6 tips to avoid raising a Tyrant Child

  • 2015

The tyrant child or emperor syndrome, is nothing more than an alteration of the child's behavior that has its beginning in the home, when the boy challenges the mother and father and then does it with other people no matter who they are.

This disorder is characterized by a sense of authority that the child has towards other people. This usually occurs when excessive privileges are given to the child without any condition, so when the child does not get what he wants and when he wants it he tends to be intensely angry then generating verbal aggressions and even in more extreme cases of physical abuse .

Some characteristics of the tyrant child

There are some characteristics that make a boy present the disorder of the tyrant child, among the most significant is to have full conviction that he must have absolutely everything they want and that the people around him are his servants .

These kids get frustrated easily with boredom, disappointment and by negotiating what they want, they can't solve their problems or face negative experiences, they believe they own the world, justify their behavior by blaming others, they always expect others to solve their problems. They do not accept that their attitude affects others and is annoying, they do not put themselves in the place of others.

They are demanding and when they get what they want, they show dissatisfaction and ask for other things or privileges again . They do not follow the rules and do not usually feel remorse, discuss the parents' orders and punishments and consider them bad and unfair. They take advantage of the guilt of parents and by allowing him what he wants they continue to demand more.

They demand attention and the more they are given, the more they claim, they are insatiable . They find it difficult to adapt in school, because they do not respond to the social structures that establish them, they do not respect authority. They often feel angry, sad, anxious and have low self-esteem .

Undoubtedly, the permissive and super-protective parents who give in to the whims of their children believe that they do not suffer that way.

6 Some tips for parents to avoid raising a tyrant child

  1. Everything must be in a balance: Parents usually act in two different ways in front of the child. On the one hand there are parents who never communicate with their children and what they know about them is from a third party such as the couple, siblings or friends; and on the other hand, there are parents who think it is better to leave everything in charge of feelings and emotions . Parents should know that it is not good to be at either end, there must be a balance between both sides and know when to apply each.
  1. Family values: What parents must first define are family values . The values ​​to be sought should not necessarily be religious, unless it is an important practice in the family. The values ​​must be related to the family and have some meaning such as responsibility, respect, honesty. Parents should know what kind of parents they will be and how they will raise their children .
  1. Children are a reflection of their parents: The main role model of children is their parents, so what they do will be a reflection of what mom and dad often do. Children should perceive that parents treat them with respect and so they will respect their parents. This is a way to get what one wants from children, setting the example .


  1. You must have time to raise: The time you dedicate to your children is very important, this is the time you have to raise and teach and give them everything you want, this time you must use it to raise them, give them love, affection for educate them, listen to them, learn from them, give them advice, share moments.
  1. Increase your children's expectations: Parenting is something that is done with time, dedication and education, this is not something that children will learn from one day to the next. The lack of expectations you have about your child makes them frustrated, you expect them to know everything because they are great or they should already know. Everything comes in due course, so you must be patient .
  1. Promises must be fulfilled: Parents must demonstrate that they are consistent between words and actions. It is common for parents to make promises that they know they will not keep, but at that time promising achieves their goal that is to calm the child . The ideal is to keep the promises, to avoid confusion of the boy. Similarly when parents make a challenge, this challenge must be met so that the children do not think that the challenges are never real.

Editor: JoT333

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