person with his peers, and the latter has to do with the interaction that personality has with his spiritual self.
Relationships of different groups with each other.
Now, let's understand this for the human masses: Every community can allow to maintain certain relations with another in a harmonic way, let's talk about tourism, for example, a relationship in which both communities benefit.
Then we would have to observe the phenomena of conquests and invasions from one village to another, in these cases the living space of a people is invading and the reactions will be strong and inevitably they will reach conflicts of lesser or greater degree.
However, when a people is trying to change their beliefs, their way of thinking, their way of life, there the people feel the agony very different from what an invaded people can feel, the people as a community Psychological begins to feel that he is dying and the reactions that may come from this are totally different from the previous ones, if it is not possible to bend to the invading enemy, each human being will look very hard inside him to instill in his children his beliefs, his way of life, so that his people and his race do not die, perhaps he will seek in exile the solution to his problems, but he will fight above all to prevent the idiosyncrasy of his people from dying.
Both at the level of the masses and at the level of the individual, these three psychological fields remain eternally present, but what are the needs of these three fields? Although in the social field the human being is looking for caresses, in the living space he is looking for a shelter of protection, what is what we could say about the psyche of the self? Your needs are different and we will talk about this in the following sessions.
I ask you to meditate deeply on these words, because we are entering regions that are first analyzed under the light of these concepts.
7. FIELD ENERGY. (4)
We said that the human being has three fields from where he establishes his relations with other human beings and with the same: The camp social where he interspersed with the rest of humanity. His "vital space" where he rests, feels free, is considered the owner and allows only a few people access. And finally what we call the field of the psyche of the I, which manifests itself particularly in states of deep crisis, where the human being faces himself and fights for his survival.
What are the needs of the three different fields, as it is that the human being employs them and under what circumstances these fields may be altered, constitutes a study of utmost importance for us.
Performance of the social field.
We could say that at the social field level, the human being acts through the formal and family education he has received, it is the field of conventions, it is the field where the rules of the governing society.
Function of the living space.
The living space on the other hand, is a psychological field where the most intimate needs and desires of being prevail, is a field where the rules of society do not work, is the field where only the voice of being speaks and already They have no influence neither their education, nor their parents, nor the people who directed their education, although it should be noted that this vital space during the stage of its construction, was definitely formed taking into account all the factors that he received during his psychological training. It can be said that narrow vital fields are typical of people with great self-confidence, high personal esteem; Wide vital fields are characteristic of fearful people and full of psychological pathologies.
Function of the intimate field of the psyche of the self.
Finally, in the field of the psyche of the self, the defense mechanisms that as an individual has received both by biological inheritance and spiritual inheritance definitely come into operation, it is the last barrier that falls before the total collapse of a human being, it is also the place from which it is possible to extract a large amount of energy to overcome an adverse life, when it is felt that everyone has collapsed, is that deposit from which it is possible to extract the forces that allow a human being to rise from the ashes, to dominate some vice and to recover the dignity, even when everyone seemed certain that he had been defeated.
Spiritually speaking, it is the point where contact is established with the Super Self, with the Beloved Presence, with that inexhaustible source of energy that constitutes the point of communion of the soul with God.
The field of the psyche of the self is the space where spiritual consciousness governs and we could say that although its strength is enormous, in more than 99 (ninety-nine) percent of people, that field remains totally hidden, even after of arduous psychological investigations; It is a point that has remained abandoned for many generations of human races, even though every human being possesses it, very few manage to establish contact with it. However, it is important to know about its existence, because it represents the explanation of those flashes of will, which sometimes seem miraculous in some people who were defeated.
The management of the fields implies the conscious control of the energies.
The management of these three fields would allow a human being to perform in his life portentous things, in fact, the management of the fields implies the conscious control of the energies that prevail in each of them, and at this point I am interested in introducing a new concept that I will call "field energy".
Definition of field energy.
The "energy of the field" represents the force with which a human being interacts with others, represents the ability it has to move between the different fields that each human being possesses, allows it dynamism and allows it to remain intact, even in the face of the onslaught of the different personalities of human beings.
Por ejemplo, el hecho de que algunas personas se vean fuertemente afectadas por las más mínimas discusiones, seria el caso en el que la persona posee poca energía en su campo social. Personas a las que les es posible interaccionar con otras muchas y sin embargo permanecer en armonía interior, permanecer estables, serian aquellas que poseen una fuerte energía en su campo social. Por otra parte, a nivel de espacio vital, el mantener poca energía en el espacio vital, implica que cualquier otro ser al que se le da acceso a este espacio, puede fácilmente dañar la integridad de la persona. Mantener una fuerte energía en el espacio vital, implica que las personas son capaces de superar cualquier desilusion sentimental, o cualquier daño que haya sido ocasionado por personas a quienes se les permitió el ingreso a este espacio vital.
Manifestación de los campos: social, vital e intimo.
Así pues, la energía en el campo social, se refleja en el dinamismo que manifiesta una persona en sus relaciones sociales.
La energía a nivel de espacio vital, representa la capacidad de regeneración, de armonía, que una persona manifiesta en este nivel.
Finalmente, la energía en el campo de la psiquis del yo, se manifestara por su presencia y por la importancia que tome en la vida de un individuo. Tener mucha energía en este nivel se manifestara en los otros campos como una fuerza de voluntad para dirigir su vida hacia donde su mente le indica. Poca energía en el campo de la psiquis del yo, implica que la persona no tendrá defensas en caso de una fuerte depresión, e incluso podrá llegar al suicidio, sin que estas defensas puedan entrar a funcionar.
8. LA CANTIDAD DE ENERGÍA DE CAMPO.
Origen y función de la energía de campo.
La energía de campo no es otra cosa que la energía recibida a través del interno del hombre, actuando a través desde las distintas plataformas psicológicas en que el hombre actúa y responde al mundo. Esta energía permite al ser humano controlar y modificar el medio ambiente en que se mueve, le permite controlar las situaciones en las que vive, y simbólicamente hablando, le da un lugar dentro de la sociedad humana. Poseer escasa energía de campo, es estar expuesto a que las condiciones lo dobleguen, controlen su vida, y tal vez, hasta la sociedad lo aparte de si misma.
Presión que ejerce la energía de campo.
Hablando en términos simbólicos, cada persona, por el hecho de mantener un cierto espacio vital y un cierto campo social, ejerce una presión sobre la atmósfera psíquica de los demás. Cuando una persona camina lo hace desde el centro de su campo social y de su espacio vital; cuando interacciona con otras, sus campos sociales se interceptan y la presión existe.
Si las personas son capaces de manejar estas presiones de una manera positiva, es posible establecer una relación sana; digamos, por ejemplo: si hay un exceso de temor, o una clara insuficiencia de autoconfianza, entonces la persona evitara cualquier roce social, se aislara en algún rincón de su casa y evitara salir, precisamente como un acto de defensa hacia estas presiones que ella siente de parte de las demás personas, hablamos entonces de un ser que carece de su energía de campo; es por lo tanto muy importante entender la forma, en como la energía de campo puede ser activada, rehabilitada y fortalecida en los seres humanos.
Efectos de la escasez de energía de campo.
Dado que estamos viendo desde un punto de vista ecológico a las relaciones humanas, podríamos establecer una analogía diciendo, que las personas que carecen de esa energía de campo, son aquellas que pueden convertirse en fácil presa de los depredadores, carecen de recursos de defensa y prefieren esconderse, a enfrentar las circunstancias de la vida cotidiana.
Así como es posible observar a una serie de animales en la naturaleza que se esconden de sus depredadores para no enfrentarlos y hacen de esto su técnica de sobrevivencia, así podríamos observar que en las sociedades humanas, aquellas personas que se esconden o que evitan el contacto social, son justamente las que carecen de medios de defenderse de lo que ellas consideran agresiones de parte del resto de los seres humanos.
Toda interacción entre personas es un intercambio de energía.
Toda transacción social o interacción entre personas, da origen a un intercambio de energías; cada palabra que se cruza no es otra cosa que un vaivén de energías, en donde ambas personas pueden verse enriquecidas, o bien, pueden verse ofendidas y dañadas.
El estudio de las relaciones humanas nos permite ver, que las personas que poseen un fuerte campo social, son personas que fácilmente interaccionan con el resto y pueden sacar ventaja de estas relaciones; igualmente pueden convertirse en depredadores de aquellas otras personas que poseen escasa energía en su campo social; si esto es así, la relación rápidamente podrá convertirse en un tipo de agresor y víctima, sin embargo, esto es el resultado de las diferencias en el contenido de energía de campo social.
Dado que esta energía no necesariamente corresponde a una evolución espiritual, sino simplemente a una combinación de experiencias y cultura que la persona acumulo a lo largo de su vida actual, es posible entender que las personas que triunfan en sus empresas o en sus relaciones personales, son aquellas que han aprendido a extraer de su interior la mayor cantidad de energía, para ser aprovechada en sus relaciones sociales.
Extraer energía del interno. La autoestima.
La clave para poder extraer ilimitadamente energía del interno, tiene que ver con las creencias básicas fundamentales que el individuo tiene de si mismo, la autoestima es un factor clave e importante para proveerse de una cantidad respetable de energía, por esta razón, dentro de las terapias psicológicas, es fundamental explorar las creencias que una persona tiene de si misma, tratar de restablecerlas y fortalecerlas, como un medio para revitalizar los campos sociales y el espacio vital del individuo.
La clave del éxito: disponer de la mayor cantidad posible de energía.
Siguiendo con el análisis de las energías de campo, podríamos observar que los seres humanos que han alcanzado el pináculo del éxito en sus distintas empresas, son aquellos que disponían de una mayor cantidad de energía, y si colocáramos, simbólicamente hablando, en una pirámide a las personas, de acuerdo al grado de éxito que hayan alcanzado, observaríamos que es la energía que poseen, el factor que distingue a las personas de la cúspide, de aquellas que se encuentran en la base, es decir, las relaciones humanas serán mejor entendidas, cuando se analice la cantidad de energía y las transacciones de esta energía, que se establece en todas las relaciones humanas.
9. LA INTERACCIÓN ENTRE INDIVIDUOS. LA CONDUCTA.
Decíamos que la energía de los campos es el factor determinante para el éxito de un individuo, si por éxito entendemos los beneficios que obtiene de su asociación con otras personas y derivados de la conducta que el sigue en la sociedad en que se desenvuelve.
De una manera muy sutil, cada ser humano imprime una cierta presión sobre el campo social de los individuos que le rodean; psicológicamente hablando, esa presi n que efect a sobre los campos sociales del resto de los individuos, se debe a su b squeda de caricias, a su b squeda de satisfactores personales, cada quien desea obtener el m ximo de una relaci n con otra persona, ya sea a trav s de caricias, ya sea a trav s de apoyos, o bien a trav s de m ltiples interacciones en donde el se afirma en sus valores personales.
Permanente interacci n entre los seres humanos.
As pues, la sociedad humana no es otra cosa que una continua y permanente interacci n entre individuos, que puede ser vista, o bien como intercambio de energ a, o bien como presiones que hace cada uno de los campos sociales en el resto; esto determina entonces un panorama totalmente diferente de las relaciones humanas, hablamos de una lucha por conseguir satisfactores personales, una lucha en b squeda de caricias.
La econom a de las caricias.
Cuando un ser humano aprende que el nivel mas alto de una relaci n se obtiene cuando el puede obtener caricias de otra persona ya su vez proporcionarle otras, cuando se ha alcanzado esa convicci ny capacidad para mantener la relaci n en un intercambio de caricias, sin menoscabo de nadie, decimos entonces que la relaci n ha alcanzado un nivel de simbiosis, ambos salen beneficiados y la relaci n puede continuar permanentemente.
El problema empieza cuando un ser humano que busca caricias no aprende a darlas, cada quien es bastante capaz para detectar sus propias necesidades, pero es bastante ingenuo para detectar las necesidades de las personas que lo rodean, y no solo eso, no son nicamente las caricias lo que el ser humano intercambia en las relaciones, est n tambi n las ofensas, una ofensa da a el campo social de la persona, lo contrae; cada vez que esto ocurre las personas corren, psicol gicamente hablando, a refugiarse en su espacio vital, se alejan del campo social en que se estaban moviendo, e inmediatamente construyen una muralla que impide el acercamiento nuevamente entre las dos personas.
El origen de las ofensas.
Las ofensas nacen de la incapacidad que tiene cada ser humano para comprender a los dem s en su permanente b squeda de caricias, las ofensas sirven nicamente, o bien para reclamar un derecho que no se tiene, o bien como un m todo para lograr alguna reacci n que en su pobre opini n pueda representar una caricia.
La conducta de un ser humano se deriva de una educaci n que fue asimilada a lo largo de muchos anos, esa educaci n consisti en asimilar una serie de herramientas y recursos psicol gicos, a fin de conseguir lo que se desea de las dem s personas; en ocasiones se usa la adulaci n, en otras la mentira, en otras la intriga, y en otras mas la fantas a.
La influencia de la autoestima.
Todos estos recursos el ser humano emplea magistralmente a fin de obtener un status mejor dentro de la sociedad en que se mueve, pero analizando lo mas interno de cada persona, es f cil observar que mientras mas baja autoestima posea determinado individuo, mayor ser su necesidad de barreras psicol gicas de defensa y de una conducta que impida al resto de los seres humanos, llegar a esos terrenos en donde el se considera indefenso.
Muchas veces la agresi n no es otra cosa que un mecanismo de defensa para evitar el contacto intimo entre dos personas, ambas se sienten temerosas e indefensas en sus espacios vitales y logran a trav s de una conducta agresiva, alejar a quienes consideran intrusos; todo esto nace de una muy pobre apreciaci n de si mismo, todo esto nace de tener una escasa energ a en su espacio vital, las creencias que fueron sembradas en su primera infancia son tan d biles, que lejos de provocar el fortalecimiento interior, han provocado una anemia psicol gica en donde se carece de los valores necesarios que constituyen el puente entre el espacio vital y ese centro ilimitado de energía que hemos llamado el campo de la psiquis del yo.
Las creencias positivas: conductos de energía.
Cada valor interior, cada creencia positiva que un ser humano ha fabricado en su interno, representa un conducto de energía que le permite extraer la vitalidad y la voluntad necesaria para seguir caminando dentro del campo social; mientras mas francos, abiertos y amplios sean estos conductos energéticos, la persona se mantendrá mas firme y sus pasos irán decididamente hacia el éxito de todas sus empresas.
La fabricación de estas creencias fundamentales en las psiquis de todos los individuos, debe ser uno de los requisitos básicos en las terapias de tratamiento psicológico.
Una persona incapaz de mantener una sana relación con otra persona, deberá buscar sus raíces en sus creencias fundamentales y deberá analizar si lo que realmente esta evitando, es llegar a un contacto intimo con la otra persona.
EDITOR'S NOTES
1. Tomado del texto: Ecología del hombre en las relaciones humanas. Mensajes del Maestro Hilarión. Comunicación Cósmica.
2. La Ecología profunda empezó a ser difundida en el año 1973 por el filósofo noruego Arne Naess .
3. La Economía de caricias fue planteada por Eric Berne hacia 1960 en el libro Juegos en que participamos y se utiliza como terapia en el Análisis Transaccional.
4.La Teoría del campo es una propuesta del psicólogo Kurt Lewin en 1939.
