How to live well with yourself

  • 2015

In my opinion, and especially those who are in a Personal Development Process, we are demanding too much and even a little uncompromising with ourselves.

We demand a perfection that we do not have, to which, at the moment, we cannot do anything other than aspire to it.

We have not reached it, and perhaps and this is really no reason to despair - we will never arrive.

We all have an unavoidable hindicap, which although it is not paralyzing, it is a rather difficult obstacle. In addition, we cannot get rid of it and accompany us for the rest of our life.

Ladies and gentlemen ... We are human!

And this, which is not a matter that depends on us but is a condition of birth, will cause us throughout life to be severe with ourselves - too often - we will be implacable judges - and very often unfair -, and a dissatisfaction will accompany us until the glorious day when we realize that she is an ungrateful companion whose company seriously harms us.

This will happen as we accept with comprehensive resignation all the things that happen to us - and how inevitable some of them are -, that we know how sometimes we have to do and how in others it is better not to do, that we understand without pain or trauma that everything will not always go to our liking, that some suffering experiences are essential for our Personal Development, that we have tolerance for frustration, that we admit that in life we ​​do not always understand everything that happens to us ... in short, that we do not make life a constant struggle but also a continuous surrender.

To discover is to evolve, although - and this is difficult to explain so you have to feel it without definitions - Growth is inward and deep.

It will never be about being more, but about being less.

Never grandiloquence and strutting, but simplification.

Simplicity is the greatest.

Being simple must be the maximum aspiration and the most that can be achieved.

And as long as you reach that state ...

Do you live well with yourself?

Do you accept yourself at all?

Do you forgive easily?

Do you admit your limitations?

Do you love yourself despite everything?

Or ... on the contrary ...

Do you have war declared?

Do you constantly blame yourself?

Do you avoid looking in the mirrors?

Do you reproach yourself and still face things from the past?

Do you think of yourself with negative thoughts?

If there are three or more affirmative answers in the first batch of questions ... Congratulations! Congratulations! You do know! In my opinion, your attitude is appropriate. And who does not understand this, who knows that it is with love that things are resolved, that bad faces and tricks do nothing but aggravate the relationship and turn coexistence into a bitter, undesirable pairing, and who does not love himself He is able to find reasons to work for himself in his improvement.

If there are three or more affirmative answers in the second batch of questions ... well, I'm sorry for you. You have to be having a hard time. And one caveat: don't blame others, fate, or anything. Assume that your attitude is boycotting rather than collaborative. Open your eyes and clarify your way of looking at things, get up that punishment that you have imposed on being enraged with yourself and the world, get rid of your self-talk and help yourself escape from that negative attitude in which you may be falling.

You have you

This phrase so seemingly mild, that seems made of sweet and flowers, of a cloying esoterism, is the luckiest truth. Fortunately you have yourself.

Because it's you who has been by your side in the years you've lived. With more or less fortune, in good times and in bad times, in spite of what you have had to live, who has not separated from you for a moment is yourself. This so obvious, but so authentic, is already a good reason for a reconciliation with you.

And in the years ahead, only you will be with you at every moment. You should get along with yourself. You are interested in being on your side .

Because there is something even more obvious - that because it is so obvious sometimes it is not seen - and it is you who will enjoy or suffer the relationship with yourself.

If you are in favor of you, you will get many good things that in the opposite case you will never achieve. If you fight at your side to optimize your relationship, hand in hand, side by side, you will be doing the right thing.

On the other hand ... What do you gain from getting along with yourself? Are you a masochist? Are you so dumb that you don't realize the damage you do to yourself?

If you do not live well with yourself, feel what you are going to read. Don't think it, feel it. Feel it.

Love ... love ... love you ...

Do you find it impossible?

Do you think it is undeserved?

You don't know how to love yourself?

But ... at least ... Would you like to be able to love yourself?

Love you completely. Unconditionally.

Do you think you could start a reconciliation?

Could you give up that unnecessary negativity?

Be an adult, be mature, be an integral person and recognize that a bad relationship with yourself is a waste of time and energy, and an obstacle to successfully achieving the meaning of your life: Living. And live in peace and harmony with yourself.

And how to live well with you? Well, with love, patience, understanding, acceptance, once again love, companionship, good will, again love, good judgment, discernment, justice, more love, hugs, care, pampering, affection, caresses, tenderness ... and love. In spite of your past, everything you have to reproach or repent, love.

And if you are one of those who live well with you, at least for most of the time, you already have enough progress on the Camino. You just need to fix small details, give it a little more understanding and acceptance of life and self-coexistence and enjoy what you have left to live.

I leave you with your reflections

Francisco de Sales is the creator of the web www.buscandome.es oriented to the Development and Personal and Spiritual Growth of people interested in improving their lives.

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