Table of contents hide 1 How to handle the feeling of anger? 2 How can we do to prevent the feeling of anger from taking over our person? Is there any way to control those unwanted impulses but which are stronger than one? 3 5 Steps that will help you manage your feeling of anger. 4 Ask yourself: How did I do it? Did things go as expected?
How to handle the feeling of anger?
We are calm, enjoying an incredible moment, without any worry in our heads, just living in the moment. Suddenly something happens that changes our feelings from one second to another, an unforeseen event, something that we never thought could happen and a feeling of anger invades us.
The feeling of anger takes hold of our way of thinking, of our way of acting, of our emotions, in just one second, radically changing the way we see and perceive our wonderful day .
How can we do to prevent the feeling of anger from taking over our person? Is there any way to control those unwanted impulses but which are stronger than one?
Of course, there is nothing we cannot do to manage our emotions. Here we are going to leave some tips that will be very useful to cope with the feeling of anger .
5 Steps that will help you manage your feeling of anger.
1) Identify the problem (self-awareness). Start by observing what makes you angry and why. Put into words what makes you alter so that you can act instead of reacting. It surely seems difficult but it is not impossible. Once they put it into practice it becomes a habit.
Ask yourself: What makes me angry? What do I feel and why? You can do this mentally or out loud, but you must be clear and specific. Think well of the anger that took hold of you, think why, and you will see that identifying it will be much easier to solve.
2) Think of possible solutions before responding (self-control). This is where you stop for a minute to give yourself time to control your anger . It is also where you start to think about how you could react, but without reacting yet. It is important not to react automatically, or by impulse.
3) Consider the consequences of each solution (think hard) . This is where you think about what is the likely outcome of each of the different reactions you raised. Imagine the whole picture what would happen if you did what anger would make you do.
Ask yourself: What will happen for each of these options?
4) Make a decision (choose one of the options). This is where you act by choosing one of the three things you could do. Look at the list and choose the option that is probably the most effective.
Once you choose your solution, it is time to act.
5) Check your progress. After you have acted and the situation is over, take some time to think about how it was.
Ask yourself: How did I do it? Did things go as expected?
In case it was not so, why not? Am I satisfied with the choice I made? Taking some time to reflect on how things worked after everything ended is a very important step. It helps you learn about yourself and allows you to evaluate which method of problem solving works best in different situations.
I hope you have found these tips useful, and try to apply them every time they happen. Without a doubt, being able to control our emotions and manage our feelings of anger will make us feel better people and make us more calm with ourselves and with the rest of the world.
SOURCE: http://kidshealth.org/es/teens/deal-with-anger
