Closing Circles ~ Paulo Coelho
It is always necessary to know when a stage of life ends. If you insist on staying in it, beyond the necessary time, you lose the joy and sense of the rest. Closing doors, closing chapters, whatever you want to call it. The important thing is to close them. The important thing is to let go of life moments that are closing. Did you finish your work? Relationship is over? Do you no longer live in that house? Should you go on a trip? Is the friendship over? You can spend a lot of time in your present "wallowing" in the whys, in returning the cassette and trying to understand why this or that happened.
The wear is going to be infinite because in life, you, I, your friend, your children, we are all bound to close chapters. To pass the sheet. At the end of stages or moments of life and move on.
We can not be in the present longing for the past. Not even wondering why. What happened, happened. And you have to let go, you have to let go. We cannot be eternal children, nor late adolescents, nor employees of non-existent companies, nor have links with anyone who does not want to be linked to us. No. The facts happen and you have to let them go!
That's why sometimes it is so important to break photos, burn letters, destroy memories, give presents, change houses, papers to be broken, documents to be thrown away, books to sell or give away. External changes can symbolize internal processes of improvement. Let go, let go, let go. In life nobody plays with the marked cards and you have to learn to lose and win. You have to let go, you have to pass the sheet, you have to live only what we have in the present. The past is gone. Do not expect to be returned, do not expect to be recognized, do not expect to ever realize who you are. Release.
Resentment, turning on your personal "TV" to give and give the matter, all you get is to mentally damage, poison, bitter. Life is forward, never backward. Because if you go through life leaving “open doors”, just in case, you can never let go or live today with satisfaction. Dating or friendships that do not close, possibilities of "returning" (to what?), Need for clarification, words that were not said, silences that invaded. If you are ready to face them and now, do it! If not, let it go, close chapters. Tell yourself no, it doesn't come back. But not because of pride or pride but because you no longer fit there, in that place, in that heart, in that room, in that house, on that desk, in that trade, you are no longer the same as you left, do Two days, three months ago, a year ago, therefore, there is nothing to return to.
Close the door, skip the page, close the circle. Neither you will be the same nor the environment to which you return will be the same, because in life nothing stays still nothing is static. It is mental health, love for yourself to detach what is no longer in your life.
Remember that nothing and nobody is indispensable . Neither a person, nor a place, nor a job, nothing is vital to live because when you came to this world you arrived without that adhesive, therefore it is customary to live attached to it and it is a personal job to learn to live without it, without the human or physical adhesive that hurts today to let go.
It is a process of learning to detach and humanly it can be achieved because, I repeat, nothing and nobody is indispensable to us . It's just habit, addiction, necessity. But ... close, close, clean, pull, oxygenate, detach, shake, release ...
There are so many words to mean mental health and whichever you choose, it will definitely help you to move forward calmly. That's life!!
Closing Circles ~ Paulo Coelho